I broke up with my girlfriend, but I couldn't survive her. I could see that things weren't going well, that we weren't for each other, but I didn't want to believe it. I don't want to yet, I live in the past. She doesn't want to have anything to do with me, she told me many times that I hurt myself in this way, that we will not be together to move forward, but I can't. And here comes the fact that I don't want to live, I really don't want to live. In order to live, there must be a reason to live, and I lack it. The other is an existence, a vain existence. I don't like anything, family, friends, anyone. They say that suicides are selfish because they don't think about the feelings of their relatives, and aren't they selfish that they want to keep us in vain? I went to fortune tellers, to look at my cards, to a psychologist, I took antidepressants but nothing but nothing helped. They say time heals, but I'm not a young man, maybe if I were younger I would try to move on but now I can't. Have you ever been like that ...
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Oh my God! I am in the same situation. I dated a girl for almost 2 years and I dare say that she was and is the love of my life. For more than 2 years. I can't forget her. I tried with others ... no result and no meaning. Not to mention that all the time ... I think about her every day. She rejects me too, and I have never stopped loving her and I will never stop. We are a lost cause. We have to suffer all our lives: D But I still believe that love with love is forgotten. Maybe our moment will come with you, author, but I don't know when it will be. After all, not everyone can be happy, there must be unhappy and fucked up people to be happy. And obviously we have this "honor". I say it with a hand and a pain in my heart.
Many people have been in your situation, author! A lot! You need to find time to give yourself a chance. Life is priceless. It will take time, years, many years for sure, and looking back at that moment you will realize that you have lost precious time to feel sorry for yourself and to torment your heart. Life will meet you with new people without looking for them, it will just happen. You will meet people who will give you meaning, you will find hobbies and interesting things to do, you will fix things, you will gather your head and everything will pass.
It is a great responsibility for the other person when you accept him as the meaning of your life. I'm sorry, but I would break up with such a person, I can't be responsible (and I don't want to) for his whole life, it's to carry someone else's cross on your back, and not to live fully. The meaning of your life must be in you, your dreams, goals, hopes, not in another person. I think you have mental problems ... but you are not a psychologist, they are just for conversations, it would be more useful for you to share with a stranger in a bar than with a psychologist you will pay just to pretend that he listens to you. I think you're a psychiatrist, at least a psychotherapist. And have you always had suicidal thoughts? How old are you?
Everyone has such periods. For some it is a day or two, for others - for years. And the occasions can be quite diverse. You say you have no reason to live ... but find yourself then. There are other women besides your girlfriend. And you don't have to live for someone in particular. Help someone, build something, go somewhere. Get a job, a career. If she doesn't want you, don't force herself on her - that way she will be one hundred percent more fed up with you.
I hadn't been in here in a long time. I open the page and immediately come across your confession. The answer to your question is: YES. I was like that. Patience is easy, as banal as it sounds, it takes time for depression to subside. Sorcerers, alcohol, women, cigarettes, bad treatment of everyone. My condition was brutal, but here I am, still alive, although I can still see the fear of depression in my eyes, I try to move forward. I cried day and night, I must have filled a bucket with tears, but here I am standing in front of you and I already know what I want and I can now feel happiness, do you know what it is like to feel the feeling of happiness? Before, I didn't feel anything, I didn't cry, I cheated again and again. At the age of 34, I began to feel and it will be true that what does not kill you makes you stronger.
Man, I'm going through the same depression and hole right now, I don't see the point in anything. But, understand me very correctly, suicide is an ABSURD idea, the most absurd! This life is given to us to fight it and live it. Time heals, this is a fact, I have experienced some ugliness, but I tell you again, understand something, if she doesn't really love you, let's say she's with you, what's the point? Beauty of strength does not happen! Mine says she loves me, I'm her man, and now she's with someone else because I hurt her a lot, and she can't forgive me, if you ask me what's wrong with me, for a year now.
I'm not intrusive, life is what makes us go on believe it must be lived ... that, the other is inevitable ... you can see the other truth ... my story is in the family section and the topic is "While death has divided us .... "g49
Who hasn't been through such a situation !? Do you pretend to be Romeo, what kind of love do you see when it is not shared? Beauty does not happen by force, be glad that your girlfriend was conscious and told you in plain text that she does not hide her feelings for you. If you were a cunning fox, he would use you hypocritically, he would cheat on them often, is that what you want? Is your ex-girlfriend the only woman you know? Selfishness is not that you will let someone suffer if you commit suicide, but that you want someone to suffer because of your ego. Do you think how the woman in question will feel if she is with you even though she has no feelings about it? Would you live with someone by force? What kind of love will this be?
Hello. Being in your position is not pleasant at all. This does sound like a cliché over time, but it's true that it dulls the pain and the person stands up. Head up and everything will be fine.
And I am like that at the moment and I understand you! Know that it can be much worse! Be an optimist! Do not give up! You don't even know where your luck and happiness will come from ...
Man, clichés are not accidentally clichés. Stay calm; time really heals, as long as enough time really passes. The greater the pain, the longer it takes. Unfortunately, if a person has been truly devoted, there are still scars and changes in character. Two years is the maximum for experiencing separation. Of course, at this time you should not contact the previous partner - delete it from your life, even if you do not want to. If you do this and after two years you have not risen to your feet, then you are being examined by a psychiatrist and you will need medication. Even now; if you can't sleep, your stomach hurts, etc. give strong chamomile teas, mint, hawthorn valerian and the like. They help. The other things that help are exercise and work. Success!
Yes, I was in a similar situation and I didn't find any sense in living. The feeling is indescribably painful ... But you know, I learned at least one thing - that life is not frozen in one place and things change. Sometimes slowly, sometimes for a moment. This hole I was in was 3 years ago. Now I can say for sure that I'm not dying :) Don't worry, have faith and look for small pleasures to make your day bearable. Don't think about tomorrow! Things will sort themselves out! / woman 31 /
It happened to me, it lasted for years. You have to want to get out of this emotional hole on your own. Go to the oncology hospital, talk to the sick, hear their stories. Then maybe you will appreciate life. It doesn't matter how old you are, find something to be useful to the people around you, look for the meaning for yourself, let it not be a woman, neither your ex, nor another. If you still do not recover, seek another psychologist and psychiatrist