The Choice To Trust

   In my opinion (I am a man) you have some preliminary expectations and ideas about what the relationship between a man and a woman should be and an idealized image of romantic love. I think you are enchanted by these notions, which are probably the fruit of someone's imagination expressed in love novels and series and now they are your ideal with which you compare everything else. Normally - real situations can not be as inspiring as imaginary dreams and therefore they disappoint. You see where the problem comes from, but there is something else. You listen to others, judge their understandings, etc., but such great love is not achieved by passivity, spying on the lives and understandings of others but by activity, courage and action. With too much caution, nothing happens, as they say if you are afraid of bears - do not go into the woods.

   Sometimes I felt the same way. You're obviously depressed. You miss love.

   Hello. I think the same way. But I have never completely trusted anyone because I know we are human. All people are disappointed in my opinion, or at least those I have known and know. And I don't like how most people think, they are wrong, but go tell them ... Try not to be so deliberate, because with your way of thinking you can cause the same consequences. Live your life, but direct your thoughts in that direction - what you want, and experience it in your mind to challenge it. For each person one can find another suitable for him. You are disillusioned. It is important not to betray your own principles and understandings! F22

   You are one of the few people who are looking for something real, so it will not be easy for you, now or at any time, especially amid hypocrisy and false relationships in our society. So in the first place you have to learn to live alone and be alone. I do not say lonely, nor to avoid contact with others, because you can learn a lot from people. You will see that all the difficulties so far have made you stronger and more adaptable, and this is thanks to your communication with people. By myself I mean to be independent, to rely only on yourself and almost no one else, to seek solutions with minimal help, to think and build your own opinion, precisely because most people you can not trust and do not know when they will leave you alone or who will deceive you. Black Sabbath

   From the author :) To number 1 - I'm not commenting on you, it's pointless. To number 2 - so I've been depressed all my life;) It's just that there are people like me, we are not depressed. Number 3 - I always trust as a child, although I'm used to everything on the other side. I do art, so I transform my emotions towards it, something constructive, although when I was younger I was addicted to alcohol, then I had eating disorders, so I had periods of self-destruction from which I came out on my own, and interestingly, I am she re-entered herself, albeit with the help of someone's bad attitude. When there is no one near me I am better, when there is someone near me I am completely absorbed by him / her. You say principles. Yes, that's exactly what I think everyone should be with someone with whom they don't have to worry about being rejected.

   It's been two months since I wrote the topic and my feeling has become even stronger. Most people are unconscious, so they are unable to be - parents, friends, loved ones, spouses. We are here to learn by sharing reciprocity, shared empathy, not to achieve 'happiness'. Understanding human nature and mission, it is actually easy not to look for things that are not set to 'be', namely - things imposed on us such as - true love between people, happiness, mutual trust and to give your life to someone, incl. to your children. Everyone is here, just for himself, to learn and be the best he is capable of, to accept love, but another kind of 'love' is not human - marital, maternal or friendly ..., but love for God, in each of us. I understand that the majority is far from the idea, but I share.

   Number 6 I would say the same thing before I believe in God and not in religions, there has hardly been so much time researching every religion, so one thing is clear to me as nothing else was clear to me. Namely, that there is no God without Christianity, as you think they would not understand you (I have long preferred to be alone), I think you would not understand me, and the topic is very long, the evidence I would present is the same as I have found a search for the truth for years and there is no time here, I say this because I rely on you to be intelligent and as such you will agree that we should always question our current understanding of God, religion and so on. Precisely because any theory constructed to contradict my understanding of God had no real argument, and Christianity always has. I say this with the idea that you will "explore" before you reject my claim. And if you pray from the heart for the truth, you will find it. Indeed, most people are completely unconscious, you are right. I'm more or less sorry I can't talk to you, I'd be interested. Anyway, success in getting closer to God.

   I am Deunovist. Investigate too. I read the Bible, the Gospels, the Old and New Testaments, but Christianity and every religion is like an institution, with bad practices, murders in the name of, God? He does not want murder, he does not want domination. Christianity, led by high clergymen who are simply greedy for power, has done a great deal of harm over the centuries. You talk about science, facts ... there is history, read. And write on the topic!

