Hello! For a long time I have been tormented by a question that I cannot share with anyone. I will tell the story briefly. I'm an 18-year-old girl 2 years ago I met "my first love" - he's as old as me 18. There were butterflies in my stomach, worries and wonderful moments - everything was going just fine, until one day he told me he wanted to break up, because he doesn't want to hurt me. Of course, this was not a sufficient reason for me and I wrote to him several more times, asked him where the problem was, talked to his friends and they told him that he was also suffering a lot. The answer I got from him '' was better that way! "Then pride appeared in me - all my friends began to convince me how he lost. I began to resign myself. 8 months passed, and I met him every day - we study in neighboring classes and it is inevitable. I haven't had a man for about a year. Then my current friend appeared in my life and just while I was wondering if he was the person for me - my ex decided to tell me how much he loves me and how much he misses me and that only now he realized it ... It took you 1 year to do you realize it !? Anyway, after a lot of thinking and maybe a friendly influence, I created a new relationship with the second boy - my current boyfriend. He is super nice, gentle, I love him .. But I always think what would have happened if I had returned to my ex ... Now I feel some lack, I do not know exactly what and why .. But did I make the right choice ... This question has tormented me for so long ... Isn't this absence exactly the first boy? Is it my fault? Then my current friend appeared in my life and just while I was wondering if he was the person for me - my ex decided to tell me how much he loves me and how much he misses me and that only now has he realized it ... It took you 1 year to do you realize it !? Anyway, after a lot of thinking and maybe a friendly influence, I created a new relationship with the second boy - my current boyfriend. He is super nice, gentle, I love him .. But I always think what would have happened if I had returned to my ex ... Now I feel some lack, I do not know exactly what and why .. But did I make the right choice ... This question has tormented me for so long ... Isn't this absence exactly the first boy? Is it my fault? Then my current friend appeared in my life and just while I was wondering if he was the person for me - my ex decided to tell me how much he loves me and how much he misses me and that only now has he realized it ... It took you 1 year to do you realize it !? Anyway, after a lot of thinking and maybe a friendly influence, I created a new relationship with the second boy - my current boyfriend. He is super nice, gentle, I love him .. But I always think what would have happened if I had returned to my ex ... Now I feel some lack, I do not know exactly what and why .. But did I make the right choice ... This question has tormented me for so long ... Isn't this absence exactly the first boy? Is it my fault? ? Anyway, after a lot of thinking and maybe a friendly influence, I created a new relationship with the second boy - my current boyfriend. He is super nice, gentle, I love him .. But I always think what would have happened if I had returned to my ex ... Now I feel some lack, I do not know exactly what and why .. But did I make the right choice ... This question has tormented me for so long ... Isn't this absence exactly the first boy? Is it my fault? ? Anyway, after a lot of thinking and maybe a friendly influence, I created a new relationship with the second boy - my current boyfriend. He is super nice, gentle, I love him .. But I always think what would have happened if I had returned to my ex ... Now I feel some lack, I do not know exactly what and why .. But did I make the right choice ... This question has been tormenting me for so long ... Isn't this lack exactly the first boy? Is it my fault?
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You did the right thing. Don't deal with boys who don't know what they want.
This is not a lack, but the result of something completely unexperienced. Not much reassurance, but your story would repeat itself, perhaps many times. If he wasn't sure, if he thought separation was "better," he would think about it again sooner or later. Apparently there is a reason for it that you are not aware of, but that reason would bite him when you reunite. It's not bad sometimes to think about it and ask questions, but stay on the ground, do not create illusions and do not imagine different scenarios that would shake your inner peace. You have made a choice, your life has gone on and your relationship is developing well, don't look back. Your ex had a chance, but something chewed him up and wasted the opportunity. He would probably do it many more times.
I don't think you should go back, and my ex did so, we parted at his request, and again for the better. After we broke up a few months later, he kept looking for me, but he never came back! I was left alone for about a year when I was your age, I met another boy, and my ex went with my supposed best friend. And the other boy and I have been together for 2 years - we live together, we are a family, we just don't have children yet. But we support each other, we are always together, our love blossoms, but my ex irritates him a lot. And because they were in the same class and know each other every time we see each other, he just gets annoyed. I'll be honest that I'm still thinking about my ex, I think what it would be like if we were still together. But he had never told me some time ago that if I had waited for him for another week he would have come back to me: D. This spills the cup. But even now, when I look at it from the side, my current friend is kind, considerate, loves to travel, discover new things, has the intellect and knows and understands a lot of things, my ex is back to all this, at the moment he seems like a primitive man. . The decision is already entirely yours, but first think about what qualities one and the other have, with which of the two you feel better.
The new one! Because the former does not know what he wants and this is his style and will remain so. Then when things get serious and you expect a serious person, he will not be your support, and things in a relationship are not just appearance and sex, but much more - you want care, responsibility ...