I met him a year ago. It wasn't love, I never thought it could be love. You always make the difference between chat-meaningless and unloading and love .... only with it I went much further. I was surrounded by walls, and he patiently smashed each one, I let him in so close. There came a time to see each other ... not just "the internet still connects us but BTC divides us. Well ... we saw each other. He wasn't my type, but the character ... the way he made me I feel ... with a special, unique, the only one But he was far away I at one end of Bulgaria - he at the other We talked on the phone, on Skype, but I knew that such a connection only hurts that there is no future. I procrastinated my "I love you" because I knew I couldn't do it, I knew that chatting was one thing and seeing each other every day would be different. I told him "let's be friends, and when circumstances allow us to try the other option" ... and he kept telling me "and what, to catch another, and when you tell me that I'm all for you, what am I going to do with her" ... I believed him, I believed he loved me and I suffered because I didn't want such a relationship, but I loved him ... for God's sake, I loved him, but I told him it was better for both of us if we just let the feelings come true .. after 5 days, however, I couldn't stand it, I wanted to hear it ... to be everything as before. But I was curious what he was writing to his best friend. I went into her skype and there he saw how he wrote to her ... that she was the special, tender, beautiful "everything you would like in a girl" ... he didn't feel guilty because of me because we had already separated. And here came my surprise - she answered "YES" ... she told him she had feelings for him too ... I was furious. I wrote to both of them ... accusing them of attacking, insulting him ... and he was so cold. And I just couldn't stop the tears. He calls me in the morning. He claimed that he was sorry that I was the original that he could not have and that she was the copy that reminded him of me. He cried while telling me how I am the dream he will always be accused of losing ... Days passed ... 1-2, I couldn't eat ... I didn't talk to anyone ... I wrote to him several times and I explained to him how only I was to blame ... and I forgave my girlfriend ... I justified her to myself ... I pretended to forget. I wrote to her again and talked to her as if nothing had happened, I pretended ... I also talked about how I suffer, how I don't eat, how I don't talk to anyone ... and after 10 days I decided to be at least friends with the man who made me so changes. I wrote to him again ... I told him how confused I was .... Until one day I asked this "best friend" of mine why he didn't share it with me ... and she shared it with me. He told me that he was still writing to him, as if I had failed and there was no one to catch me. No longer because of what he did to me, but because of how she betrayed me ... for the second time. And he swore he wouldn't do it to me again. My last farewell to him was yesterday - he wrote to me. He said he thanked me for what I did because I had done what he was ... "I created monsters" was my answer ... he said he was really sorry only for the year he lost with me, and now he feels free .. and that he was free for more than a month before this happened ... I kept cold ... colder than I thought I was capable of, but it doesn't make me feel better ...
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Nothing, you will pass. Nothing terrible happened to you. Try to see the kindness of all the people in your story. We are all vulnerable, but that doesn't mean we have to despair - vulnerability is what makes us human. Stop being angry with your girlfriend and, above all, stop being angry with yourself. What has happened to you is very little evil compared to what awaits you in the future. Get ready! And accept that every loss and every disappointment will make you stronger and ready to accept the even greater challenges that lie ahead. This man or boy is not the last on earth. Next time you will be better prepared if you learn from your mistakes so far.
You are not honest with people. What do you want to happen to you then?
Come on, that's it! This is for some soap opera - what nonsense. I was at one end of Bulgaria - he at the other and I told him that a relationship was unthinkable, and he, you see, decided that he was free to look for another girl (the poor madman). And the fact that the main character does not eat regularly ?? Girl, you can't tell someone you don't want to love them and have them sigh for you all their lives. You can't log in to a friend's Skype to "peek" into the timeline and then start getting angry, insulting, and even betrayed. Nobody betrayed you. YOU betrayed yourself! No one is to blame for you not having the courage to take risks and for not being able to decide whether to love or build new firewalls.
It's very easy to dig into other people's skypes, but you like it!
Author: number 3- no ... look now ... I don't mind looking for another one, she would still forget it ... I almost forgot it the first time ... my problem comes from the second time when my girlfriend is she kept writing to him even though she knew what was wrong with me. And about him, I had told him long ago to get another one, but why was he lying to me that he didn't want to? And he's free, he liked her well ... but he liked her a month before it was all over with us. Then why did he keep lying to me? Number 2 ... how did you decide I wasn't being honest with people?
"And he's free, he liked her well ... but he liked her a month before it was all over with us. Then why did he keep lying to me?" You have no right to set time limits for "liking"! You have no right to feel lied to and betrayed because you have encouraged him and her to keep talking. I'm sure they started communicating to talk about you and your indecision. And why the hell, when the "first" time decided to forget it, he got angry for the "second" time. I'm sorry to say that, but you look like a stupid coward who can't decide what will make her happy and grab him boldly and without prejudice. Maybe I'm wrong - I don't know the details, in fact I hope so, because I want a young girl to have the courage to love and the strength to forgive the imperfections of others. As for your girlfriend - what if she can't eat and sleep, if she only wants to be with him, if she loves him more than you? I wish you success, but first you have to answer many questions that apply only to yourself. (from number 3)
Come on, this number 3 ... to you - ok, I understand that she loved him very much, I understand ... but she says at 3, at least I know so much that she loves them ... that she wants to be with them. She has known him for less than a year ... me for 17. She has no future with him because she will graduate next year and go to Sofia. (only there is her specialty) he is in Veliko Tarnovo ... how often will they see each other? And she will go to a new world where they will finally pay attention to her, then what ... will she have sacrificed our friendship for 2-3 years with him? And there was no indecision ... after the first case I said well, it's my fault, but I also talked to her ... I also said that I would never accept this between them to continue ... she said "very clearly that it will not continue , I wouldn't do it to you ". The first time I forgave her ... I pretended that there was nothing ... but am I not a bridge for everyone to trample on me? Until when will she hurt me and I will say "ok no problem". As for the fact that I didn't know what made me happy, now I'll tell you ... I knew ... he made me happy, but I also knew that a year later when I went somewhere else I would hurt him more if I told him "I met someone else ", and I didn't want him to suffer ... Number 4: I logged in to Skype, but she knew I would do it, and she didn't change her password because we were like sisters ... she didn't seem to have anything to hide from me .. .. I know I shouldn't have dug into her sakaipa but what ... shouldn't I do anything? (the author) but I also knew that a year later when I went somewhere else I would hurt him more if I told him "I met someone else" and I didn't want him to suffer ... Number 4: I logged in to Skype, but she knew I would do it , and she didn't change her password because we were supposed to be like sisters ... she didn't seem to have anything to hide from me .... I know I shouldn't have dug into her sakaipa but what ... shouldn't I do anything? (the author) but I also knew that in a year when I went somewhere else I would hurt him more if I told him "I met someone else" and I didn't want him to suffer ... Number 4: I logged in to Skype, but she knew I would do it , and she didn't change her password because we were supposed to be like sisters ... she didn't seem to have anything to hide from me .... I know I shouldn't have dug into her sakaipa but what ... shouldn't I do anything? (the author)
Life is cruel. You will forget it. I suggest you find a hobby, go out with friends - discos, cafes, billiards, things that will distract you. Time heals all wounds.