Hello! My story sounds strange, but it will certainly be similar to millions of fates and oris. So to start, and so as not to bore you, in just two words: I have a good enough education for the borders of our country, I live in a poor rural town, married with a child of 18 years. It is clear to you, a graduate and a future student. I gained professional experience in another city in a stable company. I returned to my hometown, I am gaining experience again, but the fate of most families, stress, financial difficulties, loans and complete despair caught up with us. And because that's not enough, the bank and the private bailiff also impose a salary lien on you because you helped someone, and he helped you sink even deeper. Throughout my 40 years of conscious life, I have not bowed my head. I have said to myself thousands of times, come on up, you are ambitious, you are strong, you are combative, you will succeed. Today, after visiting the courtroom, I asked myself a strange question. Aren't all my hopes for a better life, which seems to have taken off, a chimera, how to save myself How to save my child, my family, my parents, my relatives, my friends? Can I, with all my arsenal of diplomas, skills, experience and routine, build a future or at least somehow survive in this country? And now where. Every day I revisit the sites, where for additional work, where for a new one, where for abroad and again in a trap. I earned extra and again annoyances, or unpaid, or for thanks and finally stress and nerves from fatigue, then doctors and so an endless idyll. And here I am, the strong, ambitious, unyielding head, with the terrible question. How to save yourself? What are the ways not to sink, to succeed, to get out? Being an emigrant in your own country is more painful than being an emigrant abroad, but where is it? Canada, USA or where? And will our children become strangers in their own country? Tell me how do you survive?
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"Canada USA or Where". Oooo no go to Africa, then you will feel the real penury and hunger, then you will pray for an ordinary tree leaf, which will be your breakfast. I don't know if he understands me, but I will tell you: Rejoice in the little you have because it can always be worse.
I am asking myself the same. If you know a lot of things, it would be best to get a job outside Bulgaria. I guess it's safest with acquaintances. Here is the jungle. I can't tell you how to survive. The pain dulls a little if you don't think about it. Do not lose hope. Look for fresh ideas. Your brain will always invent something. Be with healthy family and friends. The rest will somehow work out. No forecasts can be made in Bulgaria. And now with this crisis it is becoming even more complicated. Just don't give up and don't fall into pessimism.
From the author. Thanks №2! I accept the advice. To find the point of balance and to find the solution I will try not to think at least for a while. As for №1, I may have lived in African to survive. I have experienced enough limitations and deprivations, I have done enough effective things that I can safely say, I did it and it is good. There is no one to challenge it. I can try the leaves as soon as necessary, of course I will miss breakfast, and maybe lunch, I have been practicing this for years. I also went through the period of unemployment, temporarily here and temporarily there. In 20 years of carrying heavy loads, don't I have the right to bend? Don't I have the right to share with strangers and ask for meaningful advice? I just asked for advice that I can give to anyone and I do it every day, but I haven't found out about myself lately. I asked for advice, not to be "punished". I understand that this irritated you, I don't understand why you comment on it at all. There are other topics to share.
I think NOT PREDAVAI all your life struggling with this fucking LIFE fought heads up I myself almost Sashto POSITION and say NO before ABOVE HEAD AND TSEPA ago does not matter which is before you SURE SBIRCHINA SADY WHO WANT TO YOU Zeman THE LAST DROP OF YOU OR SUFFERING AGAIN. AND I ADVISE YOU FIGHT !!!
This can happen to anyone, even to most of us it happens, but not everyone admits it, on the contrary, we close ourselves in. I had a similar problem, I dropped everything and started from scratch, a quieter job, a lower salary, but more free time and more savings. I realized that only the transport / minibuses / and daily / sandwiches and coffees / to limit this is my money on the lower salary. I started to have time for myself, for sleep, to enjoy my home, flowers, friends / I just forgot about coffee, pizzerias and restaurants /, I also put winter clothes ... details. In short, I changed my lifestyle, I enjoy the usual walk, slow and calm, I'm not in a hurry, I don't stress chasing something, it wasn't easy for me from the beginning, just questions about what will happen and whether you will succeed, and I still don't know ... but you have to change something. What will be your choice, you will decide, money is very important, but health is the most valuable, I hope you understand me, you will emerge from this hole, you have fought hard enough and you have the spirit. I will be happy for you to succeed and for a result and I wish you success.
