A year ago I thought I met love At the moment I have a 4 month old daughter from this man. When I was 9 months old, my husband received a paternity summons. In fact, I received the summons. That's how I found out about his other child from a fleeting relationship. I will never forget how I felt about this hidden truth. Now I'm just wondering how to look at this man with those eyes in love that are gone. The tip of the ice cream is when I realized that she is my neighbor with whom I pass every day.
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This is really not a small problem, but I can't imagine living like that. Let someone with a similar problem help you. Calmly, over time, things will get better and you will be fine.
Maybe he was afraid of losing you, so he kept quiet, and paternity has not yet been proven. It hurts right now, but you're not to blame or that kid. Save your health because your child needs you. Talk to make sure of his attitude towards this woman and her child. For the eyes in love you will need time to smile again. Maybe if I were you, I would first suggest to my husband that we move to another apartment, maybe to another neighborhood or another place - if there is such an opportunity, of course, so that I don't see these people.
I understand you dear. I also found myself in a similar situation, but I realized the truth after 25 years of marriage. I was at a crossroads to leave, I can't and I don't want to trust him anymore.
Move to live elsewhere, and if you can forgive him. Men and they have their fears and nightmares, it is not known what happened between them, but it is not love when the summons come in the mail. Calm down and just look ahead. It is not known where our men spawned, what if we don't have subpoenas? Your husband is a polygamous creature, look after your baby and do not pretend that you will get sick and the child will be left without warm care. Your boy will realize whether now or later, that's another matter. But if he's with you, then he's fine with you - don't forget that. Otherwise it can be with anyone!
If you really love him and things are going well between you, don't dig too deep. Ask for an explanation and talk to each other. The fact that there is another child still means nothing. She's with you.
The opinions expressed above are wise and well-intentioned advice. Speak openly and do not return to the topic as much as possible. Time will tell how alive the relationship is in marriage. I also think he was afraid of losing you, so he didn't share it with you. Do not rush with definite decisions.