Hi, I'm a girl and I work a lot. The guys I come across just want sex and some things like blowjobs and anal sex that I don't like. My question is, should I catch someone and meet my father's social norms and desires and live a life I don't want and be unhappy, or be alone and live the way I want and be happy? I do not understand why only a married woman is considered a happy woman. I'm fine like that.
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In short, you are asexual. In that case, there is no way to start a family with a man, you have also decided not to have children. I don't know your age, but if you grew up, a single woman, what do you care about your father's opinion? Never create a family in a lie. Now what you crush is at your expense, even if you make a mistake is at your expense, but when the children appear, you are already responsible for other beings. Now your father may seem important to you, but he is not really compared to your possible children! Do not create a family in a lie. Live better that way, Hera
What are the social norms for intimate life? What a person likes in bed and practices is his individual desire and society has no voice there. As long as you want it and your partner wants it (and it's legal), everything is fine. You've had bad luck with men so far, that's what I think. It is normal for sex to be commented on by partners and for everyone to be free to express their preferences and make suggestions for new practices, but no adequate person will force, force or beg you constantly. If you have a desire, try this or that, you may like it. In case your boyfriend's preferences terrify you, pass. Do not complicate simple life situations. My personal opinion is that one has to try different things to judge what one likes, but it is normal to have boundaries that we do not cross, because they are against our understandings. You decide what and for whom to do. Do not give up the whole male class for the sake of a few of its representatives. For now, live as you want, work and smile every day, and your man will appear and you will fit, you will feel it.
Live your life and your father doesn't think so - to have thought more about what he wanted at the time and to have had more children, so that at least someone would make his dreams come true. Change your environment as soon as you are surrounded by such primitive people, if necessary go abroad.
Apparently you have not yet met the person to fall in love with, who to fall in love with you and not be able to breathe without each other. It makes sense that things like blowjobs and anal sex, requested by boys who want you for one night, sound disgusting to you. But with a loved one, there are no disgusting things. On the contrary, they are extremely pleasant. I thought the same way as you. My husband showed great understanding and patience (at least, he had to "wait" for 4 months at the beginning of our relationship to agree to have sex). Now I look for the things described above myself, I want them and I am the active party, because it gives me incredible pleasure.