Hi, I'm an 18 year old girl and I started falling in love with a 36 year old man. He doesn't have a wife, girlfriend or children ... and he wants to be with me and me, but I'm pulling for now. I don't know what to do, I'm very confused .. The big difference is a problem for me, because we will have to hide, because it's my small town .. the keys are terrible .. :( Give me advice, what should I do? I really want it ..
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Take my advice and don't take it - you know very well that you will NOT be with him forever. The really big difference is the problem. He thinks one way, you think another, and I don't think you have any common interests at all. He may be your father. Your city is small (as you say), which means that (if you start dating him) sooner or later someone will find out about your relationship, betray you and everyone will laugh at you, ie you will become a laughing stock. . And your parents will not be very fascinated. Think about it and then make the right decision. :) Ranjan
will not get the age difference is always reflected especially when you are 18 and you are living, and he wants a family and children!
What can I tell you darling ... I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 39 .. We've been together for 3 years, in the beginning we loved each other, I didn't care about people's opinion, in time you know, the thrill passes ... Not even anymore he attracts me sexually, but I am attached to him ... Live your life for the moment, go with him, and time will tell. There are families with a big difference who create children and are together all their lives ... Think about what he can give you and what a boy your age can give you, what you need NOW ... don't think about it very much , and live your life!
№ I'm 2, I'm 25 and my boyfriend is 40, we've been together for 2 years, it's not possible and I'm already uncomfortable holding my hand or going out in public, especially when we go into a store and the saleswoman cracks anything of the sort, and how beautiful a daughter you have and I want to hide in the bottom of the earth, and he says it's not my daughter but a boyfriend and the woman looks weird to me: ((((so think hard
My husband and I are 20 years apart - I am 28 and he is 48. We have been together for 8 years, we have a child, everything is developing like in 'normal people and relationships'. Whether you can be together depends only on how mature you are or how immature he is. Try it - one never knows. Success!
the difference is not a determining factor ... unless you are a minor, but since you say you are 18 - then at least in accordance with the law there is no problem. the rest is up to your personal self-suggestion ... true - there will be grumblers and gossipers. there will always be. :)) if you like him and you - you know what 100 Kila sings, right - "it hurts me for you, you and you" - to everyone who will talk to you. :)) and most people you ask for an opinion - will tell you the same. success and a lot of love.
And with my family things are similar to 5- I am 30, my husband is 50. We have been together for 10 years, we have two children, our own home and we even work together and we are together all day. We love each other more than ever. We hid at the beginning so that our "benefactors" would not break the relationship. Today, everyone is used to us and we are not relevant and interesting. My neighbor also has a man who is much older than her - even 25 years old. They have two children and are very happy. Who did it! Number 6 is right - there will always be people to discuss with others. If it is not for age, it will be because of the type of couple, financial status, origin, religion ... True love overcomes such things. The fake one doesn't.
And I have a big difference and the thrill has been there for many years. Age is irrelevant, so is the person.
My husband and I are 16 years apart, he was even married when we met. Now, after 25 years of marriage and two big children, I can say that my life is wonderful, we love each other very much, my children have the perfect father, I am a loving husband. We have never had problems because of the age difference. Who thought what about us or talked about it is his job. None of the speakers came to give me 1 lev to buy bread to comply with it. As they wrote before me, love is important, if it is real, a wonderful life awaits you. If there are doubts or hesitations, it is not your person and this applies to all relationships in my opinion.
Did the boys of your age finish that you all started looking for jerks? Had 1 thing you wouldn't do because of a financially secure man who knows how to wrap you up? I save the sequel, which is very clear to you. If I were your age, I would tell you exactly what women like you are. You already know that, but you play the theme to satisfy the need to justify yourself. Those who give themselves as an example - are still looking for one. Almost the entire planet looks at you in the same way. Six billion wrong?
And my story is like number 9 and I have nothing to add. We have been living very well for 15 years and the problems in the beginning have been forgotten. Who, whatever slandered, slandered, but every miracle for 3 days. We are no longer relevant and we have no problems with rumors - they tried to separate us, what nonsense we talked, but when they saw that the number did not work, they turned to other victims ... such as number 10 will always be there, but who lets his family and life be ruined is his own fault. Envy and malice know no bounds. Countless families are destroyed by "benefactors", who is left to their own devices!
Given that boys your age develop more slowly and if you grow up faster you are looking for stability (I do not mean only financial) the option is not bad. If a person feels 25, then he looks and behaves like that. It is not said that you are for life or that you will separate. My advice is to give it a try, but it will hurt if he loves you and hides. See how things go if you progress and you're on the same page (ie you both don't want a family yet or you're ready) it's time to share with your parents. By describing to them what strength, security and support it gives you. Life is too short to go beyond your means. Are you in love !! This could be your man! Success Ales
At her age, boys are interested in cars, drugs, poop and more. Being bigger and smarter than you is much better. And no one is talking about material security here ...
№10 your opinion is completely unnecessary and under any criticism. As many women have commented on the difference, so will I. My boyfriend and I are 9 years apart. From wherever you look, there are many. He is not financially stable and cannot offer me a palace, the latest Mercedes or credit cards full of money just for shopping, nor is he the greatest handsome man with a fully athletic body. So according to your comment, I can't find anything in it, but I can't. It offers me love that I can't buy from the shops, it gives me the feeling that I can always count on it and it will always help me, which can't be compared to a leather interior or an automatic car, it predisposes me to I feel happy and ready for it every moment, which cannot be compared to the emptiness of the luxury apartment and most importantly supports me in all endeavors, which I choose for the future, which in general cannot be compared to anything related to money. If you still think that I am with him because of his financial situation, I will tell you that money is nothing - it is earned as it is spent. Money goes for money and if I am smarter I can achieve good financial condition without causing such an unwanted relationship and commitment because of some outfit from a shop window. It's all about understanding the person. The fact that a certain percentage of women choose money does not mean that everyone is limited and unable to make their lives normal and stable. I don't know what kind of women you've come across, but if you think so, then you're limited and you can't offer anything more than flying papers without a specific value, or you just choose women and show them only how wealthy you are,