Hello. My story is short, unlike the endless wounds and the void it left in me. I'm a young girl. Beautiful. Smart. But not in love. I'm still alone. I've never had a relationship. I am 25 years old. I am distrustful and closed. It's not like they didn't call me temerut. I rarely communicate with men. I have no such friends. There is a thrill for them, but something always happens and love never comes. There is no intimacy, no soul contact - the things that lead to a relationship. I met a boy 2 years ago. We went out and walked once. Then he went abroad. We kept writing to each other and got used to each other. Every day we shared, we wished each other good night .. and I seem to have fallen in love .. Did I mention that I am stupidly in love? It just hadn't occurred to me to keep in touch with anyone that long, albeit virtually. Somehow strangely attached. He invited me to visit him. Directly, indirectly, he told me anyway. I was so small, stupidly proud and disoriented to make such a decision and give myself a chance with someone I really got close to. He waited for me for a while, hoping he would think about it. And because we are in reality and because he is a nice man, at one point he just gave up and found the woman next to him. I accepted things as they are without drama. It hurt, but in the end I wanted him to be happy. I wanted to, but until I realized that his absence was killing me. I confessed my feelings to him. He was silent. Whether out of insult, shock or disappointment from my delay, but I do not want to believe that from nepukism. This reaction derailed me and I continued to write to him. I am confused because it suits me and does not repel me - something that a man in love and commitment would do. Moreover, he knows about my feelings for him. I don't understand his demeanor!
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Only he can tell you that. You are 25 years old and you have not had a relationship, which for me means that you have probably clung to the idea of this man, dreaming, wanting him and thinking much more than necessary. Over time, one gains experience and this experience teaches him not to delve into stories that are sung songs. He probably didn't know how to react, so he chose to pretend he never wrote those lines. Very convenient, but not helpful at all. Such conversations are conducted face to face, and such confessions, especially if they are accompanied by any expectations and demands, are not made when the other is bound. Your mistake was that you waited too long to gather courage. If a dating and flirting lasts a long time, it is very possible that it will never grow into something more. Before, I kept waiting, I don't know what I was waiting for, but I didn't take steps without a strong push, I didn't know how to respond to invitations, and I kept wondering what I would look like in other people's eyes if I were anything. This is not right, no one can stand still forever waiting for you to share your feelings. They say that there are 20 steps between a man and a woman and everyone should make their 10 - no more, no less. It's a little late now, it doesn't interfere with his new relationship and he doesn't interfere there, nothing good comes out of such stories. And he is far away, the first connection, even from a distance, will not affect you well. Relax a little, men are not scary creatures, they are just people and it is extremely easy to communicate with them, if you do not worry unnecessarily about nonsense. A man may notice if you're well dressed, but he won't care if your bag doesn't fit on your shoes, there is no such commenting and judging on their part. Overcome yourself and don't describe yourself as a temerut because I don't believe you are. And you're just a person, like everyone else, you have your quirks and worries, you just have to work a little on these things to feel more confident. If he had a strong interest in you, he would have taken action himself after your confession and would have talked to you to clarify, if nothing else. Don't think about it anymore and move on. It is normal and purely human not to start with insults and actions, it is useless to cut you off rudely and ignore you after you have poured out your heart. Of course, once he's engaged, he should tell you that he has no interest and it's too late that he can't be with you, but he obviously didn't want to hurt you and chose to ignore what happened. Don't make unnecessary movies and never analyze such situations. Women have a habit of thinking a lot about their relationships with men, and they should be accepted as they are and not dig into it.
It happened to me because you didn't go to him. How long did you think he would be waiting for you?
And do you understand your behavior ?! Mara remembered ... leave the man alone!
Why are you surprised by his behavior? He offered you once, you refused. Maybe he still has feelings for you and is waiting to see how things will turn out. Wait if you care so much about him.
He did not keep silent from insult, shock or disappointment, but to save you the direct words, which will be a disappointment for you and which in the end will not bring him any benefit. It is obvious that you have no experience with men. Don't get into movies. Learn your lesson. Smiles! Ž
I do not understand why a young girl, beautiful and smart, is full of such melancholy and self-pity. In my opinion, the boy responds with respect and good manners. You cut it once. And you claim that you were small 2 years ago. At 23, he can't justify being small at all. Rather inexperienced, for which melancholy and self-pity are again to blame. Turn a new page, do new things and meet new people to relax and learn to feel good in your skin