Hello, a 17-year-old girl writes to you. A harassed girl. For as long as I can remember, they keep insulting me. When I was in 7th grade, they started saying very insulting words to me, for example: Death, a vampire, the ugliness itself. I was patient then, but things got worse in 9th grade! I have dental disease, so another reason to make fun of me, but I'm treating it. I also have a disease of the abdomen, the doctor, because of it I can hardly gain weight, so I am weak. They call me a skeleton, the toothless skeleton (I made a mistake at the dentist and he took out one tooth, now we treat the others and then we replace the extracted ones). I fell in love with a boy who didn't pay attention to me, and that's why they make fun of me. One boy told me that I would never find anyone because I am a DEVIL! Everyone tells me. that no one will like me and I will be left alone! I try to help everyone in our class, and they retaliate badly, and if I refuse it gets worse. Whoever of my peers sees me, even on the street, will break me mentally. My mother took me to a psychologist because I was very closed, for two hours the psychologist could not take a word out of me. Finally I bowed, told him everything. He wondered what my psyche was to endure and keep quiet about all this for so long. When I am insulted, I just listen and try not to oppose it so that it doesn't get worse, because once a girl would beat me just because I responded to the insult. The same girl threw my things out of the classroom window. I am silent and when I come home I put on a fake smile so as not to bother ours. I wanted to share with you because I feel safe. Can you give me some advice on how to handle it? Thank you in advance! Whoever of my peers sees me, even on the street, will break me mentally. My mother took me to a psychologist because I was very closed, the psychologist couldn't take a word out of me for two hours. Finally I bowed, told him everything. He wondered what my psyche was to endure and keep quiet about all this for so long. When I am insulted, I just listen and try not to oppose it so that it doesn't get worse, because once a girl would beat me just because I responded to the insult. The same girl threw my things out of the classroom window. I am silent and when I come home I put on a fake smile so as not to bother ours. I wanted to share with you because I feel safe. Can you give me some advice on how to handle it? Thank you in advance! Whoever of my peers sees me, even on the street, will break me mentally. My mother took me to a psychologist because I was very closed, for two hours the psychologist could not take a word out of me. Finally I bowed, told him everything. He wondered what my psyche was to endure and keep quiet about all this for so long. When I am insulted, I just listen and try not to oppose it so that it doesn't get worse, because once a girl would beat me just because I responded to the insult. The same girl threw my things out of the classroom window. I am silent and when I come home I put on a fake smile so as not to bother ours. I wanted to share with you because I feel safe. Can you give me some advice on how to handle it? Thank you in advance! My mother took me to a psychologist because I was very closed, the psychologist couldn't take a word out of me for two hours. Finally I bowed, told him everything. He wondered what my psyche was to endure and keep quiet about all this for so long. When I am insulted, I just listen and try not to oppose it so that it doesn't get worse, because once a girl would beat me just because I responded to the insult. The same girl threw my things out of the classroom window. I am silent and when I come home I put on a fake smile so as not to bother ours. I wanted to share with you because I feel safe. Can you give me some advice on how to handle it? Thank you in advance! My mother took me to a psychologist because I was very closed, for two hours the psychologist could not take a word out of me. Finally I bowed, told him everything. He wondered what my psyche was to endure and keep quiet about all this for so long. When I am insulted, I just listen and try not to oppose it so that it doesn't get worse, because once a girl would beat me just because I responded to the insult. The same girl threw my things out of the classroom window. I am silent and when I come home I put on a fake smile so as not to bother ours. I wanted to share with you because I feel safe. Can you give me some advice on how to handle it? Thank you in advance! to endure and keep silent all this for so long. When I am insulted, I just listen and try not to oppose it so that it doesn't get worse, because once a girl would beat me just because I responded to the insult. The same girl threw my things out of the classroom window. I am silent and when I come home I put on a fake smile so as not to bother ours. I wanted to share with you because I feel safe. Can you give me some advice on how to handle it? Thank you in advance! to endure and keep silent all this for so long. I just listen when I am insulted and try not to oppose it so that it doesn't get worse, because once a girl would beat me just because I responded to the insult. The same girl threw my things out of the classroom window. I am silent and when I come home I put on a fake smile so as not to bother ours. I wanted to share with you because I feel safe. Can you give me some advice on how to handle it? Thank you in advance! because I feel safe. Can you give me some advice on how to handle it? Thank you in advance! because I feel safe. Can you give me some advice on how to handle it? Thank you in advance!
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Resist, and when they throw things at you, complain to the teachers and the school principal, to your parents, to the parents of the girl who is nagging. Abe to all. Make a scandal. But the most important thing is to talk to yours and tell them about everything, let them know that if there is a scandal, it has a reason, not just boredom.
Don't be attached to their nonsense. I knew a girl who was always ridiculed simply because she didn't meet whore beauty standards. Time has passed and now she has a husband and children and is quite happy. My thought is this: now some complexes may be basking you, but it will not always be so. Try to understand it and you will change your attitude to everything. And let me just tell you that real men are more excited about a woman's personality, not how beautiful she is. Beauty is for time, and when someone falls in love with you, it will be for life!
Change school.
