I lost my grandmother 4 months ago. She was with me for 22 years and we loved each other. I was so close to her and I loved her infinitely. I loved talking for hours and I didn't get tired of her company at all. I can't describe my feelings for her. I can say that she is my third parent. I was raised by my mom, dad and grandma at home. Along with my parents, she built me as an entity, educated me, taught me the good and the right things in life. I adored her, she was always close to my heart and I thought to her - is it good, how is she, what does she do when I'm not around her. Her voice itself acted as something divine that filled me as we talked about the simplest things. Anything that bothered me, and after she shared it with her and listened to me without even saying anything, it became easier for me. Just listening to me with interest made me damn calm, I felt wonderful and my soul was filled in a divine, extraordinary way. I MISS AWFULLY JUST LISTENING TO ME AND LOOKING AT ME; (... to tell me: "SUCCESS", to smile at me and send me to Varna (I'm a 4th year student). , we talked so much about him wanting to see me with a job in life and a nice man, I believed he would see me and I really hoped that God would leave her to me for years to come. Something, the whole universe is helping you.
Well, I wanted to, in fact, I was convinced that Grandma would have a 90-year anniversary, and she left us at 82 quite unexpectedly, without ever getting sick, having blood problems, and suffering. from a flu, she didn't have a cane, not even her skin was wrinkled like other grandmothers, and she was very smart, she was a very smart grandmother. We miss so much her advice, her knowledge and recipes; there was nothing to do and not to do properly. What he touched, grayed, shone, was born to live at her hands. This spring we will eat for the last time the salads sown by her hands. He was constantly doing something in the garden, arranging sunshades in the sun, turning, just always finding a job and working with pleasure.
One day at noon I went to her room and my grandmother had fallen, suffered a mild ischemic stroke. None of our relatives could understand why it happened after she had never given such signs. It was an incredible shock for me, and over time, my grandmother's absence is getting worse. The pain does not decrease, but intensifies and becomes more severe, that this is already my reality and we will not be able to talk again and my soul will be filled. For 1 week my grandmother struggled in the hospital and during this week I felt the pain in my heart and the feeling that my heart was being crushed in a vise. During this week, neither the food passed through my throat, nor could I sleep at night (2/3 of a day) - we complained about it alive. That was before the Christmas holidays. Throughout my existence, I prayed for a miracle and for Grandma to be alive and well again, but it didn't happen - the worst happened.
To look at her helpless and in a coma ... like a century-old tree that has fallen into nothingness. Give me advice on how to continue this pain for a loved one, because I can't brag that I'm a non-populist, but in fact I'm very sensitive and I'm constantly sad for my grandmother and our conversations. ; (; ( nor could I sleep at night (2/3 of a day) - we complained to her alive. That was before the Christmas holidays. Throughout my existence, I prayed for a miracle and for Grandma to be alive and well again, but it didn't happen - the worst happened. To look at her helpless and in a coma ... like a century-old tree that has fallen into nothingness. Give me advice on how to continue this pain for a loved one, because I can't brag that I'm a non-populist, but in fact I'm very sensitive and I'm constantly sad for my grandmother and our conversations. ; (; ( nor could I sleep at night (2/3 of a day) - we complained to her alive.
That was before the Christmas holidays. Throughout my existence, I prayed for a miracle and for Grandma to be alive and well again, but it didn't happen - the worst happened. To look at her helpless and in a coma ... like a century-old tree that has fallen into nothingness. Give me advice on how to continue this pain for a loved one, because I can't brag that I'm a non-populist, but in fact, I'm very sensitive and I'm constantly sad for my grandmother and our conversations. ; (; ( because I can't brag that I'm a non-Pukist, but in fact, I'm very sensitive and I'm constantly sad for my grandmother and for our conversations. ; (; ( because I can't brag that I'm a non, but in fact, I'm very sensitive and I'm constantly sad for my grandmother and for our conversations. ; (; (
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I'm sorry about your grandmother. I also love my grandmother, who raised me. She is the person I spent my childhood with. I was with her during the week, and my mother only saw her on weekends. In the summer I was only with my grandmother. I want to say that I spent 8 years with her and I saw my mother very rarely. Honestly, I love Grandma a little more than Mom. I am now 15. She is amazing, although she grumbles constantly ^^ I pray she lives many more years!
