M at 27 from a medium-sized city. I met her 5 years ago, we had a stormy and ardent true love, when we looked at each other our eyes shone, I was by her side in the most difficult moments of her life (she lost her parents within 5 months). I didn't want anything from her then, I turned my back on work and sex, I was just by her side, it's very important to support the person next to you at such a time. Everything was wonderful until she lied to me that she was in one place and in fact was in another with an acquaintance of mine in a car. I felt betrayed, you know that feeling that tells you "they say they have nothing, but they have a relationship". Well I was right in fact they had a relationship and contacts, etc. I realized that she had a relationship with him during our relationship. I felt disgusted, betrayed disgusted, I guess you all had that feeling of betrayal in the person next to you. The point was that he was 18 years older than her. An adult man with opportunities will call himself a Classic ...
No, she always looked at the money of the person next to her and I saw him. The point here is that we said to ourselves, we will always love each other .. So where did these words go, do women say them so easily, and then turn into mercantile monsters !? Do you feel the pain even as I write this? From there the fall in my life began, I had no desire and strength for anything, I closed myself in, I went to live in another city, I just didn't want to see them, I was disgusted, I was horrible. I started to lose faith in myself and fell into an incredible hole, I didn't go out, I didn't care (maybe it's the case now). True love had betrayed me in the most disgusting way. My little dream was just not to see her again, my heart and brain just wanted not to see her. People told me where they were, when, for how long, they knew that her act was disgusting, but somehow she didn't care, I felt great selfishness that is hidden in every woman, it ruined me. The problem right now is that I can't really can't have faith in women. I'm a nice boy, intelligent with above-average abilities, I just can't shake off this pain, this betrayal, and to move on, I don't go out on dates. You know, after such a thing, you don't stay the same. Please, if some of you have gone through a similar situation, what did you do to bring back to life and at least your own self-esteem. when, for how long, they knew that her act was disgusting, but somehow she didn't care, I felt great selfishness that is hidden in every woman, it ruined me. The problem right now is that I can't really have faith in women. I'm a nice boy, intelligent with above-average abilities, I just can't shake off this pain, this betrayal, and to move on, I don't go out on dates. You know, after such a thing, you don't stay the same.
Please, if some of you have gone through a similar situation, what did you do to bring back to life and at least your own self-esteem. when, for how long, they knew that her act was disgusting, but somehow she didn't care, I felt great selfishness that is hidden in every woman, it ruined me. The problem right now is that I can't really have faith in women. I'm a nice boy, intelligent with above-average abilities, I just can't shake off this pain, this betrayal, and to move forward, I don't go out on dates. You know, after such a thing, you don't stay the same. Please, if some of you have gone through a similar situation, what did you do to bring back to life and at least your own self-esteem. I'm a nice boy, intelligent with above-average abilities, I just can't shake off this pain, this betrayal, and to move on, I don't go out on dates. You know, after such a thing, you don't stay the same. Please, if some of you have gone through a similar situation, what did you do to bring back to life and at least your own self-esteem. I'm a nice boy, intelligent with above-average abilities, I just can't shake off this pain, this betrayal, and to move on, I don't go out on dates. You know, after such a thing, you don't stay the same. Please, if some of you have gone through a similar situation, what did you do to bring back to life and at least your own self-esteem.
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Something similar happened to me, I was devastated. It takes time, don't force yourself, but don't feel sorry for yourself. You deserve better than her and you will find him, start playing sports
Fight fire with fire . Don't think about it, because you will only pretend. Don't care at all, erase it from your life completely. She didn't love you at all, she just used you, she's dead to you now. What do you expect from a dead man? Start dating other women and girls, in time you will meet the One who will be a real companion in life !!!
