The Man Doesn't Spend Money On Me!

   I had a relationship with a gambler. Run before you stay on the street. And gifts do not depend on how beautiful you are, but on the attitude of the other person.

   It's not about being insanely handsome, you don't need a tight man. And mine is a little tight sometimes. I buy everything myself.

   This one is not tight. His problem is different. Get rid of him. Even if you do not find another, you will still be better and you will waste less nerves.

   You don't need a tight-lipped and eternally penniless man. He can't fix himself, but he's going to have a relationship. And he's not ashamed to ask you. This is not love, but pure use.

   I think you made the wrong choice. And that you are a masochist if you live with such an individual for three years. If you don't expect it to change, you're naive, to say the least. If you can't leave him, suffer.

   Remove it. They are still the same. It is normal as a woman to demand a certain attitude. Whether it's a bouquet of flowers, whether it's a box of candy, whether it's "Thank you," you need something like that, and he can't give it to you. He is used to your support, spends everything on himself and indulges himself while you were not when he was in an awkward financial situation. However, this is his learned behavior, keep that in mind. Ie someone in his family has cared for and pampered him since he was a child, so he has learned to rely on everyone else but himself. If there are no siblings, the problem may be even more profound. Not only that, but he also deals with mosquitoes, you don't have such a pathetic resemblance to a man. Run, you can!

   You came across a checker. Once a gambler, always a gambler. If you want to stay with him, but you will spend your whole life in misery and eternal penury. It will not change. Your life is yours, choose for yourself!

   How to leave the man? You found exactly what he wanted. Kind, faithful and naive. He watches his life, plays mosquito, etc. and you, darling, pass by with a perfume ... Is it strange to me that you are so naive?

   I am a man and I work in a specialty store for men only. Accessories and various other premium products. However, it's very funny to me every time. The bartenders come and I want what I want, I want that and finally ... darling, give me money, darling, do you have money. And women confuse and take out, but always during this time they look me straight in the eye, as if shouting at him, don't make fun of him. Now there is the option for the husband to give the money, just for his wife to keep it, if it is a lot and he has nowhere to put it, but most cases are not like that and it is really strange to see a man begging for his wife's money. desperate. Not that it had anything to do with your subject, but I remembered how many such men there are.

   You are very interesting to me with this true love when it is obvious that the person on the other side does not care about you at all. What exactly are you in love with, author? In his obsession with gambling or his total carelessness for you? There are certainly some good qualities, but that's it. Maybe you really need to look at yourself and why you are making this choice, because changing it is unlikely to happen. There is a saying about gender relations - "Women want to change men, and men want women not to change." Do your homework.

   your friend is a user and it has nothing to do with appearance. Obviously you have complexes on this topic, so you comment on it at all. And how are you going to send him to look for another one, so that he is not crazy to leave the hen that lays eggs for him? Drop it, it won't change if it hasn't already. And he's obviously not embarrassed to ask you for money for everything.

   Woman, get that garbage out of your life. It doesn't cost the three levs for which he muftiled you. Aren't intuition and circumstances enough for you? There is no former gambler, there is only a temporary one. Whether it's 21, roulette, poker or nude poker, it's all there. Why do you tolerate this guy at all? I literally set aside with my first student salary of 230 quintals (to die Piccadilly, it was a hole) to buy my girl a gift, and not just for any occasion. Just imagine what a cattle you have to be in order not to give at least a bite of gratitude to the person who paid your food and rent. Otebi, find another apartment, find a man who won't roar for two cents.

   I just can't believe what things I'm reading ... WOMEN, A MAN WITHOUT MONEY AND WHO DOESN'T BUY GIFTS, FLOWERS, HAS NO HOUSING OR CAN'T EVEN RENT TO COVER IS NOT A MAN! Yes, read it again. NO. F. MALE. What do you do with various molds that do not have a penny and are nowhere in life? Who is to blame? Grab your things and leave. With the money you feed this garbage, if she had bought something for herself, if she had beautified herself? !! Isn't this a complex for you? He once gave her perfume and she keeps her bottle? Author, tighten up. My husband gives me presents for no reason and takes me on vacation. He knows that if he doesn't behave well with me, I'll dump him. We are together out of love and he is not rich, but I hold on to diligence and attitude. With the man in the story, I don't see what attitude you expect from you. The faster you get away the better. And next time don't let yourself be crushed for 3 years in a row and be someone's doormat and bank! Men will treat you the way you let them. Candy

