The Story Of Another Mistress

   Wow, but what is this sheikh, huh? One woman dresses him, washes him, cooks for him, and the other supports him financially. You both see him as a prince. I personally wouldn't wait that long, but the years go by. Even if you leave him now, some pleas, promises will start .. but I don't know .. 2 years like that, then it becomes 3, 4 ... I was played for 4 years, although not a married man, but still cowardly man. There's no point. What's more, if he cheated on her like that, he might cheat on you in time.

   You know? You deserve much more! You deserve an equal partner and a peaceful future. This situation is quite awkward. I would not stand with him in that position. It would be normal for him to introduce you to the children for a long time, or when he takes them out, to explain that you are his wife. Look for another man and be happy ... :)

   Yes, stop waiting and get your life back. This is a lost cause with them, he may love you, but they have a hell of a lot in common and she wraps her arms around him as she wants! Is that how your life will go?

   At least you realized that everything was just promises. Yes, nothing happens in two days, but the divorce is done with only two signatures and one court decision. If he doesn't hide you and you live together, what stops them? His wife, on the other hand, must have realized that things would not work out with scandals and dramas, to get divorced, so that she would be relieved too. And the gentleman is obviously so comfortable, one looks after his children and the other takes care of him, it is possible that he is afraid of his relatives to divorce and marry his mistress. You say that his wife is domineering and jealous, it may be so, but he will always lead you by being the mother of his children. You have no idea how many men are married without desire, just because of their children. I hope things get better, I wish you luck !!!

   Maybe not, but just end this relationship. If only you had some self-esteem left. But it's unlikely, since in 2 years you have had enough love to ask people on the forums. This man will never be completely yours and will never break up with his family. And his children are not yours, you are for them and you will remain what their father took away from them. I can't understand what kind of women you are. Married men have been lying to you for years about getting divorced, having fun, finding variety, serving them, and even justifying how bad their wives are. And you repeat it like parrots, as if if you are in their place, your husband's infidelity will please you. It's full of such stories here. You whine, complain, and ask why he, the beautiful one, doesn't marry you when you love him so much. Well very clear, it was dear ladies, because he doesn't love you as much as you love him. Why does he already know what marriage is and does not commit to another, which is now interesting, good, loving, but tomorrow it will become legal. Because you are deluding yourself, you do not want to see that you love the "wrong" person and the relationship with him does not bring you happiness. Because he can get what he wants from you without marriage. And because there is no happiness built on someone else's misfortune. Look for another, single man, not over, do not deal with married.

   Quite a difficult situation for you. Whatever has happened so far - I think it is best to judge at this stage what is best for you and what realistic development of things you can expect and act accordingly. There is no logic in the situation thus created that the procedure for their divorce has not yet begun. Estimate how old you are and how much time you have to lose. Even if he finally divorces - his ex-wife and children will continue to be a factor in your life and an occasion for more disagreements. Is this man really worth all the stress and harassment by his wife that you are subjected to? Do you still love him - so far you have certainly encountered his sides, which you do not like. Do you trust him - for example, that if you get pregnant and give birth to him, he will not start treating you badly and neglecting you with the child, Has his attitude changed over time, does he make more gestures and surprises, do you notice that he irritates or annoys you? Only you can answer all these questions and find out exactly where you are and what is best for you.

   Author - what the hell did you do with a married man? !? !! I understand that if he was unhappy in his marriage and divorced - OK, you can still build something together, but so you're just his "mistress" ... I think the problem is not in his wife, but in you. You got caught up in this dance and will play it to the end, as I see it. M. 32g.

   Have you ever wondered what will happen to you when he returns to his family? No? Ask yourself.

   So, what's so special about your story? I don't know how you do it, honestly. Don't you want to be proud of yourself? And even if you are together one day, what will you be proud of? That you ruined a family? That you broke a woman? That you separated 2 children from their father? If there are no women like you to bond with such men, they will stop doing such tricks. Rotate you both. You're laughing.

   That's why I don't deal with married men with children. Because either he will lie to me that he will leave her, and I will be with him only for the evening, or he will really leave her, but then she will only pick on me. My mother used to do the same thing when my father left her for another. And the cousin of one of my cousins ​​is the same.

