Probably the topic has been commented on, but please share from personal experience. I am a divorced woman with responsibilities and a child, I have a male friend, one who is committed is getting closer to me. He is 8 years younger than me, I haven't crossed the border for a long time. However, I think that this sharing on his part, search is no longer pleasant. He seems to be committed to living with his girlfriend, and he is always looking for me to share. I don't pay attention to the things that happen, I stop communicating and after 2 days he is looking for me again. It is not naive, but stupid to expect something and I claim that he is a close friend of mine, but I feel differently in his eyes and behavior, but still the monk, if he wanted to, will not take the step, we have known each other for 3 years. The situation starts to bother me and I am puzzled by his strange behavior. One time let's go to coffee and tell you, it says in the evening, another time hop and as a stranger. I just ask the experienced or those who have had a similar story to scream. Is there such a friendship at all? >
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There is no.
Responsible with a child, but so illiterate ...
I believe in friendship between a man and a woman, but it lies on a thin line. Some people are not able to be close to a person of the opposite sex without wanting him intimately. I suppose it's possible that this friend of yours once allowed himself to see you from another angle and has been driven by curiosity ever since. Such things do not remain hidden for long, it is always obvious - looks, touches, hints, searching for meetings in private. Some act directly, while others are more passive and wait for the "green light". It is possible that you have been alone long enough to try to see various signs of attraction where there are none. Before you were married, then you were shaken by the separation and devoted yourself to the child and work, there was a period in which you did not notice the male attention at all, because love was in the background. What, if your question is caused by your inner desire to experience something romantic, to feel that thrill again? I'm not saying you're suggesting, but I'm saying you need to think about your own desires and needs. Do you want a partner? Do you want exactly this man? I'll tell you straight, it's better to stand on your ass. Let's put aside the nonsense that sex will ruin your friendship, here everyone decides for himself. My opinion is based on the fact that your friend is engaged and shares a roof with his partner. In infidelity, the one who has a relationship is more guilty, but even being a mistress is not a good role. You will enter a love triangle, and this is never pleasant. In the beginning it can be a lot of fun - secret sex, secret meetings, various jokes that others do not even suspect. After a while it's stressful, especially if you know his girlfriend and communicate with her within the normal range. You don't have to be with a man like that, your story is unlikely to end well. If he wants you, but is committed, it is very likely that there is a mess in his head, he feels guilt, mixed with a strong desire to break the rules and therefore behave strangely. If he has no feelings, he just follows his instincts and at the moment decides whether he is next to you or prefers to stay at home. Who hasn't canceled a date with a friend? Who hasn't acted weird when something is bothering him personally but not being shared? Sometimes we look for a calf under the ox, and the man in front of us does not think deeply at all. to feel guilt mixed with a strong desire to break the rules and therefore behave strangely. If he has no feelings, he just follows his instincts and at the moment decides whether he is next to you or prefers to stay at home. Who hasn't canceled a date with a friend? Who hasn't acted weird when something is bothering him personally but not being shared? Sometimes we look for a calf under the ox, and the man in front of us does not think deeply at all. to feel guilt mixed with a strong desire to break the rules and therefore behave strangely. If he has no feelings, he just follows his instincts and at the moment decides whether he is next to you or prefers to stay at home. Who hasn't canceled a date with a friend? Who hasn't acted weird when something is bothering him personally but not being shared? Sometimes we look for a calf under the ox, and the man in front of us does not think deeply at all.