Hello! I have the following problem ... I like one person. It all started so that he initially showed interest in me, gave me some signals and I began to wonder if it would work out between us. In the end, I decided that we fit together quite well and we would really have a future together. The problem, however, is that it gives me very strange signals. He comes to me and wants to talk, he looks me in the eye, I see that he is worried, but he is looking for contact when he is around, I notice that he is looking at me, at the same time he has never hinted to see me or written to me. in social networks, etc. Usually our meetings are random and for a short time, enough to exchange a few sentences. I even have to admit that I've quite consciously gone to places where I know it will be, just to see you, but I feel like it's starting to get pretty obvious, and I have some dignity after all .. My question is the following, given that I have taken a lot more steps to have communication between us at all, I'm already worried and I would not invite him directly, if I imagine he just is he kind or maybe he is too shy? Most likely, women will understand me that we just always feel when there is sympathy for us and something more than a friendly attitude, but what can I do more?
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There is nothing more to do. You've done enough. Wait a while to see if he will look for a way to meet you or contact you, if he doesn't, move on. Everything else from here on will take you in a direction that you believe does not lead to anything good. I speak from experience.
You can do much more!
I had such a situation, but it was with a colleague. I was convinced he liked me; I was convinced that at times he wanted us to be intimate at the right time; I was convinced that I was too "close to his heart". To give him a chance to do something, I went for walks in his neighborhood. We ran into each other several times, but nothing happened. Eventually I gave up because I ran out of trump cards. They were statements that I was alone; it was a visible particular attitude towards him in the office; they were overlaps for him and many other things. But he does not react. At one point, I fell in love with someone else and that's how it ended. He married, they have a child. One day I will ask him if he liked me, but his time has not yet come.
If he likes you, you will know. If in doubt, then something is wrong. Either he doesn't like you enough to take a step, or he doesn't like you at all. You stand and think, you worry and nothing else. Invite him for coffee and see what happens. Take this step and be your last. If after that he doesn't start inviting you to meetings, regardless of cafes, restaurants or walks in the park, then he obviously doesn't like you enough. You can go all the way to it on your own, but I don't think it's your job to win it. Either he wants and comes alone, or he lacks something and prefers to wait for you. Do not complicate the simple situation. Have you seen men in love and attracted? They can't last, they can't stand meekly next to you. He may be very anxious, but he will still show it and try to show it in his own way. And in this case,
Fear of rejection. I wasted my life on that. For 15-16 years I sighed for one woman and my "substitute" relationships did not last long.
What kind of animal is this woman ... One wonders and wonders, the other was sure - she was making hints. Write to the person on a network and tell him that you want to see each other. It's so simple. Brother.
The situation is strange, there are boys who are very shy and low self-esteem and do not dare to take the first step at all. You can write to him if he wants to drink coffee, so you will quickly find out if he has sympathy for you or not. But I don't think you'll see anything good from such an insecure man. The other option is just to be kind, to pay attention to you because you caught his eye, but that's it.
I may not quote exactly, but I had read the following somewhere: "There are ten steps between two people. If you have made your five and there is no one opposite, turn around and leave." I think that is the end of the matter.
I suggest you stop waiting and act. If you wait do you know what will happen? One big nothing!