Hi, the truth is I don't know what to do. I had decided that I would work on a ship as an electrician. The month before I got on, I met a new girl. We started going out, things quickly got serious. I delayed the upload until the 4th month. The fact that I didn't like it on board. I wanted to spend every particle with her, and maybe that's why I went down earlier. I have a sales profession and considerable experience and I decided that would be it. After I came down she started to withdraw from me. We are 9 years apart, her parents are religious and they still don't know about our relationship. She worries that I'm serious about our relationship and that she may be wasting my time because we want the same thing right now, but she doesn't know in 3-4 years if I will want a family, children and so on. I also explained that there is nothing certain in this world, it is heard in my words, but he is extremely distant from me. Our communication has decreased, we see each other once a week ... we hardly write or talk to each other. At first I tried to keep her at least as normal as I could, but ... as if her defensive reaction was too strong. She is afraid of her parents also because they will not approve, and she does not want to quarrel with them. And here comes my case. Should I sit on my ass and work in Bulgaria, raising her not because she is my motivation or to return to the plan with the ships. I will not be happy there either, but at least I will be financially independent and stable. As for her, we had agreed to tell them and in reality from that moment on she started to stay away from me. It felt like I was giving an ultimatum to either me or them. But she admitted to herself that she was tired of lying to them, but she was afraid of them and did not want to quarrel .... generally. I am extremely nervous now, I have been taking it on pills for 3 weeks, I hardly sleep or eat. head, no thoughts on it. I don't know what to do ... suicidal thoughts appear. That it would be better for me to end everything simply. For now, I manage to drive them out of my head because of the guilt I will leave to my loved ones. But to look like an accident is starting to seduce me. As I was driving yesterday and I wanted to step on the pedal and get stuck in the guardrail .. It cost me a lot of effort not to do it. Last night I was awake until 4 with the thought of going out on the highway today, with 200 and in a pole. I do not believe that I will survive ... I know that the decision is mine alone and that I will live with the consequences. But I wanted to share. The mental pain began to manifest itself as physical. I can't share this with anyone close ... I'm talking about these suicidal thoughts. Two of my friends seem to have smelled that things are rotten ... and they call me periodically and check if I'm not at the place of suicide. I'm afraid that whatever decision I make may be wrong. And I just want to be happy ..
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Brother, are you okay, are you young and no matter how much you love her, it's not just her. Sounds nasty because you love her, but look man sometimes we have to let the bird go to be good, to be happy I did so a week ago with my girlfriend although the story is different, she wanted me not to leave her, me too, but I gathered strength and did it because I know we have no future (he is from another ethnic group). Yes, it is very difficult, but life goes on
Go to a psychiatrist. That's how my husband heals. You're still fine!
Hi, I'm sorry about the situation you're in. First you have to slow things down, remember - whenever things start to get too hot, too fast and go to some bad end, you have to stop, distance yourself and analyze the situation objectively. Just get away from this whole scenario you're in. First of all, rest and fall asleep, lack of sleep leads to very severe depression, when you fall asleep you will feel much better.
And if you kill yourself, what will you gain ?? !! Death will not escape you and this is the safest thing in life! Therefore, it is completely pointless to cause yourself something that will happen to you anyway! And because of a love story !!! You are neither seriously and unbearably ill, nor is there only one woman left in the world!
It sounds to me like the chick has a bunch of problems, not you! He actually does you a favor by distancing himself - what is your wife for, who doesn't even have the courage to introduce you to her parents and as far as I understand she directly tells you that she has no intention of a serious commitment. And what is your partner for, who will be so influenced by his parents and let them confuse you? Maybe you idealized her because she was far away, and you didn't feel well on the ship - you hurried to show serious feelings and that you became attached and the result is there - she runs away with 200 of you :) You don't need such a woman :) My advice is to stop looking for her - have a little self-esteem. Get back on the ship in a few months and focus on work so you don't think - or look for a new job here if the ships aren't for you - you need a new job, something to focus your energy and time on. Think about whether it's worth sacrificing anything for a woman who from the very beginning decided that you were not suitable for marriage or a serious relationship, but still decided to waste your time and give you empty hopes - at most probably out of boredom and due to lack of a better offer at the moment! About suicide - you decide naturally - if you think that the only meaning of your life is some duck that hangs you and has no feelings for you ..
