Hello, I have never written something like this on such a site, but here came the moment to do it. I hope my story does not burden you and I will try to make it as understandable as possible, I expect both advice and constructive criticism. I am a girl of 25, I live in a rather big city and I recently met a boy who turned out to be living temporarily in the block where I work (he was sent to my city for the summer, otherwise he lives in another). So our acquaintance was accidental and we decided to see each other, he invited me to them, for a first date for me it was a pure invitation for sex. Anyway, I went to them all normal, sweet talk, each other .. but I did not want sex even then. Then we met twice more to say somewhere and it became a thing called sex is no longer a mirage. Another meeting followed, but I suggested it be a walk somewhere as it happened .. I dare say that he is a very interesting person and has something to say and tell, but I liked him. He is not one of those people who will start working ... how good am I or just to understand something from my day while we are both at work. In the sense that he just doesn't want to be on social media and therefore we don't write to each other. When we go out, then we understand each other more as we should. This leads me to think that he only wants sex from me or a summer adventure. His work involves going to many places, meeting a lot of people, etc. So I don't know exactly what I want to ask as questions ... when we see each other it's quite interesting, we have a lot of topics of conversation, we we have seen each other several times. The stupid thing is that I seem to be drowning in him, and he only seems to want fun on my part. And I don't know how to start a conversation, what does he think, does he like me at all .. I can't directly ask him if he's dating me just like that and if it's just sex. We spend a lot of time together when we see each other ... it's not just sex, but it seems that it doesn't matter. I want some advice on how to find out otherwise if this continues and the end of the summer, when he leaves I will cry a lot (as frivolous as it sounds). I expect any answers and thank you.
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Having read this, I am already crying!
me ... cry. You will be neither the first nor the last. It will be neither your first time nor your last. That's how it becomes a person crying. We are all human beings, it has happened to all of us :) A neighborhood alcoholic once told me: "A woman is found, a child is made, money is earned. Only for your health it is worth getting angry"
Well, if you think about it, then there may be something like that, or you may be making movies or the truth may be somewhere in the middle, but if you don't ask him seriously what he intends to do next, you won't know. If he's an idiot, you better leave him now, if he's a decent boy, then he'll answer your questions. You are 25 years old, you are not a stupid girl, you can judge for yourself, and once things have gotten to the point where writing on a website is shared, then this thing weighs a lot on you. He just has to give you the answer you are looking for, and you should not deceive yourself, because often love is self-deception.
My husband and I started seeing each other only for sex, we even lived in different cities, things became imperceptible and now we are a family with two children :) You never know how far it will go.
And what do you expect us to tell you? "It will happen" or "it will happen"? Things are evolving. The future is unknown. This is the "trap of Nature" that she has set for us to get together, like, get to know and have children in order for our species to survive. The most beautiful person in the world may live in the next door, but how will you know that if you don't meet him, don't talk to him, eventually don't go to bed? One enters into a new relationship with different intentions, but very often changes them if it turns out to be very successful or very unsuccessful ... Go ahead - this is part of the game. You can ask for some answers when his time in your city starts to run out. See what he will answer you: "Will we see each other again?". Nobody runs away from the good.
Why do you have to think so much? Enjoy what you have while you have it. Live for the moment. What's so great, did he have serious intentions, didn't he ... You're happy with him, you like him, why the hell do you have to work hard? So, women are a nasty breed. We meet someone we like, and we have to make him a groom right away, otherwise we can't. If you want to startle him, ask him what his intentions are: "Chick, what are we with you now?" My best memories are from the adventures - short, intense, leave you breathless. Bindings, bindings, nonsense ... come on!