The Inevitable "cohabitation" With The Ex-partner

   It has happened to me. You don't get used to it and you can't stand it, not if you still have deep feelings. Distance, ending communication and finding another, this is the way out.

   Oh, nothing special. You will reunite, split, drive and reconcile periodically until one of you feels genuinely tired from this whole game. Your joint company will stop believing that you are together or that you have broken up, they will not want to look at you at all, they may even hit you with slippers. Then you will either get used to being in a room or you will even hold hands. My experience has shown that this really happens most often. My comment sounds funny, but I'm very serious. I have a similar story and I have seen the same thing from the side so many times that I just cry. Emotions will always be strong until you are overwhelmed with them.

   I sympathize with you. I am in your situation. We live block by block, and now he will even move to my school (I am in 12th grade if it matters). In general, things are more complicated for me because he still has feelings for me. .I tried to be friends with him so that we don't look at each other in blood because it's not pleasant, but it didn't work out and now we don't even know what kind of relationship we are in: D. After all, you were with this person and you had feelings for each other. another and I do not think it is an option after the termination of the relationship not to be tolerated. If everything is experienced between you and there are no feelings, there is nothing wrong in my opinion in the friendship between exes. most reasonable at least to "hello" to stay. However, we should not behave as children, but as adults. I do not know what to tell you, but I thinkthat if there is nothing left between you, it will not be a problem even if you understand each other and have some communication, but if not ... things will be more complicated.

   My former fellow student from abroad, with whom we had a passionate five-year relationship, is currently visiting me. We remained friends, time and distance separated us, but we maintain a completely platonic relationship. My husband, who is aware of the situation, was a little jealous, but when he saw our relationship, he calmed down completely. Apart from the friendly hug at the airport when we met him, my guest did not touch me with his finger. She treats my husband with respect, and she treats me like a close friend. I have been working for 14 years with a man with whom we also had a relationship at the time. Well, we've been on business trips together a hundred times. Everyone sleeps in the room and so, there has never been anything else. Maybe, author, you are too young and you can't control your feelings. Physical separation is not the solution if you are still attracted to each other. But if the fire has already gone out, I see no reason to worry that you will have to see each other often. Sometimes the strongest friendships begin with a brief relationship, which, when physical attraction disappears, grows into spiritual intimacy.

   I also had it at work. He does circuses, not me. I gritted my teeth for a few months and moved, but the man was shoddy.

   I had a relationship with three colleagues from the company where I have been working since I was 20 years old. One left shortly after our separation because he was in love with me, and I didn't feel the same and it was a drama for him. I didn't want to go with the second one, but the sexual chemistry between us was too high and I couldn't avoid it. Unfortunately, he was also in love with me. After our separation, he worked for the company for two more terrible years. She was constantly trying to get us together, constantly lurking to stay alone and come to me, we quarreled many times in front of colleagues, we received several warnings that we would both be kicked out of the company in the end. I had no feelings for him, it was not dramatic for me to work together, but it seemed a pain for him. With the third, our feelings were mutual, long suppressed because he had a longtime girlfriend, and here and there I was catching up with someone and creating the illusion that there was nothing between us. Our relationship was short - less than a year. It turned out that love is simply not enough and we are too different to be able to build a life together. The next few years were dramatic. At first we didn't talk at all. However, sometimes we had to do things related to work together. Sometimes I was confused that he was giving me signs to get back together. Another time he was mistaken. Sometimes we had sex and at every gathering outside the office we behaved like a couple. There were evenings where we just talked about some shared memories. Another time we were jealous without the right to do so. There was a period when we were rude to each other. There were times when either I or he didn't talk to the other. Maybe things got better then, when we both found "better" partners for ourselves. I put quotes because they are just more appropriate, and whether they are better depends on what. At the moment (6-7 years later) he is one of my closest colleagues. There is no tension between us, no quarrels over anything, no recollection of those times. But in the beginning after the separation it was difficult. Not for anything else, but simply because there were still mutual feelings, but we realized that there was no point in being together and there would be no effective end to our relationship.