   This is awful! How do you endure for years and humiliate yourself by creating complexes? She wasn't beautiful and that's why she almost didn't deserve ... Girl, realize - this "man" is ruining your life, and you're wondering how to please him! It is not just with a modest income, as many honest and hard-working Bulgarian men, who, however, do not joke with their partners in this way. And to live modestly - a real man will not be expensive to create at least a little comfort for you, there will be no need to grumble about gifts. Gambler, tight-lipped and user - such a miracle is to dump and keep as far away as possible. 3 years is this - he did not realize, it will not change. It is normal to share expenses, but not for a woman to struggle for two. Separate, new accommodation, if necessary, but realize that you deserve another treatment. Gamblers also get involved with criminals and it is not known if you will take it too. Run and good luck!

   What exactly do you love about him? Don't you think that "your great love" should care at least a little about you and have a masculine attitude to life. I'm not saying to support you, but at least myself.

   Hahaha, at the same time, for these three years, who knows how many decent guys you lost because of "your love" and pretended to be inaccessible to them and pretended to be interesting.

   Gambling is a disease and some people find it very difficult to break away from it. Get rid of him, because one day, a few scoundrels may come and empty your apartment completely, because he has lost and could not pay, and he may be beaten. Get away from him, because you will stay on the street and you will be without money and with a lot of problems for the rest of your life.

   It is not normal for a man to ask his girlfriend for money. But you also get this with this thinking "I'm nothing special"

