Hello, thanks to everyone who will answer me. I am a boy of 17. I lived until 1 year ago without knowing my father - without giving an explanation when I was 1 year old he dumped me. Well, I met him on his initiative - a complete jerk, with an apology. After which he disappeared again. I'm a typical traffic jam. The only good things in my life are my mother and grandmother, who love me very much, and my excellent grades - the "strongest" from my school graduation. A few years ago, I liked a girl we were friends with at first, but another girl set her up against me and she hated me so much that she hasn't contacted me since. Naturally, naively, I continued to communicate with the girl who scolded us (Only on the Internet!). After a while, I started to like her, despite her cruel nature. When I disagreed with her or didn't do something, which tells me, insulted me in every way, envied me for my results in school (We were in the same class). The worst thing, though, was that she didn't even look at me at school, and she was a hell of a shame for others to know she had anything to do with me. Gradually, my grief grew into malice, and I insulted her in front of her friends, which she endured badly. She hated me even more, and we became more estranged. About half a year ago, I gave her a second chance, but I realized that she had stayed the same, so I cut off contact with her again. Although we haven't been in the same class for 3 years, I can't stop thinking about her, and what hurts me the most is the fact that she doesn't even think about me, as if we haven't shared together for 7 years. In short, she kept going, but I couldn't. I have no friends, even my cousin avoids me and only looks for me, when he needs me - he prefers his friends to me - who I am is his relative. Separately, school takes up 80% of my free time and I don't have time to go out, I don't have money - I still have 1 parent. My grandfather also died 2 years ago, and he somehow replaced the father figure in my life. For the first few months, I was even on sedatives. How to move forward - Father and cousin who do not give five money for me! ; Poor thing, I don't have money for soda - just for breakfast, let alone for a boyfriend! ; The girl I would give anything for, she doesn't care about me! "My first love" is silent to me - and I don't know why (how "my second love" lied to her), and that kills me - because we were best friends at the time. ; No friends to lean on. I only draw strength from God and from a few thoughts / dreams, namely, to become wealthy and help my grandmother and mother with whatever I can to make them live well. To understand the reasons why my ex-girlfriend hated me so much (I just have to convince her for a 30-minute conversation) and to make the love of my life (which is also the culprit for most of the suffering in my life) respect me - to mean something to her. So how do I find happiness ...
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The strongest of the issue writes nastroY! ?? Your ego is releasing ...
Dude, I don't think a girl should like you for the money. She was a fool. She hardly deserved you and hardly appreciated you. Don't worry, you will find a girl much better than her, even she will want you, but it will be too late. You are still young, your life will be fine. The sun will always shine on your street.
The most important thing is that you have goals and this is what will help you overcome social depression. Thus, first of all, this "loss" in school happens to a very large percentage of students at this age, precisely because others try to find themselves and feed their egos through ridicule and insults. It will pass with time. You can start training. The body definitely helps you to rise in the eyes of others, but only if you do not do it by force, but for a clear reason. He also mentioned that you have good grades, which leads me to think that you are a smart and intelligent boy with a good soul. Find a friend / friends of the same level, because otherwise you will not be appreciated properly. Start listening to a certain style of music (which you will like, and you will be able to pour out your soul by listening to it). WHATEVER HAPPENS, don't lose success in school. You should set this as your # 1 goal. It will serve you in time as your best friend ever, because believe me there are no real friends or at least they are very difficult to find. Since you said you don't have a lot of wealth, limit yourself to unnecessary work. Buy clothes that you like and deserve the price. And leave the bills to your mother and grandmother. Believe me, at times it may seem to you that they are the people who prevent you from finding a social life, but you can always talk to them. I will not comment on this with the girls at all. You will only hurt yourself. There is nothing to tell you, they will be silent and wonder what to answer as you stand in front of the most emotional picture of the world possible, look naively and blame yourself. It's not worth it if things don't work out, so there is no point in digging more. Finally, I will say that happiness is sought throughout life. The most important thing you need to do is to stand by your relatives, to find worthy friends, with that your girlfriends will come and to take each other by the hand, not despairing but starting to change some aspects of your life. You can start watching movies. And do not understand the latter as an accusation, but as inciting words in the good sense. I wish you success, do not give up. Life is wonderful and you are just beginning to understand it. You can start watching movies. And do not understand the latter as an accusation, but as inciting words in the good sense. I wish you success, do not give up. Life is wonderful and you are just beginning to understand it. You can start watching movies. And do not understand the latter as an accusation, but as inciting words in the good sense. I wish you success, do not give up. Life is wonderful and you are just beginning to understand it.
