My story is quite banal, but once I get here for advice, things still can't find a solution on their own. My friend and I have been together shortly after February 14 (this year), and we have known each other since St. Stephen's Day. The story began in a long pursuit on his part, patiently and tenderly he courted me, and I firmly did not give him a month and a half, despite everything, things went ... From the beginning, as maybe every relationship, everything was ok, but very soon everything changed. It's not my first relationship, I think I have some experience, but this guy is just stepping on me. Almost daily quarrels began, it always had to be what he wanted and he stopped complying with my desire for anything, at first I thought I should keep quiet, thinking that he was coming back to me in this way for the long time in which he "chased" me, and I didn't give in to him, but at one point I got used to being silent. Those around me, who were aware of the situation, encouraged me to show character, but I did not, so as not to lose it. It so happened that about a month ago we had an argument (because one day I waited for him for a long time in front of the front door, given the fact that half an hour before we talked that I go to them and do not turn off the phone because he was asleep, yes but no he heard me and I waited long enough for him to be rude to him when he opened it for me, and for him to be affected so much that when he woke up and I was waiting for him in the kitchen, to make dinner and go eat in the other room, whereupon I left, and he directly told me that he would not chase me, but that I had bought beer on the way back), no phones for a whole week, nothing ... I had to give him money and I decided that this would be the occasion to see me, at which, however, he postponed our meeting because you had work to do. I drank, I couldn't stand it and I wrote to him that I was sick, and he told me if I wanted to go to them, which I supposedly did. Things got better. A week later he had forgotten to come and pick me up for a gathering, at which I was angry with his phone, for which he also scolded me, but very brutally, in front of the people he was with (and he knows that my mother died). I went to the place in question and after thousands of apologies, things got better again, I swallowed again ... He recently told me that I was fat, that I needed to lose weight, and I hadn't moved since we met, and then he liked it. Yes, I am fluffy 170 cm 66 kg with pronounced shapes, which I used to like, but now I don't notice .... He is a civil servant with the typical belly which is awful, but it is not an obstacle to be with him even though he is a 24 year old man and 197 it suits him anyway i love him. I really haven't moved in my weight, unlike him, but yesterday I was already overweight. I bought a rocker that he wanted to see how I felt after I put it on, in front of everyone who was in the room (our friends), he said I definitely needed to lose weight and I had cellulite (laughed, but not jokingly), I I countered, and the others defended me because he was wrong. Then I resented him for not thinking about when and what he was saying, and a note of swearing was heard again, but I pretended not to hear him. It so happened that I had to sleep in them, they left us there, and I couldn't catch a taxi at 1 o'clock at night to the other end of town. Today, when I got up and tried to have a conversation with "what are you doing" and when he answered "I do what I want", I smoked a cigarette in their kitchen and left, politely saying "bye" These days he goes to sea and is definitely happy that he will go with his colleague and not with me, for some unknown reason. I don't know him well, but I know there is no other woman, we all know that, we just can't figure out what his problem is. Many times I try to tell myself that I have to dump him, but I don't have the courage, either because I'm afraid I'll lose him (men hurt), or because I blindly love him, I don't complain about fans, they are, but I want him or at least the one he was when we met, not this horrible creature he has become now and I remember being a woman twice a month .... I really don't know what else I do with him, give advice. Our friends tell me to dump him and wait for him to look for me, that he would do it, yes, but I don't think he will do it, and maybe that's why I'm afraid to decide, I just have to be ready to lose him. ,, and I am not. This is my story that I really have no solution for ...
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Drop it! As you men say pain! He doesn't respect you, you don't need a man like that. You must be wanted, wanted, loved and respected, not trampled on. How long do you think you will last with him? I think you can find something much better!
