This Family Repulses Me

   Absolutely YES. And that's not the problem. Any foreign woman can do that to you. There are also mothers who do this to their daughters. The problem is TOI. What support, what support, what a father of children this man will be. You will grow old and regret that you did not make the change while you had time. Find a real man - fucking pain!

   there are millions you will still find some normal get away from the one you are with at the moment it's a waste of time, nerves, don't forget this poppy will bother you. Think smart about what will happen in years to come, and if you have a child and this bad attitude towards you does not end what you do as a single mother. Basically I say that everything will be fine, but in your case you have to leave, I hope you find your true love Good luck!

   I understand you well ! Try to get into your husband's position, just for a second, he's really between a rock and a hard place, I'm not saying it's right not to take action, but most likely (especially if she's soft Maria) she doesn't want to be rude to them. Words like - smash and what not sound funny to me, but you shouldn't give up, it's very good that you help, but not to do someone else's work. or you just don't go I know that in Bulgaria barbarism around a pig is a ritual but a person doesn't do things that are not pleasant for him. Think and talk. Only you know where your place is. Greetings.

   If you are wondering if your place is there, then you are not there. And your husband doesn't care ... he's obviously not very worried about what's going on with you and how you're feeling. But if you don't live in the same house with his mother, there should be no problems with her - you can just ignore her and live as you understand and decide. And if you live with his mother part of the time and that weighs on you, ask your husband to live separately from his mother. I see no other way. The other is to leave them, but this is a last resort. Whatever you decide, good luck.

   Направо си кажи, страх ме е от работа. Кой ще ти повярва, че другите жени ще стоят, а ти ще работиш. Каква е женската работа при "колене на прасе", просто едно готвене /както всеки ден, само че в малко по голямо количество/. Вероятността да те накарат да говтиш сама за 50 човека е минимална. Пък и какво има толкова, все пак трябва да се научиш как се прави. Така се предават традиции в обществото, от свекърва на снаха се предават рецепти. Ако го няма това предаване българските рецепти ще изчезнат. Имаш да нарежеш две кисели зелки, да ги сготвиш със свинско и да изпържиш малко дроб. Това ли ти е проблема? Може пък да искат да видят някоя твоя рецепта, нещо с което да ги изненадаш. Абе общо работа за около 1 час, през другото време ще дремеш. Ако отказваш викни мен, аз ще сготвя. Семейството ми се състой от 8 човека и всеки ден готвя по почти толкова. Не познавам снаха, която истински да харесва свекърва си. Но ти пък твоята, колко да е лоша. Жената прасе ви гледа, щом на село живее сигурно и зеленчуци ви дава, какво да ти купи от там за подарък? Подаръкът ти е биопродукти от село, малко ли е? Или искаш да хване автобуса да иде в мола да ти купи блузка? Сина й изкарва пари, щом си съпруга дава ти, купи си! Оплакваш се, че й парвиш подаръци и ти иска пари, а парите които имаш в теб, кой ги изработи? Сина й нали! Като иска услуга предполагам е да и вземеш нещо от града да не пътува тя, така и така ще ходите. Като толкова не искаш да отидеш, направи цирк на мъжа си уж си болна, зле ти е и не можеш да дойдеш, а много ти се иска. Спокойно, те и без теб ще се справят.

   What about? him! Just as you write it here! "I have no intention of doing all the housework alone while you and your daughters look after each other. I'm not a maid!" Is it that hard?

   If you love the man next to you, don't leave, but stand up for your rights and desires, talk about this topic with your partner, how you feel and what you do is everyone's duty, not just yours! As you explain, things really use you! In case the person next to you is a mother's child, do not take care and do not stand by your side as a truly loving man would do, leave him! You are young and life is in front of you! Do not let yourself be crush!

   Just get out of there! Firstly, your husband is moldy, I don't know what he won you over so much, secondly, his mother is a simple peasant, and you are obviously a decent woman and you are not used to facing such impudent simplicity, dump them and find a MAN !! !! M21

   Don't expect anything good from such a pu * o marinkin. It will get worse, but a bigger man will not. You are still young, look for a decent man on the spot, that if you wait another 3-4 years and this will become a difficult task.

   In general, I avoid giving advice, especially to strangers, but in this case I can not keep quiet! Get out of there, if the man next to you loves you, he will follow you. This woman simply did not come across the "daughter-in-law" who will fix her. If my friend's mother told me she was going to crush me, I would never forgive her! And by no means go to serve them! Find a family that respects you, you don't owe anyone anything! Success! F 27

   I'll tell you straight - run, change your phone, block them everywhere, don't tell their close acquaintances where you are, find a normal man, a family that doesn't harass and use you, not a mother's son and an evil mother-in-law. You will have children, but with a normal man whose genes you will like, otherwise you will be harassed with him for the rest of your life. Good luck and hope you run away from them and don't have to put up with them for long.

   RUN FROM THERE

   Would it crush you? !? And the man ... is silent next to you? !! Including that? !! In everything you say you do, he treats you like a submissive pet. And maybe, because of that, that's how she behaves. But he, what a ... sweet mother, does not dare to take a stand. Sorry for my rude question, but in bed, does his mom "set" him where he needs to go? !! And why do you allow such an attitude, from him ..., from her ..., from you to you? !! Please open the dictionary and look for the word - self-esteem! Read the interpretation of the word carefully and you will have the answer to your question. Well ... of course, if you think you deserve it. I think so!

   For me, the best solution is to leave. Apparently your husband is not a man on the spot, if he were he would protect you, after all you are the woman of his life. And your mother-in-law is full of blood. How she will humiliate you and treat you like a maid. Humiliate her in public, make her for 2 stotinki, make fun of her, and fuck her sleeping husband too. If you help and are kind, you will always find someone who will take care of you and love you more than the "mother's son".

   8, you are obviously a woman crushed by life, who, apart from walking, walking and walking again, cooks, cleans and walks, walks, walks knows nothing else. About the work around the pig is a lot - hours! It is not just to cook, cooking is one by hand. Cook a small part of what needs to be washed, cut, put away, and it is kilograms - tens of kilograms. What is this girl obliged to do this work for them for hours, probably from morning to evening, when everyone can tighten up and in 2-3 hours finish, sit, eat, talk and laugh. Not to mention the stench of blood that made me sick. And why all this? Because she must be saying to herself - I feed her, she will work for me. Feed her another time, how much does this girl eat? Basically, the son eats from what he sends them. To the author - run away from "these", if they are now, consider it in the future. She would crush you, she would crush your children, what can you do.

   Run, my mother is in this situation. For so many years of marriage and two children, things have not changed. In time, it will start to affect him as well, if you separate you will start arguing over her. You don't know how many years my mother and I endured malice and attacks until my father saw the truth. Now they see it once every 3 months for 4-5 hours and it is better. And yet his mother said some time ago that if it weren't for us, no matter how much they loved each other, she would leave him only for his mother.

   Think of a reason not to go, don't live together, and if you don't understand each other, it's better not to see each other. I went this way and I understand you very well. I was 7 or 8 months pregnant, I don't remember when my mother-in-law took me to dig corn. At first, my husband was silent, not taking sides. Get well, was his answer. How I survived, I do not know. They are also a large family and it is natural for them to be united