   An interesting topic. And the most interesting thing is that it is and I think a part of the same things. I would even use the same words to describe these essentially complex processes and concepts that few think about at such a level. As the author, I hardly communicate anymore. It's just that with the years of experience I've gained, I can easily see beyond the masks and roles that are presented to me. Which is normal, we all wear our masks. What annoys me is how to call it "bad acting." Banal, learned types of behavior, polished by the propagandistic norms of what is "cool" and "modern". And the funniest thing is that people who claim originality, intellect, style, do not realize at all that what they are and what they are trying to present to the rest of the world is imposed on them, by means of psychological methods which may not be known to the average man, but there is a stratum of quite clever people who receive some serious money to think of all sorts of tricks that would influence social trends. And in such a way that in the end the individual thinks that he is "free", that his desires, fears, are his own. This, of course, is global. On a personal level, what the author observes is obtained. Now, of course, there will always be people who think differently from the conventional world. There will always be outsiders. Not enough "positive", "open to the world", and other modern clichés. And they will always be pointed at because they are different from the herd. But the fact is that globally, human relations are deteriorating for a number of reasons, each of which deserves a separate topic. Causes due to culture, state, and other factors. A long and not very cheerful topic. Of course, as an author, I thought I was suggesting that I was in some form of depression. That I judge people too much, which is a sign of arrogance. But every time I began to analyze past and present relationships, trying to put subjectivity and emotion aside, I came to the author's conclusions more and more. For example, that when you communicate with others, in general there is no problem if you do not share about yourself. It is enough to be a good listener. And most don't even notice that the "interesting dialogue" is more of a "monologue." Otherwise, as the author said - you become something like a therapist. But at the same time, it happens, though rarely, that I come across real people. Those who have retained this seemingly past ability to make easy contact not because they are desperate loners, behind the mask of a smiling face and well-groomed body, and a positive attitude towards everything and everyone. And because they still have the crazy idea that in communicating with others you should treat your neighbor with respect and dignity. To his time that he gives you, to the interest he has shown in you. And that these things must be mutual. Many people forget this little specificity that applies to cases where you meet a stranger and every phrase, gesture is rather a small step of dance. Who dances by two. And it's important to have a similar sense of tact so that you don't step on your toes and your dance just stops. So it is with long-term relationships. The common denominator is that there must always be reciprocity, to move in unison. Many of the terms I have used are allegories. I just didn't want to use quotes everywhere. Those people who have gone through these processes and are excited by such thoughts will understand. For the rest ... it's not that important. Finally, reading the last sentence of the author, I remembered a very beautiful quote, the meaning of which I find / discover more and more often: "All my life I thought that the worst thing that can happen to you in this life is to be alone. "It's not like that. It's worse to be with people who make you feel alone." PS I really want to come across a topic in which there will not be at least one comment on the topic "Seek God and all your problems will be solved." I don't want to sound disrespectful to them, everyone is free to believe what they want. But this systematic preaching, in other words advertising, it gets a little annoying and starts beating fanaticism. Understand once and for all that people who know how to think rationally, and people who have seen more than one or two ugly things in this life that are a little difficult to explain why God has chosen to happen (such as your child dying in their own hands in a particularly ridiculous way), it is a little difficult for them to explain everything to themselves with God. And this concept of "God just tests us, our faith" is a convenient, but not very logical (and most importantly - true) explanation for all the troubles that for one reason or another happen in our lives. But if you don't understand the real reasons, all these things will happen again as you repeat this phrase to yourself. As an author, I do not want to offend "believers". I just share an opinion and honestly I don't want to get into a dispute with these people, for obvious reasons. But I'm happy for them, really :)

   Number 9 anyone who tells you that God has killed your child obviously has no idea of ​​Christianity, with this statement and example you show only your ignorance. And sharing your beliefs is certainly no worse than sharing how unconscious believers are. I absolutely agree with the words about the imposed opinion, it has always been so and unfortunately it will always be easy to manipulate the table. During one of the many US wars, mass protests against the war erupted because, in their opinion, their US homeland was wrong in this case. Then suddenly he became a soldier and Elvis Presley, by chance, of course, was not a government campaign. And then the same protesters get the insight that even if she is not right, this is your homeland and you have to fight for it, the protests naturally stop. My thought is that I would never have blindly believed if I had not felt what I had not felt, and during which I had the same prejudices as you and the author of religions, they perceive them as a means of control (only) and as people in rasos speaking general things only for the protocol, but in the years of studying every faith in the world, I easily returned to this religion which is in Bulgaria. The topic is really very deep and cannot be exhausted now, but for the second time writing a comment on this topic I will advise you not to be satisfied with your current view of things, but always look for the antithesis of your previous understandings and when you do not find an argument able to at least shake your principles and views, then you will know what is true. The confusion of people is not accidental, it is the main condition for the hierarchical "elevation".

   And which religion is in Bulgaria? Bogomilism, what about him?

   Number 10, I'm 9 and I completely agree with you, especially with your last sentences which synthesize the most correct worldview, in my opinion. My statement was just an example, no one told me anything, nor do I think that God is to blame for anything. Let me emphasize again - everyone is free to believe in what he wants, as long as he does not agitate the others to go and read something. People who deserve attention know perfectly well that they can and always should look for new information, no matter what the topic. And he who seeks finds. The rest is a matter of personal choice, of personal faith. Greetings to all.

   A bitter truth. You will never, ever be understood. You have a unique mind, unique thoughts and unique experiences. You have unique understandings, unique physical appearance, unique personal behavior. This also applies to everyone else. One of the bitter truths is that no matter how much a person wants to be understood by others, it will never happen. This also applies to other people's expectations of you, because they are also not understood. The top abstract justifies why. A person who does not have your experience would understand you only if he truly feels empathy. Empathy is not something that can be easily tested, however, because it usually takes much more than conscious choice.