Author, calm down, nothing tragic has happened. You just haven't come across the right person, as cliché as it sounds. I went through something similar, but with God's help I overcame everything and regained my faith and positive attitude. I was 21 when I met her. We would be colleagues in a hotel by the sea for the season. At first I didn't pay any attention to her, maybe because it was my first job in life, and I had exams and I was tense. The first 1-2 weeks we cleaned the hotel and did not notice much. However, when we opened, my first shift was with her and from that moment she started to be super nice to me - she made me coffee, constantly tried to help me with something, etc. After no more than 2 weeks I was already in love and here began the complicated. It turned out that she had a longtime, quite wealthy friend, with which they were at the stage of buying an apartment. I, on the other hand, was a poor student who had only his clothes on his back. Although I kept telling myself that I should get her out of my head and not think about her, the feeling was stronger than me. She liked me too, but by no means did she think of giving up the comfortable life her boyfriend offered her. I was madly in love and powerless at the same time. It took me 3 years to overcome it, during which time there was literally no time not to think about it. I had just overcome my grief and this time I was betrayed. I went out for a few months with a girl I thought was super good and decent, and in the end it turned out that it was all a big theater to fill my time. These two disappointments made me negative about women. I started to think of everyone as k *** i, users, etc. Although I had no problems and everything else in my life was developing wonderfully, I had fallen into a grayness, an indifference in which I sank more and more. It is said, however, that the Lord never forsakes us and does not forsake me. He showed me unequivocally how good life really is and how harmful negativity and indifference are. When you shake them off, you suddenly realize that wonderful things are happening around you and there are a lot of good people outside. Yes, they betrayed, but that is long gone. Don't think about it anymore and let them live their lives. The incident, by the way, has a very positive aspect and it is that it taught you to screen women. Boldly forward and success, you will see how everything will turn out for you. in which I sank more and more. It is said, however, that the Lord never forsakes us and does not forsake me. He showed me unequivocally how good life really is and how harmful negativity and indifference are. When you shake them off, you suddenly realize that wonderful things are happening around you and there are a lot of good people outside. Yes, they betrayed, but that is long gone. Don't think about it anymore and let them live their lives. The incident, by the way, has a very positive aspect and it is that it taught you to screen women. Boldly forward and success, you will see how everything will turn out for you. in which I sank more and more. It is said, however, that the Lord never forsakes us and does not forsake me. He showed me unequivocally how good life really is and how harmful negativity and indifference are. When you shake them off, you suddenly realize that wonderful things are happening around you and there are a lot of good people outside. Yes, they betrayed, but that is long gone. Don't think about it anymore and let them live their lives. The incident, by the way, has a very positive aspect and it is that it taught you to screen women. Boldly forward and success, you will see how everything will turn out for you. that wonderful things are happening around you and there are a lot of good people outside. Yes, they betrayed, but that is long gone. Don't think about it anymore and let them live their lives. The incident, by the way, has a very positive aspect and it is that it taught you to screen women. Boldly forward and success, you will see how everything will turn out for you. that wonderful things are happening around you and there are a lot of good people outside. Yes, they betrayed, but that is long gone. Don't think about it anymore and let them live their lives. The incident, by the way, has a very positive aspect and it is that it taught you to screen women. Boldly forward and success, you will see how everything will turn out for you.
Number 3, especially a meaningful comment, very good advice, but a part of the modern primitives can't understand you, mainly for the moment with God.
Look, author, you've been unlucky enough to come across the wrong girl, but that doesn't mean all women are selfish or will betray you. I was also betrayed by a loved one and I was in a lot of pain, but I never allowed myself to put everyone under a common denominator. Otherwise, you did the right thing by leaving. The last thing you need to do is meet them on the streets or hear from common acquaintances that they have plans for something. So yes, well done for changing the middle. Now do not rush to start a new relationship, but give yourself time for yourself. Try to get used to the new city, find entertainment, new friends ... enjoy life without a boyfriend. And when you meet the right one, you will understand, but there is no point in forcing things and rushing. Give time to the wound in your heart to heal before you embark on the search for the Ideal, because even if you find her now, you're just not emotionally ready for a new relationship and things won't work out. And calm down! There is hardly a person, no matter a man or a woman, who has not gone through something like this. And what about those who have been lied to for years by their spouse? At least you haven't invested 15 or 20 years of your life believing you're with the right person before you open your eyes and realize that he or she has had a parallel relationship for years and is secretly mocking you behind your back. And that's it! before you open your eyes and realize that he or she has had a parallel relationship for years and is secretly mocking you behind your back. And that's it! before you open your eyes and realize that he or she has had a parallel relationship for years and is secretly mocking you behind your back. And that's it!
I did something very simple. I told myself that I could not punish all men for the mistake of one. My betrayal weighed on me for many years and I still carry the memory today, but people are different in most ways and I remember it periodically. There are women who will break your heart. I tell you frankly, some are mercantile, others are forever in love, others are just looking for drama. There is no way for every woman to be bad, for everyone to act mean and hurt you. You cannot believe in common denominators and be happy at the same time.