Hello people. Well, I feel awful! I've been kept dry for ten months. It only happens on a whistle, and when she says, because when I want to and she refuses, I get angry and depressed, she gets angry that I'm angry and it becomes a scandal. In principle, she has a problem, it hurts down there when I penetrate her. She told me that it was the same with the previous ones, although it hurt less than with me. I'm ok with this, there can be any problems. She is not physically the problem, she is healthy, it just hurts. I am annoyed by the fact that for almost a year she explains to me how important I am to her, how much she loves me, etc. and during that time she did not make any attempts at intimacy, I asked her to go to a specialist and initially agreed but then gave up now he blames me. I was unattractive to her and didn't know what to do to arouse her. Honestly, all this irritates me even more, firstly because she is the first to complain and secondly because in the beginning we had relatively enough sex, and now I'm not worse than I was then, I'm even better. We talked, we fought, nothing helps, and as there is no desire at all, it is even harder for me to start. She says that for her sex is just a way to ask for something after that that she can do without any sex for a long time (obviously) and that she doesn't understand what I want so much, why can't I do without sex like her! I don't know what to do anymore, for so long without sex, now I don't like love games at all, I just want to catch her and tear her :( We talked, we fought, nothing helps, and as there is no desire at all, it is even harder for me to start. She says that for her sex is just a way to ask for something after that, that she can do without any sex for a long time (obviously) and that she doesn't understand what I want so much, why can't I do without sex like her! I don't know what to do anymore, for so long without sex, now I don't like love games at all, I just want to catch her and tear her :( We talked, we fought, nothing helps, and as there is no desire at all, it is even harder for me to start. She says that for her sex is just a way to ask for something after that that she can do without any sex for a long time (obviously) and that she doesn't understand what I want so much, why can't I do without sex like her! I don't know what to do anymore, for so long without sex, now I don't like love games at all, I just want to catch her and tear her :(
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Yes, I have your problems! Well, here on the site you have mostly found and gone, you have everything, and you complain about the smallest problem. I'm 29 and I hadn't even had sex until 28, I had sex this February and I've been dry ever since. Who do you think has a bigger problem? !!
It is important to go to a specialist to find out where this pain comes from and whether there is any health problem, if not, then it is mentally based. As much as you don't like foreplay, women need it, because any attempt to have sex without the woman being aroused is more or less painful. Familiar women have told me that sometimes the first 2-3 penetrations are painful, even if they are aroused in case they have not had sex with anyone for a long time. Try to have sex with her the way she wants. Ask her what she likes, what type of foreplay, does she like oral love, where she likes to touch her, such questions. Try to start with kissing, pushing, playing, let her want sex herself. The truth is, even if I have no desire for sex, when my partner makes an effort to arouse me, things end like this, that I want him more than him. Try this way, just to see how she will react and whether she will want you, and if it doesn't happen and she doesn't want to go to the specialists in question, know that she is unlikely to suddenly become sexier on her own. The problem could be in you only if you do not satisfy her and do nothing to excite her, but given the fact that she was with her ex in this way, it probably has nothing to do with you at all,
I'm so sorry, but your girlfriend is not well! I am also a woman, but I do not understand such behavior, I do not know at all how you lasted 10 months, but to tell you the situation will not change from now on, it could even get worse. Sex is one of the most important things in a relationship and if it is lame other problems will soon appear. I don't know how she doesn't have such a need, you didn't write how old you are, but no matter how old you are, it's not okay. What's even uglier is that she tells you that you're not attracted to her and that you don't know what to do and how to predispose her. The way out is one - you shine to talk, you come to the conclusion that you are not for each other and everyone in their path is
Drop it. Once she's blaming herself for your problems, it's time to leave. Otherwise, the problem is clear. But the lack of sex education speaks for itself. Investigate a condition called vaginismus and draw parallels. It is not something to be ashamed of and treated for. But if he prefers to remain complex, frigid, and blame others, leave the ship.
Wow, if mine tells me that I'm unattractive to her and I don't know what to do to arouse her, that was, I dump her and I'll find another one with "chemistry" between us ....
You are not for a relationship, but for friends the most. Separate while you are still a healthy and sexually active man. She insults you from above and makes you feel ugly and guilty that you want the most natural thing in the world, sex with a loved one. I am a woman.
