I am a 21-year-old girl, zodiac sign Libra, and he is also 29 years old. Virgo (if it will help lol) I study in another city and go home for 3 days every week. I've had a relationship this way before, but things were different. My current boyfriend is very caring, kind, but too sensitive and somehow I feel like the man in the relationship. He always tries not to fight, and if it happens he cries and apologizes, even if he is not guilty. Now if someone says the perfect man, come across one and you will raise your hands. He wants everything to be perfect, and if we happen to have a little argument (which happens to all couples), he reconsiders my every word for days and gets angry like a small child, not his age. According to him, if he showed me jealousy, I would have thought that he was suffocating me and showed nothing about it. If I tell him I'm not going home next week, the answer is: Well, I wanted to see you, but as soon as you have judged. Or if I go to a disco with friends, he never once showed jealousy, because that would repel me. Complete nonsense I don't want hysterical scenes of jealousy, but I want a little emotion, a thrill, even a little jealousy SOMETHING, not a monotonous, monotonous relationship, "supposedly" perfect, but empty emotionally
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Well, talk to him, and if I am, I will say the same. You are unpredictable, he just worries.
Your relationship is full of emotions! They are just one-sided - he for himself, you for yourself. :-) I'm sorry, but this is a manner, normal behavior for him. No matter how you turn the conversation around and tell him, he still won't understand you. If you like it, stay together. If not (and you know not), just find the easiest way possible to announce your decision.
Hello! I am a boy of 20 years. (Pisces zodiac sign, if it will help: E). So I was in a relationship and we broke up because we were something like you. I want to ask questions here! Why is avoiding disputes boring and there is no slight tension? Isn't there enough tension in everyday life (university, work) and during the time you spend with your partner you have to fight instead of squeezing out the accumulated tension? That with crying and apologizing is stupid yes. To think about actions and deeds thoroughly and for weeks is stupid. Do you think he should be jealous? I don't think so. When you want to go out with friends there is no problem, but when I want to go with my friends and you will let me go. You know them, no problem. Important question! Empty of emotion you say, hmmm well, and the expression of love, closeness and watching her smile and being together for at least 1 of those 3 days you see each other is not an emotion? Isn't thinking about her, and not cheating on her with others, an emotion? Why you need to have more and more negative and energy-exhausting emotions to keep the relationship "alive". If you're going to build something with one person, that's the type of relationship you want or don't want, you'll come to terms with. If you want something ala-bala (at your age) I understand. Be alone, get involved with boys and so on, but just such a relationship will give you security and you and your future baby: 3! Maybe I'm a rusk too ... but I can't risk my energy and time to pull with her for petty nonsense: 3 If not to look for the "bad" boy who will "kill" for her after another chalgia in Plaza finds a "light" girl, but who am I to judge! I will somehow get better, someone will like me. Women are very strange creatures but I guess after 1000 years they will still be surprising you :). In the end, I would wish you all the best, just tell him how you feel and if he is understood, like me, he will leave you, no matter how much it hurts. ;)
Tip for women: You need to know EXACTLY what you want from a man. Men are not telepaths yet! R.
It seems to me that you just don't love him. In my opinion, he has gone to the next level in your relationship, he wants security and comfort, and you are still at the level of "chasing and hunting". Can the answers to these questions help you understand if you love him: Is there sexual attraction between you? Do you fit sexually? Do you feel wanted and liked by him? What do you think is the problem - are you tired of the "dramas" you make because of the slightest argument or do you need another kind of "drama / thrill"? Can you imagine him as the father of your children? Do you think he is responsible enough? How do you deal with the problems - panic, mobilize or go with the flow? Is he proactive?
Find someone who will slap you for the slightest thing and you will shiver 100%;)
That's right, baby. Women have no pleasure. If he is jealous and they are complaining, you complain, if he is good - again. And so on until the age of 32-33, when you buy a cat.
He behaves more maturely than you, but obviously it doesn't make sense ...
I gave a woman exactly what you describe you want, and she took it to choose what you run away from. :) Doesn't it turn out after a while that you want peace, and that your thrill comes in more? Why don't you try to change it, to be more precise, to find each other. Keep in mind that a relationship always undergoes a metamorphosis. This may be just a stage, or you may want to go to another. :) Usually women do the latter. :)
There is no moderation in emotions. Once enough people complain about jealousy, that's exactly what happens - jealousy stops showing and demonstrating.
If your arguments are really petty and he clings to some of your words, that's petty, as long as you don't insult him and hurt him. Especially in the example of the disco, I don't see why he should be jealous of you. That really seems suffocating to me. Are you trying to add some variety to your relationship (and no, not to make scenes of jealousy and scandals, because then you really won't be bored just in a bad way.) I mean go somewhere on a trip, on a short break, to hint to him that she would appreciate some even small gesture to make you feel wanted and loved. Or tell him in plain text. But I still have a strange feeling that you don't love him and it's better to break up. I hope I'm wrong and things get better between you!
Posts like these really prove to me once again that you are just incubators that do not deserve special treatment. If he loves me - what he loves me. If he doesn't love me - why doesn't he love me. I had a similar relationship in which I had the stupidity to say that I love her - the biggest mistake. Then she broke up with me because I sounded like "too good" and she wanted me to give him away as a "bad boy". I hope he realizes and dumps you. At least work on yourself and improve your life.
Find a man your age. Best a university colleague. Don't deal with adults.
There are no pleasures, the man is an extra dream man straight, polite and sensitive. If you don't need it, give it here. And find a jealous man to make you scenes and thrills, because he doesn't deserve it.
Keep him and be careful with him, because as your years go by and you are as jealous as the other pickles on this site "where are the real men" then you will remember what you lost .. talk to him about your relationship problems, if he is understanding and careful , you will come to a conclusion and a solution. M29