Are there men who attended the birth of their child? What is your opinion on the matter?
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I attended the birth of both my children. I don't see why there is a need for an opinion on the issue at all - your child is being born, he was a dude! If you are not there, what kind of father are you expected to be afterwards?
In my opinion, this is unnecessary and shameful. I would be ashamed if my husband attended the birth.
It is perfectly normal for the child's father to be present at the time of birth. However, he also took part in the creation of the child :) There is nothing shameful, scary or disgusting! He is there to see and hug his child for the first time, to support his partner in this most important moment for the family. Be brave fathers, there is nothing more exciting than seeing your own baby come into the world. I am a woman, I have 2 children and my husband attends both births. I was under general anesthesia during the first birth and I did not see our son, but when I gave birth to our second son and they handed it to my chest, my husband and I immediately burst into tears like donkeys: D
My first birth is coming soon and my husband will definitely be present. When the opportunity arises, there is nothing better than for Dad to share this special moment.
He was present twice. For me personally, this brought me even closer. Separately, you see first hand what it means for a girl to become a mother and what a sacrifice she makes at birth. Definitely worth it. For me, this was also an important life lesson.
I am a woman with children and I know how pleasant the sight of a woman is at such a moment. I wouldn't want my husband to look at me like that. Nothing will be better for me than his presence, on the contrary. I know one who fainted at the birth of his child. From the fact that not being there does not mean that you are a bad father. My husband was not, but he is a wonderful father.
In normal countries this question does not stand ....
I am against. I would wait outside, praying everything was fine, but I wouldn't be in the doctor's office. Birth is magic and I prefer it to stay that way for me as a man. I don't want to watch the process.
And I still don't have children but I wouldn't attend the birth, my wife will be ashamed later
Yes, you have to be there to examine the child, so that they don't try someone else's on you and to collect the placenta, because they take good money ....
Thanks for the answers! I saw that according to someone above, I was a man. I'm not. I am a woman. I soon gave birth and my husband was with me from the time we entered the hospital until we left. A total of 7 days. For us, this was the most exciting experience and he was definitely my biggest support, for which I will be grateful for him all my life. My question was asked because I received a lot of criticism from friends in Bulgaria. I didn't give birth there. In the ward where I gave birth, only single mothers give birth on their own. And the question of whether the father will be present, as someone above wrote, does not stand. I am glad that the positive comments are more than the negative ones. And that there are more and more men, this is normal and natural. Thanks to everyone who got involved. There is hope.
I gave birth to 2 children and my husband was not present. Not only do I not want to, but it is not right. If he was with me in the strongest pain, my will to fight would weaken and I would collapse in front of him. This would make him helpless, because there was really nothing he could do to help and it would be difficult for him. To watch your loved one struggle and not know what to help. God forbid something goes wrong ... Tragedy. The birth of a child is a bloody difficult mess. Upstairs I wrote a letter under general anesthesia - this is not a birth, but a surgical removal of the child. So it's not the same far. The man's place is outside. When I gave birth to our second daughter, the birth was painful and complicated, it was necessary to surgically remove the placenta and so on. When they took me half-alive in the hallway to see me, he looked worse than I did. He said, that these are the most difficult 24 hours of his life. And I trust him. Good thing he didn't see what the child and I went through.
There is nothing shameful about birth, the most wonderful moment in life. I gave birth twice, without my husband, I don't think she can bear it. It is good for a man to see how difficult it is to have a child.
To the women who wrote here who think it was a shame, so your men can get you pregnant, but then it was a "shame" to watch the process to know what it means to have someone. In the end, you give birth not only to your child, but to his as well. If I had your way of thinking ...
At 9 and 10 - think only of yourself, but not of the woman. Every pregnant woman, especially if it is her first pregnancy, has a great fear of giving birth. Some people panic just by going to the hospital. At such a moment, the person closest to you should be next to you. And who is closer than your husband and possibly your mother? I will soon give birth in Germany and all the hospitals I have visited have the practice of having 1-2 people present - the husband and the mother / mother-in-law. And many women give birth precisely with the support of their husbands, who must be there to soothe them, hold their hand, and give them courage. Instead of leaving them alone to struggle for hours with labor pains, surrounded by unknown doctors and midwives. Then there are also family rooms where the man can stay for 2-3 days with his wife and baby until discharge.