I am a woman. The only reason to be with a partner with whom your sexual desires do not overlap is that you have gone through 20 years of life, for example, and the change is more frightening than staying in that position. I don't think so with you and I would break up with the woman in your place. Years ago I had a boyfriend. I liked him very much. I was in love. Very beautiful, with a colorful life, a lot of social contacts, we traveled constantly and it was very interesting to be with him. BUT he was very lazy in general. He was too lazy to come to us, to take me from work, and he was very lazy to have sex. The first month I didn't feel it. But from then on, I found that we went left and right, then went home, went to bed and slept. No sex. And our relationship was young. From a passive lady in bed, I became a very active partner. Only I initiated, I did almost everything, and after a few months he continued to suffer from his laziness and even began to pull me away when I began to do something. After four months of dryness, I told him that he was either tightening and having sex, or we were breaking up, because I couldn't do without sex. The boy decided that he needed someone with a lower libido and we broke up. And I'm happy, and he. You can't ignore your own needs for someone who is a "boyfriend" at the moment. Get out before you go to another stage. And I'm happy, and he. You can't ignore your own needs for someone who is a "boyfriend" at the moment. Get out before you go to another stage. And I'm happy, and he. You can't ignore your own needs for someone who is a "boyfriend" at the moment. Get out before you go to another stage.
And isn't he cheating on you? Have you thought about such a thing, because hardly a NORMAL person will last 10 months. It's a long time.
She told you the truth. You just don't arouse her and that's why it hurts, she just doesn't get wet and relaxes enough. The reason is not necessarily in you, it is obviously quite non-sexual at first.
Buy Glidgelen from the pharmacies to apply and it won't hurt at least. Otherwise it will remain frigid. There is also a back entrance, there you will be even better. If you're lucky, he may not even like anal sex and he may want to. Eh, dreams ...
And how it keeps you in that relationship. Beat your whip and you will see how he will run with his legs open. :)
People have different sexualities. Unfortunately, yours obviously doesn't fit ... The other option is to really have a problem - physically or mentally, but if he doesn't want to look for a solution ... You have nothing to do. Talk to her one more time and explain that this is something very important to you. He also offered support in finding a solution to the problem. If there is no result and she sticks to her own, it is better to look for happiness elsewhere. F29
There are no physical problems, she just doesn't like you and cheats on you with someone who turns her on.
He doesn't want you, dude. It's simple. Oh yes, and he's lying to you. It hurts her more with you than with the others, but she cares a lot about you, but without intimacy. Demek hints to you that the sujuk is big for you (what a compliment only), but she doesn't care, you don't attract her (at least that's what she says). Take it and look elsewhere.
I'm very sad to read this because I'm like your girlfriend. Sex has never been important to me and penetration has always hurt me, so I have no arousing memory or fantasy to motivate me. All my life I've done it to be "normal", like others, etc., and I've never understood what kind of sex everyone is talking about, as it's complete filth from a purely physical point of view. And I've only been in relationships for the last 10 years. Some time ago I met a man who was great at oral love and for the first time I liked sex (without penetration) and I had my first orgasm. I think your girlfriend also raped in the beginning and did it for you, but at some point she got tired. I think she really loves you, but she really doesn't like having sex with you. If you want to change that, try to understand her, I assure you that it is not easy at all. Maybe she'll like oral love when it hurts from penetration? But with these accusations and negative energy, I don't know if you still have the opportunity to be patient and attentive to each other ... Hopefully!
Number 19, if you still have problems with penetration sex, you should definitely visit a specialist. This condition is not physically normal and has affected your psychological perceptions of sex. There is nothing shameful about seeking help for such a thing. The author's problem, meanwhile, is quite different because his girlfriend has begun to blame him for his failures in bed. This is not normal behavior in a loving relationship.
Dude, he doesn't like you, but he doesn't like you at all, and he probably doesn't even like you. Just look for the right woman for you. When a woman loves you, she wants you, she is wet while you are approaching her and she wants to give you pleasure! To find something like that with your current girlfriend?
Read what you wrote - she told you everything quite rightly and clearly "unattractive to her and I didn't know what to do to arouse her" "She says that for her sex is just a way to ask for something after that that she can do without any sex a lot of time (obviously) and that she doesn't understand what I want so much, why can't I do without sex like her! "Or with her help you find a way to become attractive to her, and she wants you and to have satisfactory sex for you, which, if there is a weak libido by nature, is impossible or you separate. If she does not make serious efforts for the first opportunity, she has implicitly chosen the second, ie there is no point in pushing.