You sound nice, imagine you as a cute girl, I don't know why. Strong girl, by no means did you accept the role of victim, which is good. Be yourself, don't change your behavior to aggressive to defend yourself or too helpful to please yourself. People appreciate ... especially at your age - what is 'cool', 'modern', and you, being outside these standards, whatever you do - you will not be liked by the crowd. It is not necessary, I was liked, and what - now, I do not communicate, and with a person from elementary school or high school. I have changed, we have no points of contact. There is no drama. As for bullying, there is a principal, a classroom, there are school teachers, they are obliged to take a stand on what is happening on the territory, at the school and outside it, but in school hours. Seek your rights. You are not a psychologist. I think that you have a character, you will only work on your appearance, there is no problem that you are weak or with bad teeth, the important thing is to be healthy, and the appearance is corrected, although it costs money. What is on your stomach and teeth, explain in detail if you want in another topic, I will give you the coordinates of a very good dentist, and for the stomach - I will know if I will be useful if I know what is wrong with you.
In reality, those who treat you like that are freaks, completely insensitive, incapable of apathy - psychopaths. I know it's hard for you, but try to be strong and follow a goal, now the most important thing is to learn. Try and learn not to care, the opinion of the complexes that can obviously have fun just by crushing someone, you should not care. They are weak, otherwise they would have treated you completely differently. Get a school, let them motivate you to get to the environment in which other relationships are, and as for the boys. Rest assured you will find one and I think your relationship will be far more rewarding than those in your school will ever be able to create. But it's important to share with your loved ones, your family created you to take care of you and love you, you look like a smart girl, which tells me your family is doing well. Don't deprive your mother and father of the opportunity to take on a role. I'm sure they would prefer you to tell them everything, a man alone can't handle anything and there's no point in trying, especially when there's no need. I wish you success, I hope these things will make you stronger and help you see the opposite of a good attitude, to become an even more valuable person. M18
I only know two ways to fix things. The first is to change schools. The second is more interesting. You grab a bat and put it in your backpack. When someone fucks you, you smile at him and say - You are incredibly kind, I love such good people, then you get up, take out the bat and bam in the stomach with ALL your strength. You can't do more to him than bruise. Then you smile even wider, get on the bench and declare. I'm glad you fucked me. Well, you're done with that. And you ask for objections if someone tells you something wrong. Well you have a bat. Nobody teases the crazy ones, so they will be afraid to even look at you. If, after all, someone fucks you again, when their fear passes, you still have a bat. PS You may think I'm fucking, but it works very well. Hah personal experience
Don't worry, last only 1 year, there is a little more left. I met the same ugly words and attitudes as you when I was your age just because I had health problems. I was variegated and pimpled, which is why they started calling me "Boil", "Pimple", "Eyeglass" and similar nonsense. They're just looking for something to do and they're starting to get on your nerves and make you angry. Under normal circumstances, I would advise you to go to the director to complain or ignore them, but I know how degenerate today's fucking, fucking generation is and that these methods do not help him, so I will tell you the following: no matter how much you is afraid, oppose them next time, tell them "Hey drugged geeks drunk, why don't you take care of your work so I don't hit you one by one?" tell them this or something, and see how they stumble. Drills with drills. They pretend to be very open because they see that you are shrinking, but when they see that you also open up to them and intimidate them a little, they will really startle and calm down. Don't be afraid, even if they threaten to beat you, be ready to fight too, get angry somehow, train, but don't leave yourself to these geeks !!!! Even if you are beaten, it is better than leaving yourself without a fight to be harassed and crushed !!!
The only advice I can give you is to accept that humans are animals with clothes, and to learn to live with that. Then you can choose a social circle, which at least better pretends to be something more, but the school is a beast at the lowest level. Human nature shines with full light ...
I was always the black sheep, but I was never harassed. earn your respect. People are really predators - they sense when someone is weak and then they attack. You are clearly showing and radiating fear or uncertainty. It helped me that I've always liked myself and I don't care what others think. Try it yourself. It is clear from your post that you also have doubts that you do not look good. This is detrimental to the psyche. You are a young girl, there can be nothing good in you. I would not advise you to respond to insults - you will only turn the abusers even more against yourself. Keep up with your confidence. It helps a lot to master self-criticism. And repeat to yourself - no one can offend you unless you let him. When you show that you are offended, your classmates will be even more encouraged. Never allow strangers to discover your weak spot. And help only if you want, without expecting anything in return. Unfortunately, I don't think you can change anything in your current school - it's too late, so if the situation is really unbearable, move on. No sense in bothering. I'm sure your parents will support you.
You have already taken the first step - share with us! You have the second one ahead of you. I do not agree with the advice to change schools, it will be an escape. In this life, escapes from problems fail. I was also a persona non grata in high school, and now my former classmates are smearing themselves and racing to advertise how I was their "closest friend." Why? Because we graduated from the Art High School, I continued with literature and today I write reviews for exhibitions in the media. And they are artists. Well, how can I not be their "best friend", as the sale of their paintings depends on ten of my lines! Whistle and don't give in to them! Just watch them! I know it's hard, I barely survived then, but I'm telling you - the pancake turns. And if you want fast results, find others like you and launch your behavior as a "fashion brand". Yes, we don't go to parties; yes, we listen to classical music; yes, we dress in vintage clothes; yes, that's right, we are virgins; yes, we do not drink or smoke. In this spirit. In a word: find like-minded people in your midst. Otherwise, life will pay off your current inconveniences with interest, believe me.