   Honey, this one just uses you! Whether he will divorce his wife or not, I do not know, but you are just comfortable with him. You wash him, you cook for him, you don't cause him problems, and at the same time he has an "official" family. You better dump him and don't waste your time, because the years go by and you will be left without children while you wait for this gentleman to decide to divorce and officially reunite with you. I will tell you a real story about my colleague. When I joined her company and there were only 2 or 3 years left until retirement, but she worked harder than all of us and never talked about her family. You know how it is, on Friday everything starts to be explained what they will do on the weekend, where they will go with their partner and / or children, etc., and she was always silent and looked kind of sad. After a while, as we got closer, I realized what her story was. At 20 and a few, she met a married man and fell madly in love with him. And he was madly in love with her, but he had small children and that was not the right time to divorce. She didn't take it very seriously, she was still very young. There was time. However, the years passed and she began to ask him when he still planned to divorce and legalize their relationship. Now it couldn't, because the son was in high school and had problems, the divorce would ruin him. Then it couldn't because ... and so excuses, after excuses and year after year. She turned 30, then 35 ... and always promised her that "only the son would finish", "but only to become independent", "only eat-what-what" ... and one day the lover and instead of he divorced his wife, abandoned her because he had had enough of all these years. Besides, he was no longer a young man and wanted peace and quiet, not drama and hiding from his wife. And at his age to start a new family ... And so my colleague was left alone, over 40, without children and without a husband. Well, is that what you want? To be completely alone and work like crazy because you just don't have anything to fill your time with? So don't waste your time and don't believe in promises that you both know are nonsense. If he wants to be with you, he will find a way, but if there is always some reason to postpone the divorce, just this situation suits him. And his wife may not be so crazy about him. Yes, he treats you badly, it's normal, but their relationship with him can be quite different from what he tells you. If the situation was so intolerable, why hadn't he divorced her yet? Think! rather than drama and hiding from the wife. And at his age to start a new family ... And so my colleague was left alone, over 40, without children and without a husband. Well, is that what you want? To be completely alone and work like crazy because you just don't have anything to fill your time with? So don't waste your time and don't believe in promises that you both know are nonsense. If he wants to be with you, he will find a way, but if there is always a reason to postpone the divorce, this situation just suits him. And his wife may not be so crazy about him. Yes, he treats you badly, it's normal, but their relationship with him can be quite different from what he tells you. If the situation was so intolerable, why hadn't he divorced her yet? Think! rather than drama and hiding from the wife. And at his age to start a new family ... And so my colleague was left alone, over 40, without children and without a husband. Well, is that what you want? To be completely alone and work like crazy because you just don't have anything to fill your time with? So don't waste your time and don't believe promises that you both know are nonsense. If he wants to be with you, he will find a way, but if there is always a reason to postpone the divorce, this situation just suits him. And his wife may not be so crazy about him. Yes, he treats you badly, it's normal, but their relationship with him can be quite different from what he tells you. If the situation was so intolerable, why hadn't he divorced her yet? Think! over 40, without children and without a man. Well, is that what you want? To be completely alone and work like crazy because you just don't have anything to fill your time with? So don't waste your time and don't believe in promises that you both know are nonsense. If he wants to be with you, he will find a way, but if there is always a reason to postpone the divorce, this situation just suits him. And his wife may not be so crazy about him. Yes, he treats you badly, it's normal, but their relationship with him can be quite different from what he tells you. If the situation was so intolerable, why hadn't he divorced her yet? Think! over 40, without children and without a man. Well, is that what you want? To be completely alone and work like crazy because you just don't have anything to fill your time with? So don't waste your time and don't believe in promises that you both know are nonsense. If he wants to be with you, he will find a way, but if there is always some reason to postpone the divorce, just this situation suits him. And his wife may not be so crazy about him. Yes, he treats you badly, it's normal, but their relationship with him can be quite different from what he tells you. If the situation was so intolerable, why hadn't he divorced her yet? Think! that they are empty talk. If he wants to be with you, he will find a way, but if there is always a reason to postpone the divorce, this situation just suits him. And his wife may not be so crazy about him. Yes, he treats you badly, it's normal, but their relationship with him can be quite different from what he tells you. If the situation was so intolerable, why hadn't he divorced her yet? Think! that they are empty talk. If he wants to be with you, he will find a way, but if there is always some reason to postpone the divorce, just this situation suits him. And his wife may not be so crazy about him. Yes, he treats you badly, it's normal, but their relationship with him can be quite different from what he tells you. If the situation was so intolerable, why hadn't he divorced her yet? Think!

