Here is another story in which I have chosen the losing side ... A year and a half ago I met S. I fall madly in love ... as if he is like that, I am experiencing the most wonderful moments in my life ... for the first time I really love ..and a few months later he told me ... well, I'm sorry, I have an 8-year relationship ... I guess it's unnecessary to look for exact words to describe how I felt ... but I'm not one of those people who give up easily. ..I LOVED HIM! at first I was just a mistress (I was ready for anything) and I don't know how, but after a few months I had it only for myself ... he abandoned her ... and again it was all sun and flowers ... and I loved him more and more ... I was ready for anything to have it ... and I still am. And everything was like that until the moment he said I'm coming back to her, it's been 8 years! ... I know it's a banal story, but for me it means a lot, is it better to be a mistress ...
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The people we like are not always suitable to be our friends. Those we love are not always suitable to live with. A man who has an 8-year relationship behind him is probably in his thirties. If at this age he does not yet know what and whom he wants, he can hardly be a partner for a stable relationship. Such men, if they are attractive to you in some way, are suitable for you to spend part of your free time from time to time. And let someone else take care of their dirty clothes. And somewhere around you is the one who will know that you are the only one for him. I wish you to meet him soon.
No one can judge you - there are no sinless people. But the question is whether it's worth it. If he hasn't told you from the beginning that he has a girlfriend, think about whether his feelings are real. I was with a boy who had and still has a girlfriend and it was very difficult. Because the longer this thing lasts, the more you will love it and you will not be able to come to terms with the thought that it is not entirely yours. At least I think so, because that's how I felt then.
Hello, there is no one to judge you and for what. These are completely normal human relationships and everyone would understand what you are feeling at the moment. I myself have been in a similar situation (I'm sure many other girls) and it was very difficult to shake her off, because like you I loved him very much and I even think that it is still so and I am sure that if I see him again, everything will return from feelings. But the truth is that there is no point in waiting for him to decide, there is no point in offering to him and he will reject you, he will not appreciate the fact that you are waiting for him and that you are ready for anything for him. You just want to hope and believe that it is possible. Yes, sometimes it happens to have a good ending, but you do not have to suffer unnecessarily. Another will come and another you will love. Good luck from me!