Hello, I am very confused, angry and I am terribly upset by something in the character of the person next to me. I don't know if that would be a reason to break up with him or if it's too stupid. The story is as follows, I have been in a relationship with a man for about a year. At first I was not so impressed by his boasting, but it grew into something unbearable. He talks all the time, I have money, I have money. I'm a millionaire, I'm big, I'm rich, I'm successful. Non-stop like a mantra repeats it. I don't know what he wants to dine with, as I know him very well, I know he doesn't have much to say. Besides, I liked him as a person, I started a relationship with him not because of how much he has or doesn't have. He constantly insults other people or me, how we are almost miserable mice compared to him. He keeps telling me I hit the jackpot with him, how the others didn't have that much money. I just hated someone talking to me non-stop about money. At the same time, he still lives with his mother. He neither gives me money nor raises my standard. Nor in any way has he shown a better way to me. Again, I didn't get caught up in the money with him. But it's a disease to say that every minute. To repeat to me that I was almost found on the road. I'm a normal girl, I do a normal job and I didn't pretend to be a mercantile muffin or anything more than I am. Is it normal for a man to talk only about money, power and money, money, money ... I thought that even men who really have such money will never say I have money, to tease him and praise him. I think it would be obvious to them in terms of class and standard. I don't know what to do, I'm thinking of dumping it ...
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Hi, I would drop it right now. With money, without money for me, this would be intolerable. Because you cannot humiliate and insult only on the basis of some material status !!! What he does would show me that he is not a good man, he will not be a good husband and father! Even if he raised my standard, I would still be a jerk to him! Not everything in this life is money! What matters is the warmth, serenity and love that your partner gives you. I am a 27 year old woman
I agree with number 1, good speech! I don't know how you put up with it ... I would also drop it, the whole story is absurd. There are complexes, obviously, and they're going through them in some way, and I don't know what nerves you have, so run!
Run on time, it will get worse
Definitely enough to dump it. It is obviously a complete complex. And when you have free time, work on grammar.
There are certainly complexes. Either he comes from a poor family and is trying to erase his origins out of shame, or he comes from a rich family, but he himself has achieved nothing. These are the two options. There is a third - he has no money at all, he just wants to have and creates a fictional image and a standard, which is most often supported by loans.
He lives with his mother and you call him a man? Please, he doesn't even pay his bills! Leave him alone, he is very impudent with his money.
"Besides, I liked him as a person ..." 1. You contradict yourself 2. Get away from this one. Away!
Such "rich people", who live on their mother's back, shovel them into our lands. You don't need one, it will make your life sad.
I have such an acquaintance and, like the author, I get nervous about his boasting about money, even though I have no love affair with him. He lives very frugally in order to have saved is ready to eat moldy bread from last week. Yes, seriously. Incident: We have them, make a "pizza" from slices, as the bread is moldy, rub the mold with a knife, put ketchup and a few circles of sausage and bake in the oven. While his dinner was being baked, he showed me a printout from his bank account that he had BGN 12,000, collected money to buy a cheaply dilapidated house to fix, and then sold it at a high price. This same man surprised me last year by marrying a beautiful accountant, I don't know how this woman tolerates him, especially with her profession, but I hear they lived together. So even for this type of people there are women who can tolerate them.
And what did he like so much "as a person"? He is miserable. I know 1-2 similar, disgusting. Is there a brand new Mercedes for 100 thousand euros? If not, tell him directly.
I can tell you it's some bastard who has money doesn't brag about it. I have a friend who is a really multimillionaire, a super cool dude, there are a lot of Porsche cars, but if you see him without a car on the street you can't say he's a multimillionaire (a millionaire is someone with 1-2 million, a multi is someone by tens if not hundreds). He doesn't even have Facebook and Instagram, very cultured and educated with a solid business. Abe shows his class, this one of yours is someone who wants to pretend to be who he is not - a joker in a word, because rich people do not try to convince anyone of how rich and successful they are, they know they are ;)
I also had money, but I could not afford such a thing. If she had met me. Get away from this man. Let him buy muffins with a lot of money. You can't buy happiness with money. He is looking for a person who is a person with people, regardless of whether he has 2,000,000 in his pocket or BGN 2.
I am the author. Thank you for the advice. Here we are again quarreling over this waste of money. I can't stand someone who obviously doesn't have that much money to treat me like I'm found on the road, and he's a multimillionaire. He left it to me, and he is the same in front of his friends, he always stands out on his own, brags and still has money. But it's easy for them, they laugh behind his back and pass by. And when you spend more time with him, you are at sea, in a restaurant or in the park and the topic is I have money, but I just can't. There is no way to go abroad, return with the collected amount and pretend to be a millionaire. When he scatters his money here, he goes to collect it again. It's not bad to go abroad and make a living like that, but not to be so boastful about that money and humiliate others. I don't think I'll go back to him anymore, now he's calling me and saying let's get back together,
My father is the same. He worked a little abroad, then saved some 2-3-5 thousand euros and then decided that he was rich and no one was busier than him, and we should listen to his nonsense with everyone we met. Then for 2 months. he drinks them and gets lower than the grass and starts playing it victim. My mother failed to change it in 30-40 years, and she will hardly ever succeed. It's even much worse than before. I largely attribute it to his alcoholism. Apparently, when he gets drunk, all his complexes come to light, because his restraints fall. But if yours doesn't drink, then there is some kind of mental disorder that lowers his restraints or just his complexes are too big to suppress and harass him internally, so he has to kill them for someone. Naturally, for this purpose he needs a victim to listen to his nonsense. As you say, his friends drink brandy and leave, laughing maliciously behind his back, but you stay with him to listen to his nonsense until Sabalam, that the next day, the third again, etc. I don't know why you tolerate such a person at all. I can't even tolerate my own father because of this trait, it's good that he's abroad, but I can't tolerate such a partner. No thanks.
Mother's shit. He has never paid rent or bills in his life, probably leaving her to support herself with her pension. He concludes whether such a light deserves a relationship.