I have been working for a year and a half, I work in a company of relatives / my boss is an aunt /. There is also a newly appointed colleague at my workplace, with whom we got along very well from the very beginning. But then things started to turn from friendship into more serious relationships. This worries me a lot because I work with relatives and he is married. He is very nice, attractive and I like being with him. This has been the case for 6 months now. I don't know what to do, I'm worried that someone will find out and I already live in a small town and you can't imagine what could happen. And at every convenient moment when we are alone, the colleague comes to me, we kiss, hug, only ....... Please give me advice on what to do, whether to end the relationship and how to do it ...
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In my opinion, don't deal with this colleague ... don't create problems, find someone else with whom you think you can have future success :)
Well, how you all deal with married people was, I don't know, maybe this is a way to kill complexes. A young and beautiful woman can always find a single man who is only with her, and you don't seem to be one of them if you are content to be a second violinist.
Love at work - noooo, I will never make that mistake again. And you have no idea how things change after consuming flirtation! But you still decide.
If you like this man and you enjoy him, act with him. It's cute because it's secret. Grab a handful of this connection and don't care. You will be really happy. Forbidden is the sweetest. His wife just doesn't understand, so you don't cause him problems. But it will be very difficult for you to share it with her. You will be constantly alone. It is a punishment to love a married man. Good luck.
Only problems can arise from this. The pleasure is in the adventure of biting the forbidden fruit. But what is anonymous in the big city does not apply to small towns and you will soon feel it. The boy is bored and wants to have fun, to go on business trips more often and not to get out ........ at work.
Believe me, you can't get anything but problems. I know how strong the temptation is, but think about whether it's just a desire for what is forbidden. This will not only confuse your personal life but will also cause problems at work. For example, because of such a case, I quit my job, which I liked very much and he didn't care a gram. He's just a man whose hormones are raging.
If he's with you just for sex, dump him, it's not worth giving him pleasure in exchange for what-? If he loves you, let him dump his wife to tell her the truth, there is no point in making fun of the woman, just put yourself in her place ... it is understandable that you have a human relationship, but ... either you or her. Don't let them use you, and when you get tired of saying goodbye, I have a wife. Give him a choice .......
Offff, it can be very cool, but these things are hard to hide ... someone will find out someday if you continue .. That's why I advise you not to play with fire anymore.
I will tell you that someone like you broke my family and we have a child. Think carefully about whether it is worth ruining two human lives because hormones are just raging or someone is bored. Why do you mess with married people at all?
To № 10, because your husband doesn't mean that people like me are guilty, those married men are pushing, not those like us ...
Don't leave him go on with him don't care if he feels better with you and you're with him
It is not good to mess with a married man, because it will only bring you problems. But if he loves you, he has to decide who he wants to live with - you or his wife, because this secret relationship is unlikely to continue in secret. I don't want to disappoint you, but have you ever wondered if he just uses you for fun and can leave you after he enjoys it. You need to solve this problem and also think about his wife, who does not know about it. If he finds out, he will feel terrible, believe me! Decide, people.
I would never, ever allow this thing with a married man. If he is single, if he is in the process of divorce, yes, but to take the father of a child and make fun of the wife who is waiting for him at home, never!
There is a saying - do not get that job where you get your bread. He is also married. Mission impossible, sweet girl. Give up - it's hardly love to be worth fighting for. It is more likely to be flirting and staggering on both sides.
Dear girl, most people would say that in the 15th comment you should not deal with married men, I would say listen to your heart. I hope it decides what is best.
That's how I listened to my heart. Young fool I fell in love with a married colleague. He was 32 with two children, I was 25. And he fell in love with me. He divorced because of me. Now, 7 years later, I can tell you that if I had to go back, I would never do it again. I would say stop to my heart and leave the workplace. Although we have our 5 year old boy. I see that he is suffering for his previous family. He tries in every way to please them and we seem to stay in the background. All this affects our relationship and is not good. We started arguing ... So his ex-wife is not at all easy with two boys who are entering puberty, it is very difficult for me to communicate with them. They don't accept me, they don't accept my brother well either. I don't know how we will drive it in the future ..
Hmmm, a wonderful man, with values, with morals, respecting the family and the woman next to him. Straight jackpot! Get it fast! Do his wife a favor - free her from the presence of this mouse. He will be different with you, there will be no other colleagues in his life, right?
Many of the comments are disapproving, mine will be the same, but I will motivate him in another way. It's very good for you now, for him too. You are younger than his wife, I guess more beautiful, your vagina is narrower (she gave birth after all), etc. These are your pluses in his eyes. You also didn't make serious demands on him - you don't want to break up with your wife, you just want to have fun. Accordingly, you are wonderful for him, because you do not burden him with requirements and problems. On the other hand, most of you are itching not to learn your relatives and not to be heard in the small town. Everything described tells me a few things: 1. You do not love him, but you are very attracted. 2. He may think he loves you, but if you want something more serious, you will fall into his wife's situation. Have you not wondered why this infidelity happened? I can give you an answer without thinking much. First, this woman requires from her husband - time, attention, money, child care. Today's men are largely reluctant to take responsibility for their families. I have a girlfriend who, after much torment, married one. A few years later, when they had a child, he left her for another colleague with silicone in his lips and breasts. 3. There is a real prospect of getting the so-called "bad name" in a small town. Then no one will want you. Yes, once you get a reputation as a family breaker, not only will men shy away from you, but you can lose a lot of friends. In the big city no one cares, but in the small one such things are discussed, beautified and spread for years, because people just have no other job. 4. There may be consequences for you and the relatives, e.g. to fire you. What as your employer is your aunt, the workplace is not designed to push. 5. What would you do if his wife knocked on your door and asked you for an account? What will you tell her? Or it didn't cross your mind at all. The injured woman is capable of anything, you can expect various forms of revenge - from flat tires on the car to inspections by the National Revenue Agency and social isolation. EVERYTHING. Because this woman will fight for her family. Also, this woman has relatives, as does your lover. Haven't you ever thought that in your small town all their relatives might come to accuse you of ruining their family? There may be threats, expectations, harassment. Now think about the moral qualities of this colleague of yours. What we know about him: - He is new to the company and immediately turns to a young colleague, with whom he begins to make love. "He neglects his wife and child so he can have secret meetings with his mistress." Yes, that's the word, you're like that. - He abuses the trust of an employer who gave him a chance, hired him. - He doesn't promise you anything, he just uses you for sex. "He definitely doesn't want his wife to understand." This "relationship" was doomed in the first place. You have two options - to interrupt it before you get caught, or not to interrupt it and wait for the inevitable. If you're lucky enough not to get caught before you scratch your scabies - great, you win the memory of an adventure to warm up your old days. However, if you get caught, be prepared for any options. Do you want this unfortunate so much? "He neglects his wife and child so he can have secret meetings with his mistress." Yes, that's the word, you're like that. - He abuses the trust of an employer who gave him a chance, hired him. - He doesn't promise you anything, he just uses you for sex. "He definitely doesn't want his wife to understand." This "relationship" was doomed in the first place. You have two options - to interrupt it before you get caught, or not to interrupt it and wait for the inevitable. If you're lucky enough not to get caught before you scratch your scabies - great, you win the memory of an adventure to warm up your old days. However, if you get caught, be prepared for any options. Do you want this unfortunate so much? "He neglects his wife and child so he can have secret meetings with his mistress." Yes, that's the word, you're like that. - He abuses the trust of an employer who gave him a chance, hired him. - He doesn't promise you anything, he just uses you for sex. "He definitely doesn't want his wife to understand." This "relationship" was doomed in the first place. You have two options - to interrupt it before you get caught, or not to interrupt it and wait for the inevitable. If you're lucky enough not to get caught before you scratch your scabies - great, you win the memory of an adventure to warm up your old days. However, if you get caught, be prepared for any options. 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From the articles on this site I am left with the impression that the workplace does not work, but flirts with married men and married women ... That is why there is no business in BG and young people run away. Those young people who do not want to fuck the boss to hire them !!!