Hello! Finally, I was afraid to write here about my story. It's quite long and I don't know where to start ... I'm 29 years old, I'll be 30 soon. When I was a student, I liked a lot of boys, I guess because of the bust I had, at this age boys watch it. But unfortunately I was also liked by much older men. I was constantly persecuted, bothered by anyone. I was not happy at home. My mother is a very nervous person who transferred the mood from work. Accordingly, this encouraged me not to linger too much at home and constantly met with various people and friends. This is how I came across various acquaintances with men, from whom I was quite hurt. I shrank into myself, I had no self-confidence. Until one day I met my current husband. At first I had no sympathy for him. He is 10 years older than me. He was very patient, he didn't press me for anything, so one day I fell in love with him a lot, or so I thought. I got married. In less than a year we already had a child. I was also a student. I had great cool colleagues and I felt great. He also appeared there. The love of my life ... I didn't know what exactly happened to me and how it happened, but I fell in love with this boy. We started a relationship that has continued to this day. He also fell in love with me a lot, we dreamed of a common home, family, children ... After four years of our relationship. he insisted on getting a divorce. I still couldn't find the strength to leave my husband. When I watched how he took care of the child and how I was not deprived of anything, my conscience did not allow such a thing, and I wanted it so much. I didn't love him anymore and it was very long ago ... Seven years passed. Now I am pregnant again. This hurt the other boy terribly. . He flatly refused to see me and talked to me. And I understand it, the pain is great. But I don't see how I will continue to live ... My soul screams, I feel very bad. How to deal with it. We live in a small town. It is difficult for a person to avoid common places where he has been and has memories ... Give me advice on how to move forward, I am very sick!
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Ugh :( very sad story. Who is the second child ??? I think once we live and we should be happy, the child is a child, and it will always remain so - whether you are together or not. It is difficult to hurt the person to yourself, but whether you're with him or not, if you don't love him, it's only a matter of time before he starts to feel it, it will hurt him too.
In my opinion, you have already made your choice - I will only reproach you for losing years of the life of the man who was waiting for you to take the step. I hope he finds a woman who would love him more. I'm sorry, darling, but you acted very unfairly to him - you were aware that you would not divorce and you hung out with him, losing precious years of his life. If she loved him a little more, she would divorce (but scruples bother you) or at least tell him clearly that you can't do it and that you prefer him to seek his happiness elsewhere. Well, yes, it's hard, but it's HONEST, until now there's nothing left of your so-called love. You made your choice to stay with your husband - go on - happy or not, you chose this option yourself. And wish him HAPPINESS - what he deserves.
The child is from my husband! I'm sure of that because we had sex for a long time without guarding ourselves ... However, from now on, I just don't see any way, a light in the tunnel :(
From number 2: It will pass, you only need a little time. It is very important to realize that you have been selfish in the relationship - excuse me, but do you think that he is obliged to wait for you all his life and not have a wife and family? Well, that's too much. She made up for the missing emotions at home and that's it. For him there is the waiting and the humiliation that the woman who supposedly loves him is expecting a second child from her husband. Really - very rude of you. Don't think about where now (well, you'll miss the thrill, but you chose it yourself), but overcome your selfishness. Everyone has the right to happiness, not just you.
I just want to point out that I never stopped him from finding another girl. On the contrary, even I met him myself. There was a period in which he himself had told me that he wanted to live to gain some experience, to have a basis for comparison. Well, I did not stop him, on the contrary, even with great pain in my heart I encouraged him .. And one more thing I never promised him that I would divorce, I even think that I gave him a reason to know that I will not do it ... I would even say that I made an insane amount of compromises because of him!
From number 4: And then how did you expect your relationship to develop? 1 / to stand like a shadow next to you - alone all your life - without a partner, without a family, without children? 2 / or to marry without love for another woman - and chosen by you (sounds funny); You don't even realize your selfishness - and that's the saddest thing to do. If you love this person, even after a painful separation, wish him happiness in your soul and move forward with dignity. He deserves complete happiness, not just to be the emotional toy of a woman dissatisfied (emotionally) with her own husband !!!!