   * I always have to wait and be patient, and everything is served to her at the moment. * - What was it, author, and was it presented at the moment? Loneliness, pain, insult, what is served to her at the moment? Don't you realize things? She thought that one day you might be in her place. Abandoned, alone with two children - and the beloved man with another.

   What do you care. He supports you, he bought you a car, an iPhone, he gives you per diems. Tsocai is talking to him there, it is clear that he will not make you children, but at least he has provided for you. Squeeze tightly, because if there are a lot of money, young and twisted people will want to take it away from you for money. Don't give up, always look good and ready for French caresses.

   You better leave a man who loves to imagine his future with you. He will not listen to his wife, even after he found out about his feelings for you, he had to ask for a divorce and get a divorce. He is insecure when he keeps you 2 years even less, that he does not realize that his wife is manipulative or does not want to admit it. Pack your bags and leave. Such men will not just leave their family, even if they show the opposite, he has one thing in mind.

   Imagine now, you are with him, you are supposed to build something together, you create life, etc. and then a person like you appears and it all ends ... won't you also want to live? By what right do you call her "emotionally unstable" after seeing a woman suffer? You have witnessed your mother's pain, at least from there you can have a little sympathy.

   It's easy to give advice from the side, and I told you to stop here and leave. At the same time, I know how difficult it is when you put in a lot of feelings, time and effort to achieve something, to give up. But sometimes things just don't work out. Trust me. I had a relationship for 10 years with a divorced man. I didn't get anything I wanted. For him, the family was his ex-wife and child. She did not want a new family and child with me.

   № 19 - The mistress author was unlucky to find a wife like me. Let's see then what emotional instability is. Guaranteed, she wouldn't be able to tell herself by looking in the mirror. She would be so pleased with the stranger that she would hardly think of a second while she was alive.

   I summarize for the people (I emphasize, for the people - it will become clear later why) who want to save their eye cancer by reading this verbal diarrhea: the author is hugged by some edge that is "very married" - with a wife and children. In her defense, she realized this very late - only on the third meeting. Raised in a barn and unencumbered by things like morality and elementary humanity, the boyfriend has decided NOT to stop his relationship with a man who cheats on his wife and endangers the integrity of his own family. Realizing that the wife was apparently sharing a business with her husband and had obvious mental health problems, the author recalled that her mother had similarly suffered from infidelity. That is why she decided that it is good not to end her relationship with the guy in question, although it is already clear what kind of product he is. I forgot to add: she has claims on the family - she was annoyed that she didn't know the children. You read correctly: she did not contribute anything to their upbringing, but her small brain gives her the audacity to claim the right to be around FOREIGN children, as if they were animals in the zoo. In their mother's place, my elbow would break the jaw of such a brazen beast. In the place of any of the children, the thought of meeting some cheap geek to blame for my mother's suffering (along with my dad's) would make me get my lunch back. Unsurprisingly, many of the locals support this tick. Why? Because like her, they can and do cost so much. To create a marriage, to raise a family, to work for it, it all sounds like work and responsibility. It's easier to suck like a tick at someone else's expense because you don't care what it does to others. The title should be "The Story of Another Street Girl". You had a choice, author. You could have left when you found out he was married. But you're not, are you? You don't care about his suffering wife, the consequences for the children. You care about yourself. You get it. I hope it bothers you :)

   I'll tell you what I understand from the story. First, you didn't know what you were getting yourself into. You were a mistress for a while, and now you are openly a friend / boyfriend. If he divorces, probably the absolute maximum is to be the second woman. No matter what you do, his ex will always be the first woman in his life, the first to give birth to children and feed, clothe and wash him. He will share custody, property and business with her. It cannot be erased with an eraser from its past, you can only fit into the picture, but not fill it perfectly at the edges. Obviously, all this is bothering you. You worry that he is nervous, that he lives with you, not in his apartment - in luxury. You worry that he hasn't divorced in two years, and his wife hasn't given up on the drama. I understand her, to be honest, it's not easy for her, they created a lot together and now it all collapses or splits. I wouldn't judge her if I were you, even though I understand your anxiety about mental harassment. It's enough that I don't tease you. My thought is that they have something in each other and that thing will not disappear. You can live together, even if you get married after a while and have your children, but your boyfriend will always be the father of two more children and will see his ex-wife here and there. In such a scenario, you either accept it or leave it without looking back. It can drag on for years to come. You can see for yourself how 2 years have passed without you even noticing. Two or more will pass in the same way. Sit down and talk to him, face to face and completely frankly. Explain to him exactly what you want, what you agree with and what you don't. Don't expect to move mountains,