Set goals in life. To have a profession, what you want to achieve. This is not pleasant with your father, but it happens. Now somehow you are the man in your family. For the two girls, break up with both and look for another girl. Your first girlfriend is very naive and your second is manipulative. Don't deal with both. The first one may find out in years how she was deceived, but so far there is nothing you can do. In general, set a goal for what you want to study or work. Dream.
I understand that it is very difficult for you. I am also with a parent - my mother died a few months ago. My grandmother often visits us, helps us and stays with us for a week or two (she lives in another city). But I have great friends that I hold dear and dreams that give me hope. I am sure that you will also meet people who will be your support. Just be strong and hold on, life is really really cruel sometimes, but fight and know that one day everything will be fine.
I will tell you how to find happiness - breathing exercises, stable learning of something suitable for faster professional realization (such as IT or other, for which good specialists are sought), enriching the worldview with appropriate literature, drawing one (mental) a jester of your two ex-girlfriends, denying any claims to relatives. You are young, you do not waste your time in harmful torments, but you build your future, that time passes.
Hi, it's the author. I want to say a few things to each of you. To number 1: I wrote the story late in the evening, the time proves it and I was extremely tired. In my opinion, it is neither smart nor mature for a person to draw conclusions about another person's intellectual level as to whether he has made a few punctuation errors, not to mention that, as I have already clarified, they are due to fatigue and not ignorance. People of all kinds, I try not to pay attention to people who can only criticize. Thank you for your help! To number 2: The reason for her behavior is not money. Although she doesn't appreciate me, even worse - she doesn't think about me at all, I love her. I know she doesn't deserve it, but I still love her. To number 4: I've already set a goal (see story). My first love was as a child, because at the moment I don't like it. However, I value my friends very much, and I honestly feel guilty about the past circumstances with our friendship. It hurts me that we were such good friends, and now he doesn't even want to listen to me. For the man in the family - I think you're right. That's why I try so hard at school - so that I can then find a high-paying job and help my family as much as I can. To number 5: I'm sorry about your mother, I understand how you feel because I've been through the same thing. Unlike you, however, I don't even have friends. You are right, I will be strong, in spite of the cruel life and the people who hurt me so much. I will succeed so that they understand that they were wrong - I will deserve the friendship of the first and the respect of the second girl at any cost! and frankly, I feel guilty about the past circumstances with our friendship. It hurts me that we were such good friends, and now he doesn't even want to listen to me. For the man in the family - I think you're right. That's why I try so hard at school - so that I can then find a high-paying job and help my family as much as I can. To number 5: I'm sorry for your mother, I understand how you feel because I've been through the same thing. Unlike you, however, I don't even have friends. You are right, I will be strong, in spite of the cruel life and the people who hurt me so much. I will succeed so that they understand that they were wrong - I will deserve the friendship of the first and the respect of the second girl at any cost! and frankly, I feel guilty about the past circumstances with our friendship. It hurts me that we were such good friends, and now he doesn't even want to listen to me. For the man in the family - I think you're right. That's why I try so hard at school - so that I can then find a high-paying job and help my family as much as I can. To number 5: I'm sorry for your mother, I understand how you feel because I've been through the same thing. Unlike you, however, I don't even have friends. You are right, I will be strong, in spite of the cruel life and the people who hurt me so much. I will succeed so that they understand that they were wrong - I will deserve the friendship of the first and the respect of the second girl at any cost! That's why I try so hard at school - so that I can then find a high-paying job and help my family as much as I can. To number 5: I'm sorry about your mother, I understand how you feel because I've been through the same thing. Unlike you, however, I don't even have friends. You are right, I will be strong, in spite of the cruel life and the people who hurt me so much. I will succeed so that they understand that they were wrong - I will deserve the friendship of the first and the respect of the second girl at any cost! That's why I try so hard at school - so that I can then find a high-paying job and help my family as much as I can. To number 5: I'm sorry for your mother, I understand how you feel because I've been through the same thing. Unlike you, however, I don't even have friends. You are right, I will be strong, in spite of the cruel life and the people who hurt me so much. I will succeed so that they understand that they were wrong - I will deserve the friendship of the first and the respect of the second girl at any cost! in spite of the cruel life and the people who hurt me so much. I will succeed so that they understand that they were wrong - I will deserve the friendship of the first and the respect of the second girl at any cost! in spite of the cruel life and the people who hurt me so much. I will succeed so that they understand that they were wrong - I will deserve the friendship of the first and the respect of the second girl at any cost!
You are welcome in life. I always feel out of place, without friends and lonely, even for people on the sidelines. Everyone thinks that everything is perfect for me, and it is increasingly becoming a huge nightmare from which I do not know how to get out and move on. I make goals, I dream, but it still doesn't work. On the one hand, on the other and again problems. (or healthy parents, or lack of money, or career suspension - something I've been fighting for for years. The lack of a boyfriend and friends doesn't even consider it that important, but it bothers me sometimes and I can cry for days without anyone knowing. because I do not want questions and regrets). A few tips for you: -Don't think of yourself as a traffic jam, even if they stick labels on you. -Take yourself more positively and listen to the advice of number 4. A 23-year-old girl
Being with a parent, having a naughty cousin (what do you care about him ?!) and the fact that two girls cut you off make you feel that way? I have bad news. Tighten up, realize that your life is good, life in general is good and remember that you will have to go through much more serious trials.
My boy, I understand that it is hard for you now, but this is life. And he is for you. Tighten up and study hard - this is the way to succeed in life and realize yourself. This is also the way your "love" respects you. It is not for you - experience it and find the real one. Don't give up and your path is only upwards. The most successful people on the planet had a much harder childhood than you. Do not despair but tighten up and succeed.
1. Many things are not true - you have so many elementary mistakes that I just can't believe you are the strongest in the class. And if it's true - what school do you go to? 2. It's as if your whole world revolves around other people, and those who crush you. You enter this circle on your own. Get out of it. Look for life elsewhere! Ž
He is the author. I want to thank everyone who supported me. Let me say a few things about the others who got involved. Number 3: Thank you very much, I agree with everything you said. I am also of the opinion that family is the most important thing. Number 6: Thank you for the advice. Even now I'm studying my favorite subject at home, and it's great for me - it's like a hobby. Number 8: I hope you overcome all your problems, and try to move forward as I will. do. Number 9: Maybe they are right that I should not live in the past, but only in the present. I don't really agree that I shouldn't pay attention to my cousin, because we are still one blood, but everyone has a different mindset. Number 10: That's what I'm going to do. Now I understand that only a self-respecting and successful person, inspires respect. I will do my best to shake off my past, and keep going forward and upward. Number 11: Everyone has the right to believe what he / she wants. You don't think I'll tell you where I study - after all, the story is anonymous. I will only say that I am from Sofia. About your advice - and the other extreme is not good. If a person's life revolves only around himself, he / she is a narcissist. Finally, I will say that I will do everything in my power to make my dreams come true. If a person's life revolves only around himself, he / she is a narcissist. Finally, I will say that I will do everything in my power to make my dreams come true. If a person's life revolves only around himself, he / she is a narcissist. Finally, I will say that I will do everything in my power to make my dreams come true.
It is an unnecessary waste of energy to prove anything to someone, especially to people who do not respect you and have decided that you have no place in their lives. . I wish you one day to become wealthy, but I hope you do not remain bitter and disappointed when you realize that money will not make you happier and build a real relationship with people. Now it seems so, because you do not have them and you have the feeling that they are at the root of all your problems, but you will understand that this is not the case. And don't let anyone be disrespectful to you and stay away from people who don't share your values (it's not clear from your post if you have any at all).
The fact that you do not have a father and you are something like the man in the family burdens you unnecessarily. Do not consider yourself the man in the family, but tell yourself that you are a teenager and enjoy life. Your mother and grandmother can handle it on their own, so don't worry about having to endure it from now on. Gradually you will finish and find your way in life. There is nothing you can do for the two girls. Probably the first one liked you and her supposedly 'girlfriend' - the second one decided to pour water on her and take you down. Probably the second one lied to the first thing about you and the first girl believed her. Well, the second one took you down, her insidious plans to make you both unhappy have succeeded. The second is a dishonest person, a bad person and don't deal with her at all. Who knows what trouble he might get you into. That she hurt you with the first girl is enough for you. She has outplayed you and you can't earn her respect. To do that, you have to be a bad, manipulative person who plays with others, and you don't look like that to me. You look like a good person to me. So the second one doesn't affect you well, it hurt you badly, it quarreled with the girl you're holding on to. And it's better for you to break up with her. In order not to feel unhappy, clean up the dishonest and bad people around you. It's simple. Find another girl.
"You don't think I'm going to say where I'm studying - the story is anonymous after all." That's not a problem. Tell us, so that we know which school we should avoid when enrolling our children.