   Number 10, so before we go somewhere, I put money in my husband's pocket so that he can pay and we don't expose ourselves. Don't ask me how I feel ... I'm ashamed of the waiters sometimes and I always try to go to different restaurants, because when they bring us the bill, they leave it in front of my husband, and he pushes it towards me. My father, his little finger, would shoot himself after such an incident. He just wouldn't take his wife to a restaurant if he didn't have the money to pay. There is a generation of men - I guess the author came across a specimen belonging to him - who are used to lying on the backs of women. These men are in the range of 30-38 years. They have been deceived by the banks' offers for easy loans and have made a living, bought all sorts of nonsense, spent as if for the last time, and in the end their salaries go only to repay the loans. From then on, the woman next to them is the one who feeds the family. We have to run away from them, of course, but sometimes they are so charming that our heart does not allow us to abandon them. And the maternal instinct speaks for itself. Because of my love for such a person, I got there to work in three places. Two months ago he asked me for money for a car. I gave. Then - for textbooks of his daughter from the previous marriage. A small amount, but still this child has two living parents who work. I gave. We live in my apartment. Overhead and food are my concern. I sometimes deposit money on his loans. If we go anywhere at all, I pay. Clothing is also my job, as are his shaving aids. If he runs out of deodorant, he says: buy it for me. This summer he left 100 leva for the household, it was in June. That is, his contribution to the total budget is BGN 100. at half a year. Why do I tolerate it? There is such a topic here, in which I left a comment. I suffer because I love him and because hope dies last. But she seems to be dead already. His salary is higher than mine. Where is it going? I have no idea. I understand the author. They, my dear, suggest that we are petty, if we raise the question at all that an adult should support himself. We are also told that the most important thing is to love each other, and the other does not matter. Yes, but we live in a material world. When a person gets up in the morning, he needs water to wash, and this water costs money. Then he drinks coffee that someone paid for. Uses toothpaste and toothbrush bought from us. And so on. When we talk about the participation of the man in question in the household, he usually raises a scandal and we close our eyes to keep everything peaceful and quiet. But this is a strategy, understand it! I have already begun to realize and I do not intend to endure for long. For five years, I lost my job and ruined my health. I had long suspected that he didn't love me, but that day my picture became clear. We were at my friends' villa. I felt sick in the evening, I was shaken, apparently I have some kind of flu. I said I wanted to lie down somewhere warm for at least an hour. I went to the car, he came to turn on the heating and then disappeared. Finally, the hostess came to see how I was feeling and to say that she had already lit a stove in a room and I could move there, and she had made me tea. My husband didn't look at me at all. The next day, as we were returning home, he said that I had deliberately pretended to be a dead fox to ruin his party. And then he stopped at a gas station and said: give me money for gas. I have already begun to realize and I do not intend to endure for long. For five years, I lost my job and ruined my health. I had long suspected that he didn't love me, but that day my picture became clear. We were at my friends' villa. I felt sick in the evening, I was shaken, apparently I have some kind of flu. I said I wanted to lie down somewhere warm for at least an hour. I went to the car, he came to turn on the heating and then disappeared. Finally, the hostess came to see how I was feeling and to say that she had already lit a stove in a room and I could move there, and she had made me tea. My husband didn't look at me at all. The next day, as we were returning home, he said that I had deliberately pretended to be a dead fox to ruin his party. And then he stopped at a gas station and said: give me money for gas. I have already begun to realize and I do not intend to endure for long. For five years, I lost my job and ruined my health. I had long suspected that he didn't love me, but that day my picture became clear. We were at my friends' villa. I felt sick in the evening, I was shaken, apparently I have some kind of flu. I said I wanted to lie down somewhere warm for at least an hour. I went to the car, he came to turn on the heating and then disappeared. Finally, the hostess came to see how I was feeling and to say that she had already lit a stove in a room and I could move there, and she had made me tea. My husband didn't look at me at all. The next day, as we were returning home, he said that I had deliberately pretended to be a dead fox to ruin his party. And then he stopped at a gas station and said: give me money for gas. I suspected for a long time, but that day my picture became clear. We were at my friends' villa. I felt sick in the evening, I was shaken, apparently I have some kind of flu. I said I wanted to lie down somewhere warm for at least an hour. I went to the car, he came to turn on the heating and then disappeared. Finally, the hostess came to see how I was feeling and to say that she had already lit a stove in a room and I could move there, and she had made me tea. My husband didn't look at me at all. The next day, as we were returning home, he said that I had deliberately pretended to be a dead fox to ruin his party. And then he stopped at a gas station and said: give me money for gas. I suspected for a long time, but that day my picture became clear. We were at my friends' villa. I felt sick in the evening, I was shaken, apparently I have some kind of flu. I said I wanted to lie down somewhere warm for at least an hour. I went to the car, he came to turn on the heating and then disappeared. Finally, the hostess came to see how I was feeling and to say that she had already lit a stove in a room and I could move there, and she had made me tea. My husband didn't look at me at all. The next day, as we were returning home, he said that I had deliberately pretended to be a dead fox to ruin his party. And then he stopped at a gas station and said: give me money for gas. he came to turn on the heating and then disappeared. Finally, the hostess came to see how I was feeling and to say that she had already lit a stove in a room and I could move there, and she had made me tea. My husband didn't look at me at all. The next day, as we were returning home, he said that I had deliberately pretended to be a dead fox to ruin his party. And then he stopped at a gas station and said: give me money for gas. he came to turn on the heating and then disappeared. Finally, the hostess came to see how I was feeling and to say that she had already lit a stove in a room and I could move there, and she had made me tea. My husband didn't look at me at all. The next day, as we were returning home, he said that I had deliberately pretended to be a dead fox to ruin his party. And then he stopped at a gas station and said: give me money for gas.