There is no cure for the pain of losing a loved one. You write with such love for her that I dreamed of someone speaking in such words about me when I was gone. You know very well that it is impossible to return it. The only thing left for you is to keep the memory of her, to remember and apply her advice, to imitate her diligence and kindness, to be a worthy successor to her. Try to fill your heart not with sorrow, but with gratitude for every moment you have experienced with it. Do you know how few people have such a person next to them, especially in the most difficult years? Life cannot be eternal. Today, few people live to see those years. When a person is loved, we always want him to be more with us. But think how lucky you have been for so long. After all, there are people who have never had the good fortune to have a grandmother, for one reason or another. Either she died early, or she is abroad, or she is not interested in her grandchildren, there are all kinds of them. And you have a bright memory that will keep you warm for a lifetime. Appreciate it and don't forget that your beloved grandmother is watching you. And she will be proud THERE when you graduate, when you become a bride, a mother, a grandmother. And it will always help you. Invisible. In the other world it is so. Our loved ones who are already there continue to love us and help us. Just another way. Be happy and live in peace! they continue to love and help us. Just another way. Be happy and live in peace! they continue to love and help us. Just another way. Be happy and live in peace!
Only the Bible will give you the answers and relief you need. There you will learn about the essence of life and death, as well as consolation in the pains of the heart and soul. No man can give you this relief because he is powerless (it is encoded in us), but the Lord Jesus Christ can do anything. Trust Him and change your way of life, you will understand the truth about the trials to which we are all necessarily subjected. God help you.
How to help you! If you have creative impulses, draw, write, sing - create something to share what you would otherwise say to your grandmother. If you are a believer, seek support in the holy books. If you have a very strong dream that you talked about with your grandmother, or even her dream, work harder to make it come true - so maybe you will get that relationship with your grandmother again. And spend more productive time with your family and loved ones! You will find your approach, there is no recipe for us to tell you. I wish you luck! Thank you for telling us such a pure and loving story!
My grandmother left us at the age of 63 .. Quite unexpectedly, the day before I saw her coming home from the market with the bags, and the next day she was gone .. I'm sad and I wanted to see a prom girl .. As if it was too early .. .
Try (as much as you can) not to think about it! She has gone to a better place and will see you with a good job - my mother told me that the dead look through the stars, rejoice when we rejoice, cry when we cry and love when we love! She is a joke and will be with you!
I understand you so well! When I lost my grandmother, I experienced the same thing. With the difference that my grandmother passed away from cancer and for months I watched her die. It was the saddest thing in my life! The situation was similar for me, I can even boldly say that she watched me more than ours. They were always busy, and Grandma was always at home, kind and smiling, always trying to please me, always cooking something delicious, always ready to help me with her lessons, her with something else. That and then at university. She died shortly after I got my diploma, she was very ill and did not come to my graduation, but I am still convinced that this diploma is as much mine as hers! What an interest my poor grandmother listened to as I developed aloud the topics for the next exam! Sometimes I had the feeling that he not only listened to me, but even remembered things. He wanted to help me so much! And then he got sick again. They had discovered cancer a few years earlier, but they also had an operation and it was fine for 3-4 years, but then this filth came back ...: (((and that was the end. Honestly, since then part of my heart has died. It's been 7-8 years, but not a day goes by that I don't think about her. I miss her so much! And then my grandfather left ... and now I can only hope that the two are together and watch over me. In fact, I don't hope , I'm sure! They loved me so much that there's just no way all this love can go away. That's why I know they're somewhere and still watching over me. It gives me some comfort and when I need them, I'm not ashamed to I'm just telling them they hear me and they'll find a way to help me And you believe the same thing Your grandmother loved you so much she just couldn't leave you completely You just can't see her