I'm 16 years old. There is a trait in my character that is good on the one hand - it shows that I am a real person, but on the other hand it hurts me a lot. I have a friend for 2 years, he is 3 years older, we get along great, I am grateful to him for everything. My family is not perfect. I live, my mother, my father and my brother. My brother is also 3 years older than me. In short, my parents, especially my mother, take care of him more, pamper him more ... maybe because she is her first child, I don't know ... I feel neglected and somehow "unwanted". They take care of me too, they don't show that they have more sympathy for one child than for the other, but still I am one of the children and I notice it. I've always paid attention to the little things that most people ignore, that's why I'm always hurt. The slightest quarrel with one of these people upsets me, makes me feel guilty, unwanted and always crying. I hate crying especially in front of these people, I've never wanted to be so sensitive, but I'm like that and I don't know exactly how to change it. I don't think I need to look at the small detailed so much, to be more indifferent to everything. I don't want to show these tears to anyone, but I don't know how ...
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The feather passes through the poet's eye and hurts him and the people through the hands ... And they do not feel pain. People who know how to penetrate below the surface are sensitive. You understand the details which is a very good quality. You can't have everything and you pay with the pain ... It sucks but it's worth it, rejoice, because it will be very useful for you! You will get used to it and you will become stronger. :)
Everyone has traits they don't like, but you can't change so easily.
Maybe you should give an example of these little things that make you feel neglected. Things are not always as they seem. Often parents try to compensate one child if they think that in some way it is more harmful than the other (for example, a child from another marriage - not that this is the case, but just give an example). Other times, age plays an important role. Three years is generally not much, but the difference between 16 and 19 years is huge. If you think that they tolerate it more because they let it go to more restaurants, trips with friends or give it more pocket money - I think this is normal given your age. Think about what I'm telling you and see if he's really the one you love the most or so. You can get a more meaningful opinion if you describe a few more specific events. It's also not very nice to call them "these people" unless they are really so foreign to you - after all, these are the people who raise, support, love, help, etc. For me, parents are "these people" if they abuse and do not take care of their children - explain if this is your case. Drive it more fun and my experience shows that people who do not take things inward are calmer and happier, so do not look for a reason for everything. Ana so don't look for a reason for everything. Ana so don't look for a reason for everything. Ana
From the author: It is definitely not about violence. Neither my mother nor my father ever attacked me. There are other ways, not just a fight! And by using the phrase "these people," I include my boyfriend, not just my parents. I just want to show that it's about my parents, my brother and my boyfriend.
I'm sorry if I offended you - I just wanted to know better what you mean. Otherwise, I think that because of your age you can be more sensitive - sometimes teenagers accept things inwardly, and even if you are like that, I think that in time you will become less anxious. I'm a sensitive person too - but compared to years ago, I take a lot less inward. Try to smile more often and see only the good side of things - abstract from the bad. As they say - positive thinking works wonders and a nice summer from me :) Anna