   My husband and I will be very ashamed if he asks me for money for anything! He never wanted me, even in the beginning, when no one owed anyone, he paid everything. I was worried that I was almost a miserable person and insisted that I pay for the chat. Because he never agreed when we had to go to the movies, or somewhere where the event was prepaid, I paid with a card online. Since we have been married, we have a common budget, every penny is common. No mine no your money. He earns 3 times more than me, but all personal funds are equal. I recently broke my phone and he gave me money for a new one, even though his actually needed repair. Sometimes I go back to the instant messaging chats and recently found a conversation in which while I was pregnant I asked him for something specific to eat. He gave his last BGN 3 for it and he was hungry all day because of me ... We had very difficult moments, we were late financially, but we never, never borrowed BGN 1. When he left on a business trip and I was maternity, we were so catastrophically poor that he lived on BGN 10 a week in another city and I lived on BGN 40 a week. For this man, I would burn at the stake. A man must be selfless, generous, good ... Not an accountant ... They say that a woman is checked at the time when the man has nothing, and the man when he has everything. Yours is also checked. Find the one who will take the last bite out of his mouth to give it to you. If you find him - Hold on to him and don't let him go. It's just that this guy isn't right now. we have never borrowed BGN 1. When he left on a business trip and I was maternity, we were so catastrophically poor that he lived on BGN 10 a week in another city and I lived on BGN 40 a week. For this man, I would burn at the stake. A man must be selfless, generous, good ... Not an accountant ... They say that a woman is checked at the time when the man has nothing, and the man when he has everything. Yours is also checked. Find the one who will take the last bite out of his mouth to give it to you. If you find him - Hold on to him and don't let him go. It's just that this guy isn't right now. we have never borrowed BGN 1. When he left on a business trip and I was maternity, we were so catastrophically poor that he lived on BGN 10 a week in another city and I lived on BGN 40 a week. For this man, I would burn at the stake. A man must be selfless, generous, good ... Not an accountant ... They say that a woman is checked at the time when the man has nothing, and the man when he has everything. Yours is also checked. Find the one who will take the last bite out of his mouth to give it to you. If you find him - Hold on to him and don't let him go. It's just that this guy isn't right now. Not an accountant .. They say that a woman is checked at the time when the man has nothing, and the man when he has everything. Yours is also checked. Find the one who will take the last bite out of his mouth to give it to you. If you find him - Hold on to him and don't let him go. It's just that this guy isn't right now. Not an accountant .. They say that a woman is checked at the time when the man has nothing, and the man when he has everything. Yours is also checked. Find the one who will take the last bite out of his mouth to give it to you. If you find him - Hold on to him and don't let him go. It's just that this guy isn't right now.

   Tomorrow you will not have milk for your child. You love him, of course, you will not take him out of your life, you will tolerate him. The reality is that in addition to being penniless, someone is ringing your doorbell and taking paint with you. Mosquito is addictive. Apparently he also likes to drink. The choice is yours, leave us from the forum. Talk to a specialist. You need professional help.

   Take into account all the comments and save yourself author! For 5 years I was the mistress of such a man terribly sexy and charming. I am married he divorced. He asked me for money, I never gave it to him. He kept screaming that people felt sorry for him, he was pretending to be crazy - a man 2 meters, very sexy and big. She wanted me to be his wife. I thank myself for being mercantile and I thank him for not wanting to be insistent and ruin my life if he wanted to lie to me I was mad to rage with passion for him. He obviously loved me and did not want to live in misery. I am glad that we parted by mutual consent. He had a hard time separating me too. I recovered with antidepressants, he is still depressed, but he also has it because he gives everything for a cougar. As much as you love him, go away, if you can't break away, look for a psychologist because it was very difficult for me, I would go crazy for him. I am still recovering from this passionate love, but I will not return to it. He had other girlfriends who lent him money when he was late. I am a beautiful woman, I have never received a gift from him. If you have money, don't give it to feed a man, but go to a beautician, hairdresser, make a beautiful manicure, fix your eyebrows, there are beauty specialists, ask how you can become more attractive, invest the money in yourself, take a course even develop as a person and as a woman, but don't let them crush and humiliate you and use you like that. I was terribly in love, I lost 5 years with such a useless person and I am very sorry for the lost time. Good luck and bold! but I will not return to him. He had other girlfriends who lent him money when he was late. I am a beautiful woman, I have never received a gift from him. If you have money, don't give it to feed a man, but go to a beautician, hairdresser, make a beautiful manicure, fix your eyebrows, there are beauty specialists, ask how you can become more attractive, invest the money in yourself, take a course even develop as a person and as a woman, but don't let them crush and humiliate you and use you like that. I was terribly in love, I lost 5 years with such a useless person and I am very sorry for the lost time. Good luck and bold! but I will not return to him. He had other girlfriends who lent him money when he was late. I am a beautiful woman, I have never received a gift from him. If you have money, don't give it to feed a man, but go to a beautician, hairdresser, make a beautiful manicure, fix your eyebrows, there are beauty specialists, ask how you can become more attractive, invest the money in yourself, take a course even develop as a person and as a woman, but don't let them crush and humiliate you and use you like that. I was terribly in love, I lost 5 years with such a useless person and I am very sorry for the lost time. Good luck and bold! make a beautiful manicure, fix your eyebrows, there are beauty specialists, ask how you can become more attractive, invest the money in yourself, take a course and even develop as a person and as a woman, but don't let them crush and humiliate you like that and use you. I was terribly in love, I lost 5 years with such a useless person and I am very sorry for the lost time. Good luck and bold! make a beautiful manicure, fix your eyebrows, there are beauty specialists, ask how you can become more attractive, invest the money in yourself, take a course and even develop as a person and as a woman, but don't let them crush and humiliate you like that and use you. I was terribly in love, I lost 5 years with such a useless person and I am very sorry for the lost time. Good luck and bold!

