Hello! I am 17 and my little brother is 14. This year he started studying sports in Plovdiv. When he comes home, he always has bruises on his body and face, but he denies being beaten. Last time he didn't even want to go home precisely because his nose was broken and his lip and eyebrow were split. Every time we ask him what's going on, where his bruises are from, and he makes up some absurd stories. For the nose, he explained that he was hit with a ball while playing basketball, I do not rule it out as an option, but I doubt that every bruise on his body is from the physical at school. We asked him if he had problems with his classmates, if they beat him, but he denied, and I am convinced that they beat him and I want to help him deal with this problem, but I don't know how!
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It's hard to persuade a teenager to talk about their problems. Maybe he's ashamed and doesn't want to admit what's going on. You are his sister and the closer to his age, the easier it will be to share with you. Predispose him to a more serious but very calm conversation and tell him that you are worried. He offered him to enroll in martial arts, enough to build self-confidence and at least be able to defend himself. In such a situation, it would be best to move to another school, but I guess he himself will not want to. Ask him how he feels at this school, if he likes it, if the adults are causing him any problems and in general, what is happening to him. He is a boy and one day he will become a man, as such he should not feel depressed and crushed, it is important to be confident, balanced and calm so that he can build the habits that are important to him and grow normally. My brother had problems in his old school, he had bruises on his body, he refused to talk, and the teachers showed no interest in the children at all. My brother is not even in high school, so we changed schools and there was a huge change. He became happier, calmer, went to school with the possible pleasure and told about his classmates and how his day went. The teachers themselves pay attention to each one individually and we are calm that someone will react if the students happen to fight or quarrel. Don't leave it at that, the problem must be solved one way or another before it becomes more serious. so we changed schools and there was a huge change. He became happier, calmer, went to school with the possible pleasure and told about his classmates and how his day went. The teachers themselves pay attention to each one individually and we are calm that someone will react if the students happen to fight or quarrel. Don't leave it at that, the problem must be solved one way or another before it becomes more serious. so we changed schools and there was a huge change. He became happier, calmer, went to school with the possible pleasure and told about his classmates and how his day went. The teachers themselves pay attention to each one individually and we are calm that someone will react if the students happen to fight or quarrel. Don't leave it at that, the problem must be solved one way or another before it becomes more serious.
Immediately enroll in any kind of karate! Try "accidentally on your way to pick it up from school for a while. Have your parents talk to teachers and if they have to ask for a parent-teacher meeting. Don't allow your brother to shut himself in because he will either break and shrink the rest of the his son or he will get angry. My son was betrayed like that even though he practiced a very serious martial sport. At home we convince him not to respond to violence with violence, and he has almost extraterrestrial self-control. So, until he was cut with scissors Then I told him myself, "Break it, my boy!" And he broke the one he had cut, and he had to pat a few more beside him. But since then he has been surrounded from afar. Save it to learn to defend yourself ... and we if we have to!
If your father hides from the teacher and watches, you will see what the case is. This is the option.
There are no normal people in sports in Plovdiv, what do you expect? Move it best so that nothing worse happens!
This is very dangerous! Talk to the teachers, to the psychologist. Not only from a psychological point of view, but if his nose was really seriously traumatized and he did not seek medical help, he may have trouble breathing through his nose in the future. Be sure to do something! There are usually more boys in sports schools and this predisposes to aggression towards the weaker ones, ie if your brother is more meek, defenseless.
To move. In sports school it is so
Talk to his mother about it, he may be ashamed to say he is being beaten. Do you know how many times I have been beaten but now they do not dare to touch me
Lied to someone 16 years old to days on him, for a while. Then enroll him in boxing or end mage, learn to defend himself. By beating two or three bullies, he'll be fine.
At this age it is very dangerous. The child probably just wants to deal with his problems and does not dare to bother you. You know him best. Find a way to help him. Success!