What masculine qualities, character, vision, skills and / or financial status would make you feel weak and in "safe hands"? If you can, leave a month of birth.
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Do the stars speak to you? :) Things just happen. There are no spells and recipes. Rarely, but they do happen.
I feel most secure with tall, healthy, confident and sociable men. If he has a nice face and dresses decently, even better. Of course, if he is financially stable and draws me when we go out, but gallantly, not intrusively, that makes him even more desirable. I answer quite honestly, I really feel best among such men, like most women, I guess. Unfortunately, I can't offer anything more than awkward demeanor, unassuming appearance and mediocre sex, so I can't hold their attention. So I stand alone.
At the beginning of the acquaintance in safe hands makes me feel when the man initiates everything around us. When he takes me somewhere without asking much if I want to, will I like it. When he even chooses a movie with a general knowledge of what I like. When he took me to dinner at a bar without consulting me. To me, this means that he feels confident in what he knows about my mercy; that he feels confident in the choices he makes and shows that I will not have to constantly give him guidance on what I will like. The way he accepts the situation in case I do not sympathize with his decision is also important. Sometimes such a reaction on my part leads to complete indecision in the man and refusal to make independent decisions, which is a problem. In safe hands makes me feel the lack of communication when our first kiss and whether I feel ready, the lack of consideration at the current stage of the relationship and some. I prefer to let go of emotions and feelings. I do not feel comfortable when every two days we discuss whether the previous meeting went well, what I think about the man, etc. If I like him, I certainly show it and eloquently, so if despite all the signals he feels insecure and asks - we have a problem. Subsequently, in safe hands makes me feel when we face a problem and there is no need for me to help solve it. This gives me the right to feel calm and weak. Let's say we live separately, but he came home, see that the door creaks and crushes the hinges simply because he sees a problem and can solve it - so I'm in safe hands. Just because someone has money, a stable job, or a solid education doesn't make me feel safe. If the person panics easily, if he cannot make independent decisions and always seeks support for the choice he makes - I cannot accept him as my partner. Of course, if he is self-confident and has money, a stable job or a solid education - even better.
Accuracy and reasonable behavior. Having an appointment to be there just in time. Reasonable behavior and a quiet pleasant voice.
Hmmm ... well, as a character, I want the person next to me to be good, kind, funny, intelligent. He would really win me over if he loved animals and children, of course. I hate men and people in general who hurt animals. For the exterior, well, definitely the so-called "dads" are not in my style. I don't want him to be muscular, super super inflated, but with a normal physique, thin. The tiles are small. I melt when the smile eeee ... kind of sweet, I don't know what the right word is. Also blue eyes. But by no means do I look at the exterior first. The small gestures he makes would definitely impress me. Materially, I have no claims whether to have a car or not, all in good time. I prefer to have my own home, because if he still lives with his parents he would push me away. That speaks to him that he is not alone, mother's son. But I accept a situation in which he had to. In general, this is short.
I personally like thick beards. They may be clean-shaven, puffy, or slightly long, but thick. A man with a sparse beard does not attract me. Please do not affect these men. It's just that I'm personally attracted to it. Everyone has their own tastes.
His approach to me - to appreciate and hold me, even before his eyes spinning muffins. In short, to be a stable man - financially, physically and spiritually. May, and what does it matter?
3 things - confidence, ability to take responsibility and some moderate ambition. I can't stand people whose whole world is to blame for their personal misfortunes. I have a hard time withstanding such men.
I sometimes like the boy to be more dominant - for example, to decide where and when to meet, to kiss me surprisingly, without asking and ashamed. The most important thing for me is to fight for our relationship and not give up easily. I adore guys who have some passion for something, some hobby, whatever it is. If he is shrewd and intelligent, even better. Purely physically, I personally like nice male hands (with veins on them) and nice voices. I go crazy for insistent, mysterious, but also decent types.