   True love?! How many deluded women there are! You're just comfortable with him because you're sponsoring him, nothing more. It's as if he's the woman and you're the man. Not to mention the more precise definition of such men who are dependent on someone. It's not a man, it's not.

   How do you think these men love you by milking you for money? !! Living on your back? !! It seems that the modern Bulgarian does not know what love is and trusts all kinds of individuals who stand in her way. I wrote the topic Eternal Justification: "because I love it", precisely because of such stories. I've heard similar tearful stories in real life. Some kind of mockery of a woman, or lies to her most brazenly, but she sits out of love. Fuck love! A man who doesn't have 5 stotinki in his pocket, or hasn't been able to get his life in order, or is looking to raise him as a parent, what's the point for you? !! What is a man for you who is not your support? Because of naked love and the bed? What has he contributed to your relationship? A male body? Hey, people like the author don't listen to family, friends like that make her think that this is not for them, but they sit and then plow.

   Author, to you, to № 21 and all the like, I will tell you as the hero of Aleko - "You had a lot of money, you paid". The same thing your Ganyovites tell you with their daily behavior. If you have a short mind, keep your wallet full. When you can't think, you will carry your waist and feed your male holders. Or mistresses, to put it more elegantly.

   Hello, I am the author of this topic. Thanks to everyone who responded to me and took my story seriously. You definitely made me wake up from the dream I was in. I know that nothing will be the same as before, we are still together, but I am considering options when to dump him. I just wanted to thank you for the adequate and meaningful advice, I didn't expect that. Be alive, healthy and happy!

   Author, go to the topic "Male prospectors". There I have explained in detail the mechanism by which we become victims of such parasites. Realizing what has actually happened to you will make it easier for you to get out of the matrix.

   I just want to slap you by reading your story !!! First, why do you underestimate yourself? According to you, you yourself are not pretty enough, and that's why he tickled you for money ... No, my dear! Your friend is cramped, disrespectful, and obviously ill-mannered. Secondly, there are no former gamblers as others here have written to you. Even if he is "clean" now, in time he will still have itchy hands. You are not an ATM, you are not obliged to finance your cohabitation or his irresponsible ass! Third, if you really love him and want to give a chance to your relationship, despite his attitude towards you, you have to make a lot of compromises! Mostly with myself. As advice for a stranger, I would give you to divide each month in half the rent, the bills, the shopping and everyone to have their own funds. It turns out a bit like roommates, but if your man wants to walk a meter, pretend to be hit and run away from responsibility, that's the way. Sit down, talk calmly, offer him, tell him that you think this is more than fair and watch his reaction. If he stretches and disagrees, then you should not live together, have a relationship or God forbid you build a family! If I knew you and we were close, I would probably really slap you for being so naive! You can't live only with love ... and I'm not just talking about the material side of things, but rather about the attitude! Don't compromise with yourself, don't be a sacrificial lamb, don't underestimate yourself, don't reconcile, give in to yourself, and tell him everything you think, the way you think! Should you be tactful and measured, and should he trample and use you? You serious? And in the end, you even wonder if he won't dump you. The work is clear! The feature of this mat is dirty !! And when I was young, I had one - a gambler ... I collected money to buy him presents - once for his birthday, once for Christmas, once for Valentine's Day, and he only gave me a silver bracelet for almost four years. and it is as thin as a thread! And I paid the rent myself every month, because he was a student and worked part-time ... and what not! Get out of this relationship while it's time that when you tie up with a baby you will wonder what to do again!