From the author. Thanks to №4 and №5. I feel better by reducing my work. I pay more serious attention to my health, rather it made me pay attention to it. I now provide time for rest, sleep and myself. I even eat normally. I stopped fighting with myself, too, in the sense that if I didn't do it perfectly or at all costs, wasn't it irresponsible. If I don't solve this or that problem, won't I get in trouble. I looked around and said to myself: Am I not turning into a machine. It's a bit strange at the moment, but I say it's good, because day by day comes the calm. Probably a transformation and a period of wisdom is needed. I will not stop fighting, but there are probably times when even the fighting spirit gets tired. But ... something really changed. I revised my internal criteria and began to divide the problems into essential and insignificant. Thank you once again for your support and I wish you success and good luck. I will be happy to continue to communicate.
From № 5: I am glad that you took this first and very important step. Health is more important, sift things out, you, your friends, your relatives are important, if you don't clear something ... tomorrow again dust, I'm glad you're already grading things. Over time, you will change even more things, leave cleaning, problems, say fuck him and go for a walk, for example, with people positive friends, laugh, etc. I know it doesn't happen all the time and it's not easy, but the important thing is that you want it. Write [email protected] if you want. I'll be glad.
Well, we also have a hard time surviving. In order not to be late for money, we deprive ourselves of everything that is not essential. You write about a loan, I don't know why and for what reasons you took it out, but apart from treating a family member, I would not resort to loans. I know many people who take out loans for repairs or furniture and then whine that they can't stand the installments plus the interest. Not that it's bad to freshen up your home or renew some furniture, but provided you have the finances available after the renovation, you will have some of them left and you will certainly not be late. When you are on the edge -ha with a new sofa, ha with the old one. I know others who with the last money go to the sea in the summer and in September they want money on loan to send their children to school. They go to restaurants and after a few days they cut off the electricity - do you think this is a quiet life? and we want peace. Personally, my family is not late, we have 2 children and low wages - not that we do not have enough work, we tremble extremely but work in BG is not valued properly. Without money (I do not mean in large quantities) we are not left, but from 10 years. I haven't been to a restaurant in 16 years. family life We went on vacation twice, I didn't buy a more expensive blouse of BGN 5/6 for me and my husband (the children can), we both don't smoke or drink alcohol outside with money. This is how we survive, someone may laugh at the pretext that we lead a boring life, but on the other hand I find solace in a quiet life - we understand each other very well, we love each other endlessly, our children are healthy and alive. no tendency to bad behavior (for now, but God forbid forever). From what better. Success of the author and all in difficult fin.
How do we survive? You know, sometimes I wonder how. Every day I almost repeat to myself that I have left everything in the hands of God - as long as he wishes I will have both work and security. If a worse moment comes, I will fight to the best of my ability then. That's how I survive. For some I know it will be funny, life has taught me to perceive it so-broken through faith. I will survive as God wills.
To 10: does that help you? Because at one time I also tried to do so, but it didn't work out. My father used to say: God gives, but he doesn't put in the manger ... And how did I survive ... I imposed my will. And I lost my job many times, from one fake company to another ... you try, work and tremble, and they don't even count you as a person and throw you pennies, with the feeling that this is a lot for you ... KJV: Thou shalt be a man of the spirit, if thou givest thyself to the Spirit, thou shalt be finished
make sure everything is fine in the family. That is the most important. everything else is a supplement. I hope you understand me. Nowadays, to have a strong and well-founded family is the most important love and understanding and, of course, faith. this is what holds and gives strength to man the other is details.