I would like to know more about what makes you feel safe with a man. I asked this question because even though I'm quite a capable person and I live on my own, I obviously don't have an approach and more precisely I don't know how to "sell" myself to the girl I like. So far, I've seen a few things I have and don't have. I have an excellent education, skills (almost any related to housekeeping, as well as basic professional) nice and stable job. I do not have the physics on which to build my vision (I do not mean by going to the gym, but elementary tightening) and also a skill through which to sell and last but not least, a personal car that would make it easier for US. This for the month is just for the statistics, but it is unnecessary information, because there is no way to know that it is real. Thank you, dear ladies. Don't stop with the opinions. I want to learn. :
I can say what I like about my husband. When I'm not in the mood, he doesn't pour oil on the fire and even if he doesn't agree, he keeps quiet. When I ask for something, I have it. (It's not about money) It's not "mommy's son". First of all, my opinion is important to him. We have been together for 12 years and he still tells me that I am the most beautiful. (This is a little strange to me :)) He is modest, generous and very much appreciates his friends. He never loses his job. There are certainly many other qualities, but now this has come to me. November
Author, let me give you some advice as a man. First, for women of our generation, social status is paramount. This is, figuratively speaking, the "one" in a numerous series of zeros, which makes them a meaningful number (1000 ..). Your education, manners and physique add another zero and raise your "price", roughly speaking, but that's it. Just look at the comments and you will see how right I am. It is very important, in my opinion, to develop, first, inner resilience to this fact and to realize that with a woman who has such a consumptive attitude to life, you will not be happy, even if they pay attention to you at some point. . They don't want anything else, just more and they never have enough. The forum is full of such stories. Something is still missing, and you take a break from work to provide something. So he's looking for a girl, with which you have a broad shared value base. If you are a homemaker, it is good that she is, for example. If a woman is not ready to stand next to you on an equal footing to pull you both in the same direction, DON'T WORK. We don't owe women an iota. That's how I give it. He wants a restaurant. Well no problem. The bill is divided in half. Traveling out of town? Great, she pays for her ticket. Rest? 50 to 50. We are not a family, we do not have a common bank account and household, I do not owe her anything. I do not want other people's bills and I will never pay again. I learned to set boundaries from the first moment I made new contact. Well, I draw the consequences accordingly, but they are incomparably lighter than the others. There is no such feeling of inner emptiness and robbed human dignity. And this is two hundred times more valuable to me than anything else
10, you're right you don't have an approach. I would add that you have no understanding. To impress a woman, you don't have to have a car, an apartment, a job, education, income, physique, height, hair and anything like that. Some women think they are watching this, but in fact attraction and falling in love happen on a subconscious level and in reality most women do not realize what exactly attracts them emotionally and physically, no matter how skillfully they delude themselves that something in particular attracts them. Yes, there are mercantile women, but they are only part of the women and we are not talking about real attraction, but about need, so I will not comment on that now. For a long time, like you, I thought I had to have something in order for a woman to like me. Ever since I realized that I didn't really need any of this, things have changed. I just noticed that there are men with nothing to whom they are tied, and there are men with everything to whom they are still not tied. And if it were not so, there would not be so many infidelities. One woman thinks she wants something and finds such a man, but then it turns out that she is in love with another and doesn't even realize why. Even here there are many such topics. This confirms the fact that women themselves usually do not know what attracts them. It's real and so are men. Example - a colleague who has none of these things and literally goes to bed almost every night with a different one (who usually hardly knows), and some of them are beaters from everywhere, and he is not even handsome. He has crooked teeth, is 170 tall, is slightly thick and is definitely not the smartest in the world. He is not rich, he has no car, from time to time he drives his father's old and battered Ford. Separately, he also had serious relationships for many years, so he is not a typical whore. And I didn't know how the trick worked for a long time, after far more stable, handsome, smart and all sorts of men have been standing in check for years. In short - there is no point in investing in such things to have a wife. It will only be a waste of years and in the end, as an old bachelor, you will realize that this does not really work. And that will be very disappointing. You just have to know how to communicate with them. That is all. All you need is proper communication. Number 3 has given you good guidance. You don't have to be servile to them, they have to feel your power, to know at what moment and how to touch them, to make them laugh, that sort of thing. By