Hello! I am 20 years old and I need help or rather people who have already lived through my story to support me emotionally and give me advice on how to proceed. The situation is as follows: First love (everyone has it), I was with a boy for a long time .. I had both the best and the worst moments with him, I gave everything for him. In the beginning, everything was like a fairy tale, I didn't even believe that it was possible for everything in my life to go so perfectly. He was very kind, caring, he gave me all the attention and love of the world ... Dream boy. But over time it changed, quarrels began to become daily, and with each of our quarrels there was a separation, during which he was looking for another ... The thing is that in the month we parted twice, constant divisions and gatherings. He made a lot of mistakes, I also made mistakes, we hurt each other, but we still loved each other.
We've been separated for a while now, but I can't shake the thought of him. I try my best not to think, not to care, but it hurts a lot ... There is always no one else in the world and I will not be able to love another. I miss him and I want to be with him, but I know that things don't work out anymore and we only bring pain to each other. A battle between the mind and the heart. How to deal with the incessant thoughts that do not allow me to fall asleep and how to reduce the pain at least a little? I'm not sure how much time heals anymore ... How to deal with the incessant thoughts that do not allow me to fall asleep and how to reduce the pain at least a little? I'm not sure how much time heals anymore ... How to deal with the incessant thoughts that do not allow me to fall asleep and how to reduce the pain at least a little? I'm not sure how much time heals anymore ...
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Time heals. When you don't see someone, you forget them. In time you will wonder what you found for him.
The bad thing is that I see him every day ...
Look for him, talk to him and let him know all this :)
We experience the same thing, and I've been through it before ... Just when I think about how happy I was and when my mind goes on autopilot in our good memories from the beginning and something shrinks painfully in me. I still feel the urge to turn around and hug her or kiss her or write to her, but I know I shouldn't, because it's not the same anymore and we're not in this relationship and it's not ok. Just seeing her Facebook profile and the same stabbing feeling hits me inside and everything gets a little grayer and my interest in anything fades slightly. I know it doesn't have to be this way and I try to keep myself occupied and busy even with the little things, but my mind automatically goes there, in the memories with her and to the questions "why?" And "how did that happen?". My head knows everything that is negative to know about it and why I shouldn't care and miss everything that isn't, but my heart aches and burns without confessing, and I try in panic to escape the growing shadow that catches up with me, deep inside me, without showing outwardly that I am experiencing it and embarking on anything but I think about it, just to keep my mind busy with something else, just to lie for another minute or two, that deep down I don't feel helpless and robbed of my own spark .... that disgusting pus the pain does not flow slowly from my broken feelings and heart ... But I know it will pass. I know that after X number of tears, after we surrendered and opened his damn photo / s, after we played the damn song we associate with them, after we ruined X number of moments and moods, after X number of burns of pain when seeing / mentioning them will start to decrease. I know that in a few weeks or months, and for the more hopelessly in love, years may pass. I know that I will meet another girl who will occupy my brain and he will forget to think about memories and torment me and the fresh feeling of falling in love will take over my heart like the fresh grass of spring through the dry weeds of pain. It may hurt me too, we may not get there at all, we may not even meet, but some girl will catch my interest and then as a lamp key the pain will be replaced by light and silly boyish plans and worries that do not they suit me for years, but those who refuse to let me go will attack me. And my deepest wish is that I do not lose them from the pain. Because from the pain it grows, it matures forcibly. And I want to stay a child. At least in this regard. Because that way life is just better. Until hell again ...
I am much older than you, but I have experienced the same. The same relationship. Even without getting married. It just happened to me all of a sudden. It was as if something had broken inside me. I was tired of the constant quarrels, quarrels, and then reconciliations. One string, when you overstretch it constantly, eventually breaks. My advice is cut from time to time. No appointments, no Facebooks, phones, etc. You block everything, if necessary you delete and remove your FB. You change jobs if you have to. You find friends, company and have fun.
Go back to him if possible, give yourself a second chance, first love is first and stays in your heart forever.
Safe from your soaps! You live in some cheap chalgar video. Hearing such comparisons, the battle between them has a heart of laughter. And what about the battle between the ears and the toes.
Aman and from "always"!
You are neither the first nor the last, the story is known to everyone. This is how we learn to live, some easier, some harder. You will get over it, but be careful in your choices and do not accept everything that shines for gold. Once you drove and hurt often, you didn't love each other that much. If he replaced you with another so quickly, did he love you very much, do you think? Accept the fact that he has already passed and move on. Do something, read, go on trips, dance, whatever you like and don't think about it all the time. Throw away all the things he gave you, delete the photos, in time you will wonder what you found in him and why you suffered. I'm telling you from experience.
in your case I am firm for reason. This connection is exhausted and there is nothing more to give you. There is a reason for you to quarrel and break so many times, it is not an accidental quarrel, but a deep discrepancy between you. You think of him out of habit and out of hurt him. The good news is that time passes, as banal as it sounds, time heals.