Hello, I am 17 years old. My best friend and I have known each other since we were children. We live in a small town, our houses are next to each other ... by the way, here we all know each other and know our secrets, problems and absolutely everything. But no one knows about my secret and there is no way to share it with anyone and it bothers and weighs me terribly. It's about practically stupid whims of the heart (love torments, as some call them), but in my case it's a little more complicated! I have been dating for 3 years with 1 boy, and my best friend with his friend, and not just any friend, but his best friend. So it turned out that the 2 best friends go with 2 best friends! At first glance, everything looks great. The 4 of us are having a great time, but the problem is that I'm in love with my best friend's boyfriend - my boyfriend's best friend .... The situation is terrible, I have no choice but to remain silent, because if I tell my boyfriend I will hurt him terribly, and if I tell my girlfriend our relationship will change completely ... and I am 90% sure that the boy I am in in love there is nothing to me, after all between him and my girlfriend has strong feelings - they have been together for 5 years! I don't know what to do and how to act, I love my boyfriend and I hold on to him and my best friend, but I can't erase from my memory the real owner of my heart from the moment we met (before 4 years) ... I will be very grateful if you help me with some other advice; ... in which I am in love there is nothing to me, after all between him and my girlfriend has strong feelings - they have been together for 5 years! I don't know what to do and how to act, I love my boyfriend and I hold on to him, as well as my best friend, but I can't erase from my memory the real owner of my heart from the moment we met (before 4 years) ... I will be very grateful if you help me with some other advice; ... in which I am in love there is nothing to me, after all between him and my girlfriend has strong feelings - they have been together for 5 years! I don't know what to do and how to act, I love my boyfriend and I hold on to him and my best friend, but I can't erase from my memory the real owner of my heart from the moment we met (before 4 years) ... I will be very grateful if you help me with some other advice; ...
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You better not risk confusing your life completely. In love it does not happen as we want or think. There is nothing more valuable than friendship, so don't risk it.
Abe, you have been together for 5 years now, don't you think ..... to do something more serious? - depending on his answer and intonation :) you will understand many things ....
What is the point of asking all these questions when it is clear to you that the boy in question is not interested in you and loves his girlfriend? Apart from complicating your life, being stigmatized as a traitorous friend and, worst of all, feeling like an unnecessary intruder, don't expect anything else .... All the men we like, whether physically or by other criteria, can't help us belong-such is life ... Accept this fact.
There is no point in complicating your life. If you still feel something for your present, then everything is fine. Just enjoy the moment, and if you're lucky, if you don't forget what you're feeling over time, you may be together. However, your girlfriend will not marry her boyfriend. :)
Swap boyfriends. Doesn't your girlfriend like yours?
It's similar with me and I'm 17 and I already have a child. my boyfriend was born, he thought it was from him, but about 1 month ago I told him the truth that my child is from his friend and that I am in love with him, my friend can't accept him and he dumped me and he didn't look at his friend anymore ... .. and the worst thing is that I am alone now
calm down and I have the same problem and I feel the same way and I better know that there are other people who are in such a situation. But for me, the movie is much bigger, because I think he likes me too. And this leads me to a big dilemma - I can't know for sure and even if I'm sure I don't know what to do. Nobody understands me, I have no one to tell how I really feel. How do I want it with my whole being ... And I keep asking myself the question '' What if no one understands ...? "