Hello, I'm a girl of 18. About 3 months ago I started working in a fast food restaurant, where I met a boy from Bangladesh. We get along very well with him and I started to like him. It turned out that he was 12 years older than me. This stopped me a bit, but I still liked him, and he looks very young. We became friends and in the last month we became quite close and I started to notice that he was sad and dropped out. Yesterday I finally asked him what was wrong with him and he told me at length about his broken heart. I felt a little sick, but I think I value him more as a friend than as something more. He is in love with a woman - 15 years older than him. Then I realized I didn't stand a chance. She is 45, he is 30 and I am 18. The woman also liked him, but told him that it could not happen because of the age difference. Plus, she had children my age. And it would be weird for me if my mother came home with a 30-year-old who looks 22. I want him to be happy, but I don't know what I'm feeling. If being with her is the only way for him to be happy and smile, then I wish him with all my heart. But what should I do? I am in love with someone 12 years older than me, and he is in love with a woman who is 15 years older than him.
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Let's stop with this simplicity, which you resort to every time you start not to become an ilid, but it seems bad to work with "appreciating as a friend". Can I? Let's face it, you're doing it for your own emotional comfort. "Oh, it probably won't happen ... well, I appreciate him as a friend anyway" You calm yourself down and lie and look small. Say to yourself, "I like him, and he doesn't seem to like me, it sucks, I want to or I don't want to win him." What do you calm down, it's ok. Not ok. You feel sick. This is allowed and normal. What if his heart was broken by some aunt. What do you think goes through his head if he is a little recovered, but it seems that enough time has passed and he may have some other reasonable thought in his head. He thinks, "Maybe I should find a girl who's more normal for me, who hasn't experienced everything yet." Ah! You see, a showing and seeking attention, a flirtatious chick, suddenly appears in front of him. Or you don't both sit alone and sad because you're afraid to make a move. You like it, but go ahead - act! Impress him! You want it - have it! Enough with the dull, boring passivity.
Author: Number 1, thanks for the answer. Update ... I'm coming home from work now and I'm super confused. The boss took me home and admitted that he felt something for me. Everything becomes super confusing for me, I don't know what to do. You are right that I have to fight and that it sounds silly and scary to say "yes, let him be happy". There's just some mess in my head, I don't know what to do. I don't even think I'm looking for advice, I just need to pour it somewhere. I live alone, my family is in Bulgaria, I study abroad and I feel terribly confused and alone at the moment. I know that he resorts to self-pity again, instead of facing the problems, but I don't know anymore ...
He grabbed his boss and asked him to adopt the Indian
Haha, but no, I seriously don't know what to do. It occurred to me several times to quit my job, but I will not find a better job than this. The boss openly showed me that he was in love with me, and I even lied to him that I had a friend and he said "I don't expect anything, just let me be close to you". I'm one of those people who is super awkward in such situations. I'm afraid they won't hurt the other person and I just say mhm mhh. And he is married and has children. He drives me home every night and walks around the road to talk. He even gets on the highway sometimes and then turns around. He looks at me with a lot of love, really. No one has looked at me like that before. It seems to admire me, I don't know if it sounds stupid but that's how I feel. Tell me a few times if what I'm telling you makes you uncomfortable, just tell me. And what can I tell him? Yes, stop! Do I like one of your workers? Well, there's no way ... Yesterday in the car, his eyes even watered as he spoke to me and his voice trembled. I'm very confused because I didn't give him any reason? I am completely normal with him, as well as with other colleagues. And he keeps telling me I know you don't understand what I'm feeling for you, but the feeling is huge. He yells, leaving me at home every night and can't wait to see me the next day. And I just stand there and keep quiet about something stupid. Should I leave? that you do not understand what I feel for you but the feeling is huge. He yells, leaving me at home every night and can't wait to see me the next day. And I just stand there and keep quiet about something stupid. Should I leave? that you do not understand what I feel for you but the feeling is huge. He yells, leaving me at home every night and can't wait to see me the next day. And I just stand there and keep quiet about something stupid. Should I leave?
One title - two mistakes. Maybe that's the reason?
Your boss has children and a wife, do you really believe that he is in love with you, does that tell everyone to be able to stretch her, are you blind.
Number 2 I don't know if she's joking or if she really is the author, but this is a circus! Greetings! MM