Don't fight over a girl. It hurts, but it will pass. It's only been a few months. I know it weighs on you, but I've been in a far duller situation for 2 years. We will pass! Return to the ships if you ask me. Get away from her, forget her! It seems to me, I may be wrong, but it's unlikely that she wants you to break up, but she doesn't want to tell you, so she plays tricks on you. Isn't that the only reason you don't like her on board? Take care of yourself, work, insure yourself. Women don't end up with a woman, if she is perfect. Take care of yourself, because as I look at it, it won't last long. We will meet other people. To all readers in such complicated situations in love, we must stop punishing ourselves for people who do not know what they want, we do not owe it to them! Even if you don't leave, author, even if you stay, take care of yourself, you owe it to yourself! She's with you going forward, she's not, but you're forced to live with yourself, think about it. This is not selfishness, but a refusal to be played! Success!
Ohhh and if he survives by accident, but with serious damage and you can't take care of yourself, but you're ok with your mind, what do we do? !! It will weigh on your parents not only mentally but also physically. I, if I thought, like you, have committed suicide 2-3 times so far. Tighten up, man, and realize where you are, you have a lot to go through, and life is wonderful, and one day you will see it. Give yourself a chance!
You have a mental problem and it is not related to the girl. Maybe you're taking some substances. If you feel quite shaken, consult a specialist. You don't say how old the girl is / quite helpful /, but she has no intentions like you. Parents are just a pretext. Separate peacefully and meekly, do not cling to it and do not cause yourself suffering. You will meet another girl. What nonsense to commit suicide !? You will only fill your hole, you will not cover anyone's hat, except your parents.
Leave Bulgaria. Not that anything, but if you want a lot of money, you have to work outside where wages are higher. My father works on ships and is a mechanic and he is very happy. He has risen and he has succeeded now. At first he didn't like it either, but when he saw that he was getting rich easily, he decided not to go down anymore. He got up at the age of 18, now he is 51 and does not want to go down PS When you hear that someone is connected with religion, turn your back and run.
When I hear that someone wants to commit suicide for the sake of a woman, I feel like pulling the rope.
It's good that this site is anonymous and I can tell. Out of love pain (abandoned, after a long relationship), I rolled on the ground, from physical and mental pain. For months I hardly ate (one cookie a day). I roared day and night, looking like a walking dead man. I couldn't accept it, I refused. I'm not a teenager, I was 28. BUT! I never thought about suicide! I dont understand this. So, let me get rid of my sorrows, but on the other hand, to blacken the life of my parents and the people who love me. This is pure selfishness. There are all kinds of difficulties in life, some seem insurmountable. But the way out is not to end our lives. We have to fight and grow. Go through this situation and become stronger and wiser. Do so, with all difficulty. And after a while, when you turn around, say to yourself - "I've been through a lot of things - both good and bad ...
Make your plans. How do you see yourself in 10 years? As you say - there is certainly nothing in this world. You should not radically change your plans because of a woman with whom you really have nothing serious, and she shows no signs of this. G30
Don't commit suicide. Is that why your parents created and raised you for twenty years? To get you minced and then commit suicide to overcome the loss. If all serious problems were solved by suicide, there would be no one left in this world by now. In my opinion, move away from this woman or girl, whatever she is. Relationships with a woman and anyone in general should be positive and contribute something to your development. You too on them. As I see from your explanations, neither you nor she contribute anything to the other. You are considering the idea of a common future, but nothing really happens between you. Wasting time, you need to have enough experience and inner, emotional strength to avoid such toxic, I would say, relationships. You have to be able, I repeat, to be able to follow your feelings, and not to imagine how you will be with someone. I have long heard that "to love someone, you must first love yourself." Well, it took me a long time to realize that was true. I wish you all the best!