   I've read your story a few times to make sure I'm not the one you're talking about, because it's a little different from my story, sounds a little changed to me, but obviously it's not me. But I will answer you on my behalf. Except that she is married, and more precisely I am not, I do not have a business with my wife and I do not live with my mistress, everything is one to one. Thanks to number 23 for the comment and for the moment with the eraser and more precisely for the moment with the children. I have the same as you, loving endlessly, nooo not leaving her husband because she will harass her, because mine is powerful, she uses me through the children, and will ruin her life, she was mentally unstable, but she is unstable since you play with your husband and come go away. And she also hasn't seen my children live because they are angry and prepared against her. Is that so I wonder or because he doesn't want them? And I take her child even to school. The same words, my wife was served everything ready, and she was a poor second violin. With one stipulation on my part, that when I talk about living together for my family, I was told that I was pressuring her, that it wasn't so easy, that my husband and my wife, that I didn't know what I was doing. At the same time, I have to be on my ass, and when she needs me, I have to pay attention to her, as the only living being in my life, not to miss her daughter, and my children had a mother, let her took care of them. You want all the attention only for you and no one else, you want us to erase from our consciousness everything that was before you and to move forward with a light hand. Yes but no. Our past is part of us or you accept it or fuck it. The same words, my wife was served everything ready, and she was a poor second violin. With one stipulation on my part, that when I talk about living together for my family, I was told that I was pressuring her, that it wasn't so easy, that my husband and my wife, that I didn't know what. At the same time, I have to be on my ass, and when she needs me, I have to pay attention to her, as the only living being in my life, not to miss her daughter, and my children had a mother, let her took care of them. You want all the attention only for you and no one else, you want us to erase from our consciousness everything that was before you and to move forward with a light hand. Yes but no.

Our past is part of us or you accept it or fuck it. The same words, my wife was served everything ready, and she was a poor second violin. With one stipulation on my part, that when I talk about living together for my family, I was told that I was pressuring her, that it wasn't so easy, that my husband and my wife, that I didn't know what was going on. At the same time, I have to be on my ass, and when she needs me, I have to pay attention to her, as the only living being in my life, not to miss her daughter, and my children had a mother, let her took care of them. You want all the attention only for you and no one else, you want us to erase from our consciousness everything that was before you and to move forward with a light hand. Yes but no. Our past is part of us or you accept it or fuck it. With one stipulation on my part, that when I talk about living together for a family, I was told that I was pressuring her, that it wasn't so easy, that my husband and my wife, that I didn't know what. At the same time, I have to be on my ass, and when she needs me, I have to pay attention to her, as the only living being in my life, not to miss her daughter, and my children had a mother, let her took care of them. You want all the attention only for you and no one else, you want us to erase from our consciousness everything that was before you and to move forward with a light hand. Yes but no. Our past is part of us or you accept it or fuck it. With one stipulation on my part, that when I talk about living together for a family, I was told that I was pressuring her, that it wasn't so easy, that my husband and my wife, that I didn't know what. At the same time, I have to be up to my ass and when she needs me, I have to pay attention to her, as the only living being in my life, not to miss her daughter, and my children had a mother, let her took care of them. You want all the attention only for you and no one else, you want us to erase from our consciousness everything that was before you and to move forward with a light hand. Yes but no.

Our past is part of us or you accept it or fuck it. At the same time, I have to be on my ass, and when she needs me, I have to pay attention to her, as the only living being in my life, not to miss her daughter, and my children had a mother, let her took care of them. You want all the attention only for you and no one else, you want us to erase from our consciousness everything that was before you and to move forward with a light hand. Yes but no. Our past is part of us or you accept it or fuck it. At the same time, I have to be up to my ass and when she needs me, I have to pay attention to her, as the only living being in my life, not to miss her daughter, and my children had a mother, let her took care of them. You want all the attention only for you and no one else, you want us to erase from our consciousness everything that was before you and to move forward with a light hand. Yes but no. Our past is part of us or you accept it or fuck it.