Hello everyone! It says a really confused girl. I have nothing to go into long explanations, maybe it is clear to all of you about those sweet-spoken men who, without being impudent or impudent, slowly and gradually get under your skin, manipulate you so much that you feel flattered that they have turned you a little. attention and devote their time to you. Most women may notice the games they become entangled in when they start playing this type of man, but they believe they are experienced enough not to fall into the nets of so-called "players" and become another in the long haul. their lists. But alas, attraction and flirtation, as much as fun, because it's interesting with them, but then what happens when he turns his back on them? That they suffer. Exactly those who until a month ago watched with annoyance and ridicule and did not take his intentions seriously. They are suffering now. Whether they do it from a complex or something else - it doesn't matter, the important thing is that these skilled men always achieve their goal. Here I am. I have described as comprehensively as possible the situation in which I find myself. I will be waiting for your advice and opinions on the topic. Thanks for your time!
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Well, it is the women's fault that they go with such things at the expense of the decent ones. :)
Honey! I sympathize with you a lot ... at the moment I am coming out of the same situation .. 1 year ago I was "enchanted" by such a man .. I will not hide that one year I wanted to die and I did not stop thinking about him, literally, as I was enchanted. Nooo ... and that started to pass. Slowly but gloriously. It's just that time heals, even if you don't believe it! Good luck :(
And what now, they lied to me and slept with me, why are they like that? Because you are looking for them, you like them. If you don't go with a boy who doesn't hear his word very, very much, to be modest in his actions and words, even if he's annoying, that's even better, because if he's annoying, it clearly shows that is not a player. You always go to those who take down your stars and give yourself to them. Oh, yes, I forgot ... the annoying ones are complex and not interesting :) Well, go on with the openers. You yourself avoid valuable men and go where a man makes the most impression. It's like me going to the poisoned woman and then getting angry that she doesn't want anything serious from me. How can she want to be lined up and she still doesn't know what exactly she wants ... or she wants exactly that :)
If this "player" was fat and short, would you look at him and even let him play you?
"Players" for you are some irresistible men. When you start an intimate relationship, don't you soberly evaluate the pros and cons for you? If you rush like an unseen man, because he is sweet-spoken and charming, without caring about his status or the factors determining the development of the relationship in the future, there is no one to be angry about your failures. Everyone must suffer their choice. Not that I'm very good at the subject, but I really like a thought: "To fly in love, you need two wings; one is feelings, the other is reason." There is no way to do with just one.
In my opinion, this is a mistake in the minds of many girls. You had a good time, but now he's guilty because he doesn't care about you anymore. It's not like being with a child or promising to love you forever. If you want a serious relationship so much, say it clearly and precisely, from the first time you "play around" so that you are not confused. It is.
Eeemi that's what she's doing. You love the bad guys ... The good ones are boring ...
Next time you will try to be smarter.
Well, you will just gain experience and next time you will be tougher.
They are really cruel !! They do it most ruthlessly and lie to the last. Hey, I've caught them a few times like a fool, but now their line is coming and I don't think about it at all!
If one wants to deal with them, one must be without any feelings. For fun, you start, that's how it should end. It's empty that we women always give it to emotions and in the end we regret it.
Western women are supposed to be feminists and claim to want quiet and good men, while walking like a tank and pushing people on a train in the Netherlands licked me. When I behaved normally and modestly, I was invisible to them. It has been confirmed that even Westerners run into bad boys.
As people wiser than me have said "'eat meatballs * not riva, eh?" * Or whatever you ate there ... There is no point in your topic, you will only create more opposition. It is clear that in order to have "players", there must be light women. :) You can't do one without the other.
Such women are attached to the "players" because they do not have self-confidence, want to be more than desired and melt during each dump. No one is forcing you to bond with the "players" in question! You have your head on your shoulders, use it when necessary, not everything is flowers and roses, you have to accept it. Your ideal for a man is formed by the movies, where there is always a happy ending. When you want a good man who does not deceive you and deceives you with sweet-spoken talk, turn to men you have not noticed before. Don't just fall in love with external beauty, because in most cases it lies. Follow your heart! (GV)
Well, nothing wrong, but you're just another one. This is their tactic. The girls see a challenge in them and they do it. Supposedly to prove that such boys cannot outwit them. That's how they get numbers and lists. They are nothing special, but tactics, tactics ...
Come on, head up! What happened happened. You've caught on, but look on the bright side - next time you'll know what they are and you'll find them far less interesting.
And here, the complex comments from the "modest" boys started to rain, which the "taken away" women do not look at them and that is why they define them as "light"!
There is no salvation, miss. The whole scheme is expressed in the exploitation of features in the functioning of the female brain, which are so purely biological. Separately, the so-called mind control is a whole science, and for some it just comes from within. You even named some key points yourself. If he is impudent and direct, this automatically unlocks your defense mechanisms and presses your brake. However, if it is slow, easy, covert, the chances of success jump significantly. You can't resist what you can't detect. :)
to 17: Every man knows which woman is light. But she doesn't tell her, of course :) No woman wants to think that she is perceived as easy. You help the girl feel good by letting you go on a first date, the goal is not to feel like a whore. No whore wants to feel like a whore. :) Well, at least most. It's a subtle psychology there ...
Everyone does it themselves. Once I was dealing with a player, I found out about it later, I had sunk, but I quickly stopped attaching to him. She could crawl on her stomach alone, but not let him control and rule me. I have a heart, if someone will break it, or it will be worthy, or I will break it myself, so that it is not a "player". No one is smarter than others, the heart does not ask, it just trembles and that is, no one is able to change their feelings, but everyone decides how to act. I was in love, but I didn't sleep with this man, he didn't understand a single tear, he had me, but I kept to myself more than that. I knew what he was doing, he knew I knew, I felt hurt, but I didn't fall to a lower level than I would have liked. Make the decisions you think are right. Not everyone deserves to be ruined for your love. Looking for someone who will deserve your every effort and do it for such a person, not for anyone. I currently live with the only man I cried in front of and the only one who was always by my side. He deserves it, it doesn't mean that if he starts cheating on me, if he starts touching me, if he ignores me and so on, I will stay with him. Nor is he in reverse with me. I can't control my feelings, I can't change them, but I have control over my life and if my decision will hurt me right now, but it will teach me something and help me to be happy in the future - why not make this decision , despite the heart !? No one is tied to their partner, everyone decides with whom and how long to stay. I do not support women who are tied to users. Why? You have a brain, you have an instinct for self-preservation, you see who is standing in front of you ... why are you staying A man feels which woman is light, feels which is desperate and which is strong and worthy of him. If he has judged you badly, he will not keep up and he will know that even if it is a complete mess, you will stay. It's bad to take advantage, but it's your fault you're allowing it. Not that I wasn't one of you, not that I didn't feel that way, but I didn't let it go on. Stop it too.
The only way to overcome it is to build self-confidence. Then the woman can see that the "player" was not what she was looking for, nor was she the only fish in the sea. But many women are deceived after they are dumped that the man was so kind, charming and wonderful. There must be something wrong with them to repel them. Bullshit. A player is a player, feelings have never played a role in him. He is the perfect actor - he performs his repertoire and disappears behind the scenes. This is what you need to understand dear ladies.
People (not all, of course) are bad and that's it. The woman shared her grief, and some comments may not only not help, but also make her feel worse. I understand she did something bad to attack her, and she just fell in love with a sweet talker. Wow, what an act of rebuke! I don't understand why we are like that, but precisely because we are like that, there are people who are injured. Be People! Author, whatever we say - only time will help. But believe in it and know that no matter how banal - it works flawlessly! Just ... Give yourself time. A hug! F29
And one more thing - Number 21 (I guess a man) gave a very meaningful and humane comment. The truth is in one's own self-esteem and faith in oneself, in surrounding oneself with the right people. F29
19 Each complex thinks that there are light women, and men can sleep with 20 if they were not light. : D You pitiful stinking Bulgarians are pathetic, and there are no bad and good boys here, you are all complex jerks, the eternally tormentors are spitting at women and I don't know why they are so stupid and don't respond, having a million facts to say about you- the heavy peasants.
And why do you call the garbage, who are the only whores and materialists, and not the women, sweet talkers ?! These complex sweet talkers love to tease about whores, and the facts show that they are the whores. Why don't you almost flatter them ?!
Emmy, one learns from one's mistakes. I'm a man and I used to be pretty naive. I thought all the girls were faithful, kind, and good, but after scalding myself a few times, I learned my lesson. I have not encountered any brutal k *** i, but let's say I have come across quite cunning women. Since then I know what to watch and most of all what I want from a girl. If he's not my type, I just don't care. The most common example from a few months ago: I met a girl through mutual acquaintances. I even met it is strongly said - we met several times in a common company. The reviews for her were that she is a wonderful and very punctual person, a great professional at work, etc. Nice, but her tongue was almost like a cart. I later found out that you had a very "serious" friend with whom you had been living together for a long time, but on Facebook she is unattached and there is not a single photo with him. The "problem" turned out to be quite trivial, the boy simply did not make enough money.
the other one is also responsible for lying like an old dirty gypsy / gypsy Come on, take notes that the comments of some of you are, to put it mildly, funny and naive! Woman!
Which players? You will make me laugh: D These are so elementary men that there is nowhere to go. It is a mystery to me that there are rabbits that eat. Such men are downright funny, there are a lot of them around me, due to the fact that I have an attractive vision, but believe me, I can't understand you ... What do you prefer a peacock (a washer) or a wolf knows the price and does not suffer from complexes) as an animal? Pinscher (a stripper who knows his mouth a lot and is manipulative) or a St. Bernard (a stable man, with a sense of loyalty and dignity, without complexes)? It's all in your head! These men, if you look really are ... women: D Vanity, blabbering a lot or worse - without a gram of upbringing, have no special dignity, kill complexes, hovering numbers, they are deeply insecure ... just men whores. Nothing interesting. Come on, good health: D
to 24: The easiest thing for any woman is to have sex. There are always ready-made men who will not only sleep with her, but will also buy her a bottle of wine beforehand. The average woman needs exactly 15 minutes to stay in a tinder or dating site and can have sex for the evening. It takes an average man hours, maybe days, to find a woman who has sex for the evening. Therefore, women who sleep with many men are light, and men who sleep with many women are playboys and players. It is easy for a woman to find free sex, it is difficult for a man to find free sex. There is no gender equality in this regard.
24 - Only 29 ... That this is a high school number was a dude ... What kind of men?