Hello! I will leave my story here, and you can tear me up, calm me down, etc. in the comments below. I have been married recently, we still don't have a child. It happens very often to think about the ex, with whom we have not heard or seen for years. No contact with him, but it happens as everything is fine man, family and bam some thoughts about the ex. We didn't have a normal relationship, I call him an ex because there was love on both sides. Our relationship lasted 5 years. We saw each other only for sex, but for 5 years there can be no feelings. I didn't feel when the great love happened, but due to many complexes and insecurity on my part, I didn't admit my feelings to him ... He was looking for me a lot, not only for sex, he wanted to go out with his friends, etc. But thoughts like I'm not good and beautiful for him did not give me peace. That's how I stayed away. During these 5 years we have hurt each other, driven, but also loved in some way. I was madly in love with him. The relationship ended badly. I realized that he has a new girlfriend (understandably, he will not wait another 10 years for me). Although he was with her, he had written to me shortly before we quarreled ... And suddenly his girlfriend started writing to me and blocked me from everywhere. Nothing since then. I can't describe how hard it was for me. I came across pills, panic attacks, and so on. After a while, I met my current husband. I dare say that we are happy, we have the problems of every married couple, but I can't explain why my ex is in my head. To avoid reproaches that I am married, and I think of another, I repeat that I have no contact with my ex, I do not want to have because it is not fair to my husband. I'm trying to fend off thoughts of him, but alas ..
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Now, we are human and we are not perfect. But that sucks, it's just disgusting!
There was a passion, it is normal to think about the former. The first is always better than the second;)
A man who writes to his ex while he has a girlfriend is a very lowly being.
This is because you are not honest with yourself, if you were, your life would not be like that now
You cannot build a future without leaving the past behind. There is something missing in your marriage, if you are not happy with your husband, divorce before you have children. Don't leave things hanging.
The law of conservation of energy is called. And he thinks of you
What if a syndrome garnished with a few breakthroughs in your ego, from the fact that he chose another. Brother.
Well it happens, it will pass. Initiate more good moments with your husband and soon you will not remember your ex. Go on vacation, organize romantic dinners for him, go to the movies, cafes, restaurants and so on.
Well, think about it, I don't see anything wrong! Why is this torturing you? We all happen to remember an old friend or colleague we haven't seen in a long time. And I often think about my ex-husband because I heard that he has serious health problems. We haven't had any contact in years, but if he turns to me for help, I will help him, of course, like any other person. Even my second husband would be happy to help him. He already claims that he will be grateful to the grave for "missing" me. I want to say that thinking about someone is not infidelity, just as it is not infidelity to say goodbye to him on the street and exchange some stories. But because you have remorse and seek advice, I will give it to you. At one point, she said to her husband, "Abe, do you know I've been thinking of Edicaisy more and more lately?
Well, it's very simple, you haven't experienced it. Now you are with someone else and the fact that you are no longer free makes you go back to the one you really want to be with. I understand you, and I experienced an unfulfilled love, I'm still trying to shake myself. But another relationship is not working for me yet, on the one hand I have not met anyone, on the other hand I do not want to be in your situation - physically with one, in my thoughts with another.
Author, It's just that your ex sexually marked you. Having sex with him was better than having sex with your current husband, and the ex is probably more attractive. Control your hypergamous female instincts and strive to reach spiritual awareness. So the superficial will not be a major factor in looking like you. Greetings to Bratan, keep showing them MGTOW, Red pill truths to fellow forum members, no one can escape the truth. PS: Author, in your life, there will always be a man who has marked you emotionally and in 90% of cases, there will be another sexually. He fights against his whore nature, constantly wanting better and everything! You're already, you've chosen a man ... focus on him. Keep going. There is no man on this planet who, after years of a relationship with a woman, especially if he is the mother of his child, can think of an ex. The difference? That almost all men are designed to focus more on the positive qualities of their partner, from the very beginning, while women count the shortcomings, making it harder to choose. If a woman falls in love more than 3-4 times, she is not able to love, in the same way after that. You operate on the principle: "It was best with him, he was the best"; "But it did not work... ". For us men, our exes are always nastier than our current girlfriends / wives. And this is because we do not think with our feelings, which for you, if they are strong enough, remain in time. .. We think with our mind, and our opinion changes, which is often more lasting than yours. In short: The author remembers an alpha, probably her attractive ex, who dug into her intestines and strangled her. And now she has a beta dad who doesn't satisfy her sexually in the same way.
Calm down, don't try to forget it, more precisely, don't force yourself, but don't reach out. I guess there is something in your new relationship that worries you - try to understand what it is and deal with it, and leave the rest to time!
Thank you for the answers! First, I have long since overcome my whore nature. This is not about sex. To be handsome, and he himself was more beautiful than my current husband. It doesn't matter to me. I don't miss sex with him, but maybe a conversation. Let's sit down and talk about all sorts of topics. Come to think of it, maybe it's not so much that she's with someone else that we quarrel with each other. I'm the type of person who doesn't like to have quarrels, quarrels and aggression. I love it, no question. I don't think you can hate someone you love with all your heart so much. Or it hasn't happened to me before. I have no intention of writing to him or looking for him. And I'm kind of glad he's not looking for me either. This speaks volumes for me when someone is in a relationship about whether they are looking for separate outings. We have a lot of anger in marriage, but we try to solve it. We'll see what it turns out in the end. I don't believe that when I think, he thinks of me. And for me, being married and thinking about someone else is a lot of infidelity. My current husband loves me very much, but he exhausts me with negativity, rivalry, pedantry. As it is called, I did it that way. I just wanted to share. Thank you all!
Brother, what is this what if syndrome? Can you tell me a little more?
I just want to praise Uncle Bratan for his nice comments on each topic. It's inspiring! And how you follow them, I do not know! You are great! Black Sabbath
14th, you can safely tell BeGe "what if ..." a syndrome that occurs extremely often in individuals who do not have the ability to make definite decisions. Black Saturday, I'm 32 years old, looking 26, behaving like a 20-year-old, and smart like a 15-year-old. My uncle told me I think only once, and the poop that called me that in front of his child probably has serious ophthalmic problems. Otherwise mersezh, I would say that I try, but I don't ...: D
16 (Brother), this is not my comment from me - the real Black Sabbath, which has been struggling here for years and with which all conflicts have arisen, but a comment from a troll posing as me, who is madly in love with you. The truth is that I do not agree with all your comments, but I do not enter into debates with you because everyone has an opinion. Black Sabbath (but the real one)