the way, touches do a wonderful job. Tip - just do not sign up for those pickup nonsense that they themselves drive on checks, but pretend to be tweaked. It's pure business, not to mention fraud. smart and all sorts of men have been standing in check for years. In short - there is no point in investing in such things to have a wife. It will only be a waste of years and in the end, as an old bachelor, you will realize that this does not really work. And that will be very disappointing. You just have to know how to communicate with them. That is all. All you need is proper communication. Number 3 has given you good guidance. You don't have to be servile to them, they have to feel your power, to know at what moment and how to touch them, to make them laugh, such things. By the way, touches do a wonderful job. Tip - just do not sign up for those pickup nonsense that they themselves drive on checks, but pretend to be tweaked. It's pure business, not to mention fraud. smart and all sorts of men have been standing in check for years. In short - there is no point in investing in such things to have a wife. It will only be a waste of years and in the end, as an old bachelor, you will realize that this does not really work. And that will be very disappointing. You just have to know how to communicate with them. That is all. All you need is proper communication. Number 3 has given you good guidance. You don't have to be servile to them, they have to feel your power, to know at what moment and how to touch them, to make them laugh, that sort of thing. By the way, touches do a wonderful job. Tip - just do not sign up for those pickup nonsense that they themselves drive on checks, but pretend to be tweaked. It's pure business, not to mention fraud. to have a wife. It will only be a waste of years and in the end, as an old bachelor, you will realize that this does not really work. And that will be very disappointing. You just have to know how to communicate with them. That is all. All you need is proper communication. Number 3 has given you good guidance. You don't have to be servile to them, they have to feel your power, to know at what moment and how to touch them, to make them laugh, such things. By the way, touches do a wonderful job. Tip - just do not sign up for those pickup nonsense that they themselves drive on checks, but pretend to be tweaked. It's pure business, not to mention fraud. to have a wife. It will only be a waste of years and in the end, as an old bachelor, you will realize that this does not really work. And that will be very disappointing. You just have to know how to communicate with them. That is all. All you need is proper communication. Number 3 has given you good guidance. You don't have to be servile to them, they have to feel your power, to know at what moment and how to touch them, to make them laugh, that sort of thing. By the way, touches do a wonderful job. Tip - just do not sign up for those pickup nonsense that they themselves drive on checks, but pretend to be tweaked. It's pure business, not to mention fraud. That is all. All you need is proper communication. Number 3 has given you good guidance. You don't have to be servile to them, they have to feel your power, to know at what moment and how to touch them, to make them laugh, such things. By the way, touches do a wonderful job. Tip - just do not sign up for those pickup nonsense that they themselves drive on checks, but pretend to be tweaked. It's pure business, not to mention fraud. That is all. All you need is proper communication. Number 3 has given you good guidance. You don't have to be servile to them, they have to feel your power, to know at what moment and how to touch them, to make them laugh, such things. By the way, touches do a wonderful job. Tip - just do not sign up for those pickup nonsense that they themselves drive on checks, but pretend to be tweaked. It's pure business, not to mention fraud. but they are made of tweaks. It's pure business, not to mention fraud. but they are made of tweaks. It's pure business, not to mention fraud.
I have no stereotype. I love to feel loved, which has nothing to do with gifts and masquerades for love. I feel safe in the hands of a man if he can talk about problems and not run away from them. I am happy when I feel bad to have someone say 2-3 motivating words to me. I like to go home sometimes and the bed is already fixed, I don't make scandals if it isn't, but I definitely like to see a little help in everyday life. I want the man to be a man, to know that if I am weak at the moment, he will stay put, he will not give up, he will not betray me and he will not sit down to play on the computer so that he does not pay attention to my condition. I'm taught not to expect help and I don't, but nothing makes a better impression on me than a man who really wants us to be a team and deal with the filth together. I like to know that if I ask him for something and he promises me, will fulfill it. I like not to be late, not to grumble, not to procrastinate and not to ignore. I have no problem with weaknesses in character, I accept that every person has moments in which he cries, the question is that these moments do not continue throughout his conscious life. I don't care if he has a car and his own home, if he is insured ... I just want him to be with me, the rest are things that one can easily get.
11, "even if he doesn't agree, he keeps quiet. When I ask for something, I have it. (It's not about money) He is not a" mother's son ". First of all, my opinion is important to him. pet? The complete opposite of number 3. Everyone with their own taste.
He must be a man, with a strong psyche and physique !!
