Hello. I am 35 years old and I have been fighting cancer for 2.5 years. I have about 60 friends on Facebook and some of them know about my problem. Some of them because I hid it for a long time, and I witnessed quite strange reactions. Some of them did not dare to call me, so as not to be an "awkward moment". Others just pulled away. Anyway. Yesterday it was announced that Stilian Petrov has leukemia and some of these same friends immediately put on the pages how they support him and are with him. It is very easy to support someone in words and something else in deeds. I was so sad.
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It's really sad. But do not judge them too much, sometimes people just do not know how to react, what is right and what awaits the person in return.
Very often when you share something there, only two people pay attention to you and eat it.
Unfortunately, you're right ... It's very easy to be "empathetic" to someone you don't know ... Especially if he's famous. And when someone is close, you pull away in fear. Because you don't know how to react. And what if he received the "support" of 40 thousand fans of Aston Villa and the entire Bulgarian people? !! The grief remains for him and his family, as well as the struggle.
And what exactly did your Facebook friends expect you to say. "We support you in battle" would these words help you overcome even one manipulation, no. If they had called you, what would they have told you and what would you have answered? Ask yourself these questions and then it will be easier for you. Illness support comes only from the family, only they would hug you for hours when you cry, only they would deprive you of everything to raise money to get better, do not be fooled that the "friends" on Facebook are your family. They are just people who like things that you like. You envy Stilian Petrov for the support, and how many of these people would hold his hand after the first chemotherapy when he vomited? How many of them would sell their car in his favor? I also have a tumor, it can't be removed, therefore, simply by treatment we reduce its development. I do not expect the support of people from the Internet, I consider it a pity I do not want anyone to feel sorry for me.
Author, this is really awful, not so much as a case, but for moral reasons. Friends on Facebook are friends for there, they would help a little in case of a possible problem, and you know "If you want to measure your true friends, just wait for something bad to happen to you". Accept the fact that with a Facebook share nothing will change, that their alienation is their fault. Good luck with cancer, I sincerely hope you fight it and always have someone to hold your hand in difficult times. I have no idea why you wrote fear as a factor in the title, but if you're afraid of something, don't do it, it's not worth it. Whatever is written, this will happen, I have watched many documentaries and shows, in fact there are quite interesting articles on the subject, but there are incredible cases in which it is clearly proved that the power of God exists. In a disaster, a man turned his car around and literally scraped his head on the asphalt over 20 meters ... alive and well, the scars were almost invisible after many operations and a lot of pain. And, yes, he was awake during that time, his last memories of the crash were the pain and the pool of blood that had gathered. Zu-Za
Well, that's right ... he's a star, and when a star gets sick or, God forbid, the whole world roars and people don't think about how many people die or get sick a day ... and nobody cares about them. That's just life ... accept it. This way you can find out who your real friends are .. and the others don't think of them .. they are just a list of names :)
What if I told you that an acquaintance of his father's soon contracted cancer, and she had to spend time with him in hospitals. One day he asked me with great anxiety if he could be infected with it all over the place. I just stared at my chin and fell under the table ... So I wouldn't be surprised if some of your acquaintances in question also think that cancer is contagious ... By the way, I have an acquaintance with AIDS. I have been to them, I have eaten from his plates and forks, I have used his toilet. No problem. How many of you would do that? I hope there are more, but I doubt it ... judging by his surroundings. Kubrat
Even if he's a star, that doesn't cure him. The pain and struggle will remain for his family and himself. Only he knows what is wrong with him, and only you know how you feel. You just have to rely on your loved ones, your loved ones. My girlfriend has been fighting for 8 years. We friends cheered her up, but the real struggle was for her and for her loved ones. Her own mother could not bear the truth and died in her arms. Compassion is not real help. It helps the one who holds your head while you vomit from chemotherapy, who gives you a glass of water and who wipes your sweat when you are sick. Empathy is a very good thing, but the real support is ONLY the family. I hope you recover. Right number 5. Most "friends" on Facebook are just distant acquaintances. Because I see and hear with my closest friends,
Kubrat, I would do it, and most likely each of us did it involuntarily. In our country, sick people must hide like the plague. AIDS has long been a studied disease, a chronic disease, these people are among us, our relatives, friends, colleagues. Laura