Hello! I am a 17 year old girl and I feel betrayed by my friends. I was always there for them, as soon as they called me, I went out immediately, but if they found boyfriends, they stopped looking for me. Although, even with a boyfriend, I always found time for them. I have 1-2 girlfriends who only if I look for them SOMETIMES go out with me, otherwise they are with their boyfriends. But most of all I feel betrayed by another. I knew that when she caught a boyfriend she forgot about everything, but the one year she was single, we became really best friends, we shared everything, we went out often, but recently she found the same story, and I didn't think that once we become so close it will do the same. At first we went out, but he started to interfere in our relationship and to follow us and make her go to the 2nd place where you are and that annoyed me, because I couldn't say 2 words to her, they were just scratching. Other things happened, I found out that she told him what I shared with her, and I also learned from common acquaintances that he did not think well of her (I will not go into detailed in order to remain anonymous). I didn't look for her after she cut me off a few times because she was going out with him. I thought I'd tell her what he said about her, but I chose not to interfere in their relationship, because it seems to me that even if she found out, she would still be the same, she would even tell him, and he would turn her against me even more. (I forgot to share that he also spoke against her and they discussed me). Since then, when she accidentally meets me, she hugs me and enjoys me like a little baby and asks me things in common, but I'm kind of cool and withdrawn ... I think she misses me and wants to see me, but doesn't do anything about it. the question is waiting for me to look for her, but no ... I'm not that kind of person! It's as if the offender is going to apologize. Even now I'm dumb and I don't want to look for other girlfriends, because if they are, I'll be without them again. I don't know how to prevent this thing. Share if you have such experience and advice. :)
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Well, tell me that if she's a real friend, you should only see each other sometimes. And if you are a real friend, tell me what you know. M
You prevent it by not dealing with carrion. You are responsible for your surroundings.
I know what's wrong with me, it's the same thing with the difference that whatever I have, I tell myself everything as it is. I suggest you agree to see each other and tell her everything as it is without saving her. If he has a brain in his head and wants to hold on to you, he will understand you and find time to see you, if you don't know you've tried. :))
Бий им шута на всички! Като станеш студентка, ще си намериш някой стабилен човек, а не мекотело! Гледай си телевизия по цял ден с мама, баба, вземи си куче, коте-каквото искаш и се грижи за него, за да не си самотна, пък ония щом не те търсят, значи не ги интересуваш! Нали знаеш поговорката-храни куче, да те лае! Майка ми навремето си имаше такива приятелки и като ги разбра що за стока са, никога повече не ги пусна у нас! Направи и ти същото, да ти е мирна главата! Спокойствието е безценно! Но влезеш ли веднъж в университета, животът ти ще се промени изцяло!
Apparently your life is too boring and you decide to create problems for yourself. First: "I am always on a date for them, I always go out when they call me", this is NOT "to be there for them" ... To be there for someone means to be by his side in difficult moments, to help him, to you show support. The fact that they called you and you went out to sweep the streets - does not mean anything. Second: The fact that you go out every time they call you - it's like telling them to play with you. When you are busy and they call - refuse. When you are free, BUT you are not in the mood to go out - refuse. Have self-esteem, you can't put them in front of you. This is one of the moments when selfishness is a good thing - think of yourself first, because no one else will! (And that's exactly the case with you.) Third: When they're not with you, and with your boyfriends - don't be angry with them! As surprising as it may sound - the world does NOT revolve around you, people have their own lives, you can't always want attention like small children. Fourth: NEVER share too personal things that you know someone might use against you. The moment you start sharing such things - you beat yourself up! Fifth: It happened that she fell in love with a boy who could not. There are countless such cases, sooner or later she will realize her mistake. You may not believe it, but people are constantly talking behind your back, you just don't know it. And there is no point in paying attention to them, unfortunately they are. As much as you don't like it, they won't change. I know you may not like what I told you, but that is the truth - unpleasant. You'll have to get used to it,