I'm just wondering what you're doing with this bastard. How can you humiliate yourself in this way and tolerate it! Don't you have at least a little self-confidence to infect him and not bother at all with someone who doesn't respect you, to curse you at your mother, given that your mother died (sorry for that) just this person doesn't respect you. Just drop it and don't bother, you won't be angry, why should he make a fool of you in front of your friends and people, it's not worth humiliating yourself like that. There are so many men, and more decent than him, as you describe him as a 24-year-old, just his mind is like an 8th grader, he behaves like a jerk. You may feel sick at first after you break up, but it is experienced. CHARGE IT !!!! Good luck and don't be humiliated anymore, have self-confidence and look ahead
Be a woman with dignity and leave him. Now even you are given such an opportunity after he goes to sea. During this time, write him a text message in which you briefly tell him that you are breaking up.
You can't love a person who behaves like that. Sooner or later you will understand it. Better early !! You have no place next to him, this is absurd, it's not even worth waiting for him to call you, what is this attitude ....
of darling, I'm sorry to have to tell you, but you obviously mean nothing to him. Leave him because you will continue to suffer. Sooner or later it will all be over. At least with dignity. Don't let him humiliate you
Honey, dump him, he's not for you. And I recently thought that I will not forget the former and that he is everything I dreamed of, but it turned out not to be so. Now I met a boy and everything is ok. I sincerely wish it to happen to you as well. he does not deserve you. as they said (and as I once wrote to the former) everything comes back and it will come back to him trampled.
Hey, Darling, since you say there are other men who notice you, why don't you go out with them for a while while the Egoist is gone. Let yourself tan on the beach and fill your belly with whatever comes your way. Very soon, after your first few meetings, you will feel the difference. You won't even miss it. You will easily drop it, without weighing it on your conscience. You will be in love again, but this time happy! Or maybe you will go to sea a little later with your new good boy! You will see!
After all I've read, I wonder why you're still with him? Provided that for 1 woman you tell her she's fat, and she's not, that's it ... Besides, as I read, he's not one of the weakest, so he exposes you to your friends. I really wonder why you are with him, it is really hard to forget and leave a person you love, but you will be able to forget him only after you meet someone better than him! and when I read what he is better than him there are many!
Courage! this simpleton left him. how can you tarp it? tell him to look after his work. he will come to pray for you, but he will be late and find a new urine that deserves you. I had also suffered from one, but fortunately I got rid of it, albeit with great difficulty. I wish you happiness. Good luck
Precisely because he remembers twice a month that he is such a woman. All men with potency problems are grumpy, eternally dissatisfied, and swearing; this is how they manifest the masculine. Drop it. It will get very bad over time. I am 38 years old and I know what you are talking about.
Girl, run a lot away from this complex man. he blames it on you. these are the worst. it can also lead to violence.
Draw him one ...
Drop this one! And write shorter, I couldn't wait to read everything to the end!
If it's not like in the beginning, what else do you do with it? If he "forgets" to take you out with friends, forget him too. Be sure that the sea will not stay like that ... A man is writing to you.
You are very illiterate, your letter - terribly long, I could not read it completely. But this one is obviously not for you, leave it!
As a man, I would like to give you advice. Don't listen to what angry and damaged women write to you here, who presumably accept that men are pigs ... this is like the alternative that all women are whores. I apologize for the vulgarity, but that's just the story. In my opinion, women do not always have to be passive. This bothers a man. He can try, chase her, and she can always wait and hope ... a man would appreciate the fact if the initiative sometimes comes from the woman. for anything. In your case, I understand that you love him and this is the most important thing. Wait for a convenient moment when he is not nervous or angry and just sit down, take the initiative and talk without attacking him. that his guilt is greater, start showing that you understand your mistake so that he can see his own. And for sex .. .well seduce him. When a woman just stands and waits, her husband becomes uninterested. take part, don't just wait for him to remember. remind him.
I don't know if you will get all the way down here but at least I will express myself as best I can :) everyone after a while shows his horns, right;) according to what I read .. you are too good and you allowed him to get on your head .. and that's why now he kicks you like that ... he won't stop nor do I think he will change..this is the human psyche when he sees that he can use you and even makes himself especially happy with himself ..- you go at them, you call him, you come back..a big NUC for these mistakes !!!! not you..he is the man and he must do this if at least once he has done it he means at least a little worth..I have not read even once ... step on your feelings and be with someone who will appreciate what is next to him ;)
I'M FUCKING HIS MOTHER