Most of our class smoke cigarettes, weed, some even take drugs. The truth is, I don't want to look at them like that, they're ruining my life. Little by little they commit suicide. I grew up with them and I don't want anything bad to happen to them, but the truth is that I try to tell them it will kill them, but they don't listen to me. We are still 14 years old and I don't think they should shake. One boy started smoking in the first grade, which is not good at all. Most people think that by drinking and smoking they become famous, everyone likes them and they become cooler, but this is not the case. I have told them many times, but they do not stop, they begin to become addicted to it. We have been together since kindergarten, we play, we have fun, but little by little they fall apart and do not understand that it can even kill them. I don't know what more I can do, help!
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If they don't help each other, neither you nor God can help them!
There is nothing you can do. Everyone makes their own lifestyle choices. You are already 14 and you have to learn that in this life you have to be selfish to move out. The fact that you played with someone does not oblige you to take care of his life, the protection of his life is his concern and that of his parents.
Number 2 has the ultimate deviation of individuality, which is completely meaningless behavior in human individuals because it dooms them to social isolation and stagnation. I can advise the author not to take an example from them, nor from her emotionally robbed comrades. They are looking to make more people smoke, because they are angry that there are still firmly on the rails, and what makes us eat with each other are exactly the opiates! The grass is what gives you hope that you will be calm and move peacefully, but it is not. Grass is a means of manipulating the masses so that they can live and not take their lives in their hands.
My advice is to keep in touch with them, but in NO case do not share their addictions. If you are offered to smoke a cigarette - say "no, thank you" and that's it! This will show them that you can be cool even without using drugs.
Many years ago, I was of the same opinion. I saw different people - friends, acquaintances ... how they smoke, drink alcohol, do other things. And I was sitting on the side of the "reasonable". The one who found all these things super bad. I had the feeling that when I realized this, I was something more than them. For me, it was all so far away. But life has changed. Time turned and I tried marijuana. And you know I liked it. And at that moment I had forgotten what I was thinking about these people. Because I became part of them. I like to smoke, to drink beer, to have fun and amusement ... in another different world. And that led me to think that I shouldn't have looked at life and people that way at all, because one day I might be in their place and do these "things." And with some of the ones I used to look down on, we are currently going out and we are friends. And they are very accurate people. So don't judge people, look at yourself. Don't go their way, of course! I don't want people to attack me, I don't mean that at all. It's just that everyone chooses what to do bad or good ... at 14 or 30. Good evening! w, 22
Everyone has a head on their shoulders and chooses what to do with their lives. There is nothing you can do to help those who have decided to commit suicide, but they can easily slip you. The problem of all addictions lies in the family. Drug addicts and alcoholics become children of irresponsible, illiterate and morally degraded parents, who did not deal with their upbringing and spiritual growth, but modeled them in their own image and likeness and raised the material and simplicity into a cult. In a normal and healthy family, which are a rarity nowadays, the child must share everything with his parents, without secrets and taboo topics. His parents must be his best friends. Lack of communication and understanding leads to communication problems and pushes young people to the streets. The results are there. Then the parents start complaining. They say how well they took care of and did not deprive their child of anything, how well they raised him, etc. However, the truth is different. The material side is only one side of the coin. There is another side. It is rooted in early childhood. Parents bribe their children with treats, cheap gifts and trinkets to do some basic housework, instead of telling them emphatically that it is their duty and must be done. With such an attitude towards a 2-3 year old child, nothing good awaits you in the future. Children are very cunning and quickly learn that in order to perform an action, there must be a reward. If they do not receive it, they feel cheated and have a negative attitude towards their parents. The other very important problem in the family is that parents do not take into account what they say to their children. They insult with obscene words, quarrel, fight, smash property. I have inadvertently witnessed horribly ugly scenes and I am sure that this has a very bad effect and leaves lasting damage to the child's psyche. Another very important problem is spirituality. It is absolutely inadmissible to have parties and orgies in a home where small children live, to play music until the wee hours of the night, to get drunk and to smoke cigarettes. Many parents have not read a single line to their children, let alone a bedtime story. Picture books and fairy tales are very important for the formation of the worldview and imagination of young children. In most cases, children fall asleep tired in front of the TV, irradiated by advertisements, violence and vulgar behavior. Throughout the day, they were crammed with croissants, candy, chips and lollipops and other increasingly unhealthy foods. Their parents did not deprive them of anything and gave me everything they are capable of. And so day after day, month after month, year after year. Even today, these same parents are wondering where they went wrong, why it is happening to them, blaming their children's friends, the street, society and everyone else, but not themselves. Unfortunately, this is the reality in Bulgaria.
Dear .. Everyone decides for themselves how to live their life .. the fact that they have taken this path is their personal choice! Some do it for a jerk and do not realize how unfortunate they look from the side (plus this is a sign of weakness in terms of having nothing else to shine in the eyes of others), and on the other hand they do it because they like it already are zavasimi! But don't talk too much, because one day you may fall into their trap and then what ...!? ... You are already one of them and you start to look at things with different eyes .. Yes, I started with a jerk, which is very unfortunate, I know, but P