My husband didn't want to. He didn't want to see me in that light. I'm not angry with him. When I gave birth, I realized that he had done well. There is a lot of blood, it hurts a lot and it is difficult. It's not like going for coffee and having fun.
# 17, it's good for a man to know that family life is not just coffee and fun, and he can't just go out when things get rough ... Otherwise, specifically. This great joy has not yet happened to me, but I want my husband to be present. On the one hand, this is an indispensable support that I would definitely need at this time. On the other hand, it is good to be involved in this important event, which is no less his merit. In this way he will be able to assess first hand what it means to give life and what effort it requires. I just don't want him peeking between my legs, I think this view can really be saved. But to stand in the room, to hold my hand, to talk to me, to be there to take the baby in his arms - yes, definitely. I know that most men get more emotion, but that's why it's worth going through.
One more thing, the doctor kicked him out, said he better not be there.
Not only was I present, but I was filming with a video camera! Now, when one of the squirrels opens it for me, I play the recordings - to see where they came from, that even before that ... I have the recordings from the video zones, when they are another pixel, which flashes on the screen. Very quickly they pass any enthusiasm to argue about anything.
When it hurts I become irritable and I don't want anyone to touch my forehead, talk to me too much and instead of helping - it bothers. It's good for a man to know how difficult it is to give birth, but for me personally, it's not good.
My pregnancies and births were wonderful, twice. A strong man would not be afraid, depending on whether he is allowed in the hospital itself. What kind of light are you talking about, let the man understand what his wife is going through to give birth. I almost didn't hurt, I didn't shout.
my husband was with me, but he better not be. So it happened 20 days before the due date, in Germany, in a hurry and he came in with me to give birth
18, God forbid you give birth .... you will see what we are talking about. It's easy to judge now. 1 bucket of blood flows and it hurts to die of pain ... it will only be up to a man. The birth does not want spectators. Even animals hide themselves when they are born ... believe me, you won't care about people. Imagine the pain of a cycle in the tail multiplied by 200 ....
My husband was abroad with his parents. It was planned and I was prepared to be alone. But I would like him to be with me in the second. №21's comment sounds hateful.
Aren't men the strongest? !! Aren't they pushing a lot here and in reality and they are still getting angry at how great they are? !! Didn't your husband love you very much? !! Hahaha You and your children are not loved, and strong men are snotty scoundrels. Only a man knows what happened to him when he caught a cold, right? !! But what a pitiful choir ... HahagaHaha
№ 27 - have you ever had a husband and a child, has anyone loved you or used you only as a mop on your genitals ?? Why do I ask, it's clear ... Don't get tired of spitting poison in every topic, you old man!
I am number 10. As I said, I will not attend the birth of my children, but if it turns out that the children are not mine but from another man, I would run away from the hospital and catch a woman who will not have children.
It and walking in great need is not embarrassing, but no one would want to be watched while going out, right?
My husband wants to be with me when I give birth. On the one hand, because his presence calms me, on the other - to make sure that everything is fine. A man who loves you will not spare the ugly sight, but will want to support you in this moment. A friend helped his wife a lot, because he had to move, if he was not there he would have gone to bed and worked for 2 days. The moment he caught his son was priceless. They left them with the baby for 2-3 hours after birth. Now he says that this experience has united them a lot.
I had never read a duller comparison. To compare going to the toilet with the birth of your child? !! You can see how old you are.
I was horrified by the comments, how embarrassing it was for your husband to attend the birth. My husband is present (in Germany), I was under anesthesia, I did not shout, nor did I hurt much. I gave birth against the background of music that I had previously chosen. To this day, we joke that for me childbirth is easier and more bearable than the horror I feel from a dentist, no matter that there are caries with anesthesia.
32 - well, let's be realistic - the physical activity associated with childbirth is quite similar, just the children coming out of another hole. To me, women who want their husbands to attend the birth want to show him a kind of how much they suffer, unlike him, and how they should always be respected for giving birth to a child. All this is, unfortunately, connected with the extreme feminism that has been swirling in the English-speaking countries for the last decades and is already arriving in Europe. He downplays the role of the father, at the expense of the mother, and tries to impose that she has the final say in everything that concerns the child.
34 I'm of the opinion if he wants to, but participating in the making, why not be there in the final. The woman plays the most important role in the endeavor, even after it everything falls to her to 'weigh'. Let him see that it's not just 'going to the toilet'. Things need to be done a lot.
Let Abe see this man. Because they - and what a birth ... Then the child - well, you sit all day tired of what ...