I am a 21-year-old boy, a native of Burgas, a student in Sofia. I support myself and I don't have the opportunity to move out, so I live in a dormitory. I have no problem living in a dormitory with other people, because I have been taught to consider others, as long as they also consider me. The problem, however, is that it did not happen to roommates. Last year was my first, I fell into a room with another freshman and a third-year student. From the very beginning I was greeted with a scandal, but we got along. However, cohabitation did not work out with either of them. The room is small and there is not much space for individual desks, so we take turns and my turn is usually in the evening. And because my specialty is drawing, I need more time and light, which turned out to be a problem for them and they started making scandals about the lamp. I gave up and bought some of those desk lamps, which they also started using. When one of them studies, I try my best not to make noise and not to disturb, and when I sit down to study, conversations, rummaging through luggage or playing some videos / music start, and my requests for silence are not reflected at all. Last year, my brother and I renovated the room, and my roommates didn't give me a penny and didn't even show up to help, and then complained for a few days about the color of the walls. We decided to spend the internet and they "spent" me by putting it in my name, and then they stopped giving money.
I told them several times that they should give me money for the internet, but they only stayed "fine". Their things are theirs, and mine are common. They take absolutely everything of mine without even asking me, they eat from my food, use my belongings, etc. One of the boys had taken my laptop to write a course, and when I calmly asked him if he had asked my permission, he replied, "I didn't eat it." However, the problems do not end here. Neither is clean. Not that I'm the biggest cleaner, but they don't even throw away their butts. All three of us are smokers, but I'm the only one who throws away the ashtray. I'm the only one who collects the packaging and leftovers and the only one whose clothes and shoes aren't all over the room. This year, because I put a lot of money and effort into repairs, I decided to pay for my room for the summer and stay in it. However, they also do not want to move out, so they insisted that we share the fee for the summer and live together again in this room next year. Plus, I didn't pay the full amount myself, but I don't know how she'll last these two boys for another year. I'm not into scandals and I don't like to impose myself, which is a disadvantage in this case, so I ask for advice on how to act, to make them behave normally and to live together as well as possible.
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These are the elementary people, bro. Such are the people from sparsely populated areas. I am from Plovdiv and the same thing happened. The peasants take everything. Because they are faced with the choice of whether to sit in the countryside and milk the goat or to go to the big city and live a "life", which means finding a job, in which most cases agree to low pay and thus push the salaries of the whole county. Apart from not giving them anything or taking it at the moment when they use it, there is no other option. Tell them that if they don't give you the money for the installments for the past months, you will stop it the next day and so on. They will not change if you want to beat them. If they want to eat a fight every day. They are taught that way, or rather they are not taught anything. The other option is to be a mirror to them and whatever they do to you, so do you. How could someone touch your things like that, brother? I'm sure you've tried to talk to them humanly many times and it didn't work out. For the simple peasant, upbringing means nothing.
Very unpleasant really, don't you have acquaintances with whom you could settle in a room. I live with ours and I love the freedom to read, for example, if someone bothers me, I just can't stand it. I do not know what advice I could give you, I do not know what opportunities you have to change the current situation.
Easy and simple - talk to the hostess, apply, talk to the accommodation committee and move to another room. Problems, if any, are more likely to increase rather than be solved. Try again and see what happens - you may be lucky this time, if not at least in the beginning it will be better. I say this from direct observations. Good luck from me !!!
Dude, I dropped out last year for the same reason. I guess you study at TU, which means that the SOC will not assist you in any way, unless you have connections. I sympathize with you, it's hard to live even with two, and what about three ... I moved a few times myself, but things got even worse and I finally gave up.
Meet the actual mass of incompetents and poisonous people. Remember - they are there to hinder you until you make them serve you. Of these cattle, nothing will ever happen, remember that, so have no mercy on them.
Author - as a person who has lived with roommates all his life, I will tell you that there are no such things. Even if you file on their head every day, it will still be the same. Mentality and culture are extremely difficult to change. I saved myself by buying a big box / crate with a padlock and locking things there that I didn't want anyone to touch. There were faces, but they understood the hint.
I support number 6 for the council. Get something to lock your things in. Otherwise, you can skin such people alive ... but such are the Bulgarians, to push and beat us we are still disgusting. Put a password on your laptop and change it on the Internet, if they don't want to pay, they won't use it. Honestly, if I had been in your place a long time ago if I had moved out, I don't care how much money I spent on repairs, living with such cattle is hell.
And what exactly you renovated the room for, I can't understand. You don't like your roommates, but you keep the room with them and put money in it. Explain it to me. I was also in a dormitory and the first year did not happen to roommates, at the beginning of the second semester I went to the hostess and explained the problem, filled out an application and moved to another room. I solved my problem quickly, but you deepen yours and then complain, you are to blame.
Very nasty. Rural behavior. It was the same with me last year - two villagers came (they were really from the village), best friends. They were constantly making noise, coming home at 5 in the morning and talking loudly, inviting guests at no time, for example at 12, I was sleeping, and they came with a few more villagers, entered the room with shoes ... It is clear that it happens to everyone to have wilder evenings, to get drunk, to be noisier, this or that. But it was a practice with them ... In general, complete horror. You can't get along with such people - that's their mentality, they're stupid and they don't comply. And I was not paid for the Internet, I had to remind several times a month. And it's stupid, because they use it too. Thank God they left. I think, if they come again, I try once with good and if it doesn't work, I give them a fuck. Nor will I give them a password for the internet, neither will I clean them, nor anything. You can't live with other people and not follow basic rules. I sympathize with you, obviously you are also kind and do not like to quarrel with people. But as you are very good, they get on your head, unfortunately.
Either move, or start acting stupid - like themselves. What do I mean? For example: The anger of your food, you say you ate my things again - they say, a big deal. You open the fridge and say - well, no problem, you take from their point. But there isn't, but we will share, won't we? - as you do not want to ask and you will not ask for my food. Laptop - password! Why? - because so. The internet doesn't pay for it? - up to a week the money for the month, I will not look for the previous ones, or I put a password and I will use it. Or you say well, if you do not give tomorrow I will stop it. They don't let you study? You tell them, boys, we'll either get along, or I won't keep quiet when you study. Okay, okay and the same? You play music, you talk on the phone - in two words you start to interfere. Do you benefit from things? You use theirs too. Murmur? You ask a question that they use yours and that you will not eat them either. You can, for example, collect about BGN 20 for food. - shop together and eat together. There are no repairs for the cleanliness, but you didn't have to repair it. Impose yours, if good does not work, then with audacity like theirs. You pay the same - it's when you pay for the internet they use and you say that you want to be the first to write things down, and they already understand who, when. Do not agree? Ok. - I stop him then. You tell them directly - am I not a bastard? And you live your life like them. :) You pay the same - it's when you pay for the internet they use and you say that you want to be the first to write things down, and they already understand who, when. Do not agree? Ok. - I stop him then. You tell them directly - am I not a bastard? And you live your life like them. :) You pay the same - it's when you pay for the internet they use and you say that you want to be the first to write things down, and they already understand who, when. Do not agree? Ok. - I stop him then. You tell them directly - am I not a bastard? And you live your life like them. :)