That's right. Women only need proper communication. They can get this either from a stable and experienced, successful man, or from a skilled deceiver, a liar! Guess which ones are more. There is something else. In order to attract them, you need proper communication, and in order to keep them, in addition to communication, you also need to be in bed.
When you meet a person you are either attracted or not. Attraction is very individual, for each person. Character is very important. Be confident and accurate. To be able to make you feel sexy, beautiful, wanted, to feel like a woman, to feel wanted, whether with words or actions, is very important. To be good but confident. To be romantic and gallant. With a beard, sexy, masculine, strong and able to do. с !!
It is very important to me that the man is 'unpopular' in order to be innocent, I like men who radiate innocence, such as boys, youthful, anxious, smiling, with a spark in their eyes ... Men who were not in love and were not in a relationship / ties have not been crushed repeatedly by women. There are some and not all of them are small children, there are 30 such men, a few, but there are, I am young, although 28 years old, so with such a man we will feel good together, light and unencumbered . I've tried burdened, crushed by various 'loves' men, it doesn't work, they're just ... deformed, crushed, killed, drunk, neglected ... it's a pity, I would be a friend, a therapist, but I wouldn't marry for such, their psyche is already set - hurt so as not to hurt you. So - innocence, to have kept the child with him.
What most opinions on the topic miss is that there is a great deal of luck in meeting the right person. I would say that I meet many of the qualities listed here as necessary, but this does not gain me any attention, let alone any relationship. In the end, I stand alone and often just think about the rejections, some of which are quite rude, which I received. It's just that at the very beginning of the acquaintance, one relies a lot on the man's charisma, and not on whether he meets specific requirements. Only if the woman has some initial liking, then it passes to the interrogation phase, where you are subjected to direct questions about what you have, who you are, etc. Such recommendations and recipes for what women are looking for are impractical and cannot be used. In reality, it turns out that some simpletons are charismatic, who don't care about anything or cheeky thugs, mommy / daddy's sons, fed a lot of money. The behavior of such does not presuppose the woman to invest in their relationship, but only to consume. And we must say that many young women do not want and cannot give of themselves, but want to consume.
I feel safe with someone I know will not betray me. Who will fight for me to the last. Which will be my support. And in my moments of weakness, he will be by my side.
The normal. Handsome, tall, strong, wealthy, confident, smart, generally masculine. Of course, these are quite high and generally unrealistic expectations for a woman to demand such a man as a criterion, and she has to offer a lot of things. But up and down it is normal that the more of the traits you have above, the more desirable you are to women.
I don't feel tied to a man's social status. Being a "minister" does not automatically make me a "minister." Professional success, material independence and social status are individual tasks, the achievement of which is the merit of the individual. I would be proud of the man next to me if he succeeds, but I would not appropriate them as my own. I am a woman firm enough on the ground to perceive myself only through the prism of my abilities. This is why men attract me with qualities that other women do not notice. Namely, these qualities are the treasure, which has been hidden for a long time and which, brought to light, begins to shine. Honesty, integrity, innate nobility, diligence, curiosity, tolerance, mercy and very importantly - a sharp mind, that is, which won me over to my husband, who had not a penny and worked without any prospects in a cramped country factory. And yes - I admit - and with the irresistible male sexual presence. But it is not expressed, at least for me, in arrogant masculinity and a mountain of muscles, but in an irresistible persistence in the look, in the adoration in the touch, in the complete surrender of the moment and merging with the feelings of the other. I have been crazy about this man for eight years, I can't get enough of his love, his friendship, his body and soul! I am a university lecturer, he is an electrician. Both are Aquarius. in arrogant masculinity and a mountain of muscles, and in an irresistible persistence in the gaze, in the adoration in the touch, in the complete surrender of the moment and the merging with the sensations of the other. I have been crazy about this man for eight years, I can't get enough of his love, his friendship, his body and soul! I am a university lecturer, he is an electrician. Both are Aquarius. in arrogant masculinity and a mountain of muscles, and in an irresistible persistence in the gaze, in the adoration in the touch, in the complete surrender of the moment and the merging with the sensations of the other. I have been crazy about this man for eight years, I can't get enough of his love, his friendship, his body and soul! I am a university lecturer, he is an electrician. Both are Aquarius.
I am attracted to literate and intelligent men. This is my biggest weakness in a man. Even if it's not the first beauty, I melt if I talk to an intelligent man. I don't know what this is due to.
The look, the look, ... and the look
Hmm .. nice topic I have a lot of requirements that are not very easy to cover, but I am an understanding and patient person. The man next to me must be as smart as me, good, nice. I've always liked good, shy guys who are always ashamed to take the initiative in the beginning ... Then when they relax things change: D honesty and good tone are also very important to me ... In bed it is important not to be selfish and to try ... As long as there is passion and desire, the other can change. Regarding the size between 13-17, it is ideal for me. Abe to have love, the rest will be fine: D
A good voice, not to speak softly / I can't take it seriously /, to be confident, to be nice, to be accurate - whatever he says to happen, to surprise me, to be decisive. Not necessarily with a sense of humor, to love to travel, to know something really well, and to make money with it, in the sense that it is not important to be from a rich family. Don't have a big ass. To be able to talk. To feel that he is crazy about me, not to repeat it to me. I'm a June twin.
It's a matter of chemistry, when he attracts me with something, every time it's something different, I already like this person anyway - the look, the voice, the way he moves, speaks ... but the initial ignition of the spark is always inexplicable to me, why exactly he and with what. Being smart has always been an advantage, but it's not always enough. For beauty - it's quite relative, because when someone grabs you, you start looking with different eyes ... and even if it's objectively nothing special, I like it.
Noah closer to the truth, in my opinion, are №3 and №13. From myself I can tell the author the following - the very statement of the question sounds infantile and you will hardly be interested in any of the commenting ladies as a man. You should not adapt to their requirements and preferences, but impose your own on them. You should not adapt to them, because by doing so you become secondary to them. If you're going to be strong and athletic, it's first because you like it, not because of Kate, my colleague. If you're going to get rich, it's because of yourself. You should not be a woman's favorite and adjuster according to their views, because a woman very rarely realizes what exactly she needs, her desires and preferences are volatile, so they can not be your guide. You have to have your own autonomous criteria and follow them. That is why I approve of the above opinions: №3 likes it when in the choice of a restaurant or movie the man does not consult her, but leads her after him, with confidence and competence, so he inspires confidence in her. And №13 convinces you that the most important thing is to relax and predispose her through skillful communication.
Let me agree with the opinion of 13 - in short, "Women love with their ears." Money, cars, property are in the background when a sweet-spoken listener stands in front of the woman. Wondering about a listener ??? It's simple, all women always have something to say, all women just want to be heard, they don't need advice, they need understanding. It is more than clear that you cannot understand a woman, especially when she does not understand herself, but the important thing is to learn to pretend that you understand. I have no idea what women mean when they say that the man next to them should be intelligent and with a sense of humor - to appreciate these qualities in a man you must have them yourself. Obviously, intelligent does not mean being a great genius, well-read, successful, curious - intelligent does not mean being good at polishing someone else's ego, to make compliments, not to notice small flaws such as illiteracy, lack of taste, social status. No one likes to be blamed, even indirectly, for mistakes he has made in his life, but women are especially sensitive to this topic, ie the topics of former loves, marriages, failures are taboo, if they have children, this is the most their greatest weakness, there is not a word to be said about any omissions in education, failures at school, etc. I seem to have slipped, but I also know such as the individual described by number 13, they seem to have nothing to offer, but their girls cling like flies to ... honey - be copper above all, and when you meet the right person you will have enough time to reveal your other qualities to him! One last clarification - I have never suffered from a lack of female attention,
What kind of men like women? My self exactly what I do not like confirmed with facts. I have never had a girlfriend, I am almost 35. My income is low and I live with my parents. Insecure and emotionally shy. I am self-critical. In female company, I shrink instead of standing out like a man. I'm pretty skinny and that immediately rejects 50 percent of women's eyes. The punishment is the same on social networks. I have no invitations for friendship from women. Also, no matter how much I write to them, they do not write anything to me. As difficult as it is for me, I have decided to think only of myself. I don't care much anymore. It's too late for me to learn about relationships.