Hello! I am writing to you because I do not know what to do. I am a 23 year old woman and I live in Sofia. I study and am a third year student and I train children in tennis, I have many other activities. I have had a serious relationship for 2 years, we live together but we fight a lot and it doesn't affect me well. It's just that sometimes, because he's much bigger than me, I expect him to understand me, to forgive me even if I'm wrong, to have no perfect people and not to be petty. I do everything for him, I shop, I take care of the home, I take care of him and I give as much money as I can for the general budget. He also helps me, but sometimes his attitude towards me and scandals make me hesitate. There's one more thing, I'm constantly thinking about a man I know vaguely but works at my university. He's a teacher there and I know it's stupid, but something about him attracted me. The way he looks at me for a long time and the slight smile makes me melt, maybe everyone has experienced this feeling. In the crowd, he doesn't seem to notice the others, and as he speaks, he looks at me all the time. He also talks to me often, I think about him often and I realize that he is different with me. I want to meet him, but he's a teacher there, and I don't know if he's engaged. If I send him an invitation on Facebook, I will present myself in a purely friendly way. Tell me what to do?
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First decide your own worries in the current relationship. Obviously the problems are there. The rest you can decide for yourself when the time comes. There's a reason people don't approve of this kind of teacher-student relationship, so you need to think about whether social stigma is worth it.
At 23, she lives as a 50-year-old aunt in a village forgotten by God ... like many other women. Maybe an uncle for a boyfriend / obviously a Ganian type /, gray everyday life, slavish servitude, everyday life ... a nightmare! Instead of arranging their lives, going out, wearing nice clothes, going on vacations and living their lives with young cool boyfriends. An absolute nightmare, very unfortunate how much some are struggling and to cover up the whole misunderstanding, this type of miserable existence is called "valuable life". ж22
Because of this other man, you want to break up with the person next to you. Decide what to do and try not to hurt people. They wrapped your head up and let's split up now. Either you are with your man or as soon as you question him, part with him and suffer the consequences. I do not understand what is difficult for him in your situation and how you think that someone else will solve your problems better than you can make your own decision. PS After 2 years with this new one you will be in the same position as you are with this current one. People are not so different and even more so… such is life.
You are all right and thank you for your time. I don't live like an aunt, but I'm mature and I don't like a hectic life. I love to be pampered, like any woman, and I support myself. The situation is not so simple, because he is not an uncle, even his behavior is slightly childish. It is a difficult character and this prevents everything from going smoothly. I am young and I would never forget myself for a man, I have a stable family in every aspect. It's just that when a woman has to give a lot of love to a man and is committed to a relationship, it's not a mistake, it depends on the other person how she will accept it and whether she is ready to accept that she has the right to make mistakes. I wish you all the best!
2 - Young-nice boyfriends who are washed by their mother and are waiting to have children to turn 50. A mass of 30 Bulgarians do not have children, didn't you make a living until the age of 30?
Until but. 2 Because of people like you, my ex is about to become a prostitute, on drugs. Two or three such whores told her that she deserved to change her young like handkerchiefs because she was beautiful. And yes, there were everyday life, there were great moments, and we traveled the world and visited the beaches of half of Southeast Asia. And I bought her nice clothes. And I cooked, and I cleaned at home. Now I am convinced that she simply never deserved me. If she believed in such superficial muffins, then she herself was superficial. It hit me so many complexes that I have no intention of being any woman at all. Definitely lately I see in women only a whore, exploitative behavior. I better not be with anyone else, I'm probably going to hurt some innocent girl,
What is difficult? Drop your grandfather, he's not your man. Do not rush into a new relationship later. This sounds frivolous to the teacher, it's a kind of indication to you that your relationship is going to an end, something like an escape and salvation from nasty thoughts about the present. Act, relax, have fun, the right one will come! Success!
If your current relationship is not going well, talk to your friend and end it. No sense in telling you now - I don't wanna ruin the suprise. Then, if you want, contact the boy you like. But don't do it behind your current boyfriend's back.
6, give me a bank account here, the young people will collect some money to buy a nice washing machine. I'm serious. And don't be so jealous, but do something constructive with your life. Having children who must have grown up and abandoned them should not be a waste of time in the lives of today's young people. Enroll in a dance class, for example, or learn a foreign language. Develop. Communicate with other peers in your situation - I bet they are not few at all. Good luck and be a positive person despite the past.
I decided to stay with my current boyfriend. Maybe I was angry with him and that's how I reacted. He is not an old man or similar by some definitions, he is just 15 years older than me, but he looks 20. Despite all the difficulties, I will not give up overcoming them together. I can't throw away a good relationship so easily. Time will tell. Everyone decides how to live their life and I decided to study, to work in the specialty, I was a competitor and I can still be and most of all I chose to live a meaningful life with a loved one and this is the reality for me, not life full of parties and windy. We go on vacation, but life is not just fun. He has a stable and responsible job, but he is always by my side. Believe me, I can be a pseudo model or something else, because this is the situation in Bulgaria, but I don't want to.
The relationship with your friend is not going well and for that on a subconscious level you are looking for another object of feelings. In this case he is a teacher. I don't think you're really in love with him, it's just someone who obviously paid attention to you, was nice to you, and because you're a little confused and vulnerable right now, you decided you were in love. That's why it's best to break up with your friend, because it's obvious that your relationship isn't good, but he's not doing anything about the teacher in question. First, as I said, you're not even sure it's love, not just sympathy, and second, as I wrote to a boy a while ago who thinks he's in love with his chemistry teacher, you don't know anything about this person outside. his professional field. You are not in love with man X, but with teacher X, ie in the image you see in lectures. And you really don't know anything about him as a person. Yes, He obviously loves his job and treats his students well, but what do you really know about him? About his life after the lectures? Well nothing! So how can you fall in love with someone you don't know? So first break up with your boyfriend, stay alone for a while, sort out your thoughts a bit, go through the most emotional period after the breakup, and then think about a new relationship.
To 13 - I'm not in love with my teacher, I just noticed how he looked at me, but it doesn't matter, because it was a difficult period for me and a lot of men pay attention to me. It's not bragging or anything, but I didn't die getting male attention. Sometimes I'm even quite hated by women for this masculine attention to me. I have always been faithful to my friend and I am not a dreamer and I know that there will be many more difficulties in our relationship, but I am ready for them if he agrees.