We broke up with the girl in question. In the end, fear prevailed. It was as if the suicidal thoughts had subsided, not reappeared. I don't feel crushed or anything. Rather..empty. My motivation disappeared. And I really don't know what to do. I came back because of her, I started my old job because of her. A job that I don't like anymore, but it gives me the necessary financial opportunities. Now what? I have no idea what to do. The author
For starters, stop taking the pills and stop thinking nonsense. This hurts you in this case, because women despise despair. Take care of yourself and your life, gain self-confidence and there will come a time when she will push herself into your arms. Another question is whether it will be worthwhile to be with her then. According to your story, I judge that she is a person with emotional deficiencies and needs a strong partner to carry her in her arms.
As someone who has attempted suicide, I tell you DON'T! Now I am terribly ashamed of my action and I am very happy that I survived. It was for me because of a broken heart, and now I realize that this man did not deserve to suffer so much for him. However, after saving your life in the hospital, the worst thing is to get you back mentally. You have no idea what a horror it is! Don't do it to yourself! And most importantly, don't do it to your family. I think I decided that I wanted to live when I heard my mother crying secretly, and then I realized what I was actually doing to them, and that if not for myself, I had to tighten up for them and find a way to atone for what I was doing. I cause them. The best treatment is just to be busy with something, but non-stop, just so you don't have time to think. Getting a job, so that you can then fall asleep and not dream of anything, exhausted from fatigue. So go back to the ships and work, but work like you've never worked before! You will see for yourself how one day you will wake up and look at the world with different eyes, but it takes time. It was months for me, but I never regretted choosing the hard way instead of just running away and leaving the devastation behind. Because that's exactly what would happen - I would leave my family devastated and broken and they would never be able to recover. Well, I'm not that selfish. And you? instead of just running away and leaving the devastation behind. Because that's exactly what would happen - I would leave my family devastated and broken and they would never be able to recover. Well, I'm not that selfish. And you? instead of just running away and leaving the devastation behind. Because that's exactly what would happen - I would leave my family devastated and broken and they would never be able to recover. Well, I'm not that selfish. And you?
Colleague, I hope that with my humble experience I will be able to help you. I've been in your place, I've roared all night because of it, and I've lived in inadequacy and sadness for years. In general, my youth went like this. I didn't mean to seriously commit suicide, mainly because of my parents. Staging an accident is not a solution. They will not take it lightly, and there is no guarantee that things will not go wrong and you will get into an even worse situation, ie you will be crippled and paralyzed, your legs will be cut off and you will not be able to serve yourself for the rest of your life. alone. If you are going to commit suicide, you must first give yourself enough time to think. Even those sentenced to death do not execute them immediately. For example, you give yourself a period of 10 years, after which if nothing has changed, you will commit suicide with a clear conscience. Not many at all, because you are not thinking soberly now, and the inertia of this state is very great and it comes out of it very slowly. Second, if you rush and commit suicide, there is no going back. While if you stay alive, there is always time to die, but gradually things will start to happen that will push you back to life. This will definitely happen, no matter how much you don't believe it now. The following things happened to me: First I realized that the other party will not be happy with me, which means that I can not be happy with her. It is very bad to know that you are making someone you love unhappy. It's hard to realize at first, but it comes with time. Then my self-esteem returned, I was tired of running after the unattainable and I said to myself that I can be loved the way I am and if someone else can't, so this man is not for me. Then providence helped me achieve Zen insight and I was really convinced that we are for each other. It took a long time to explain exactly how it happened and it's a matter of personal perception, but it so happened that after an interaction with this girl, it was as if time stopped for a moment and one of her reactions told me everything without words, as if then my eyes opened. So I voluntarily gave up what was bothering me. Now I really don't regret not meeting the person. It's hard to put into words if you haven't experienced it, but once you reach it on your own, it's crystal clear. No one can hurt or insult you by rejection, neglect and the like. It all depends on your reaction. You suffer because you have chosen to react that way. And you can just say, it doesn't work well, but I will not allow this to be so important to me as to ruin me, and I will seek another way. If you can't do it now, then in 10 years you certainly will. And there will be a person for you with whom you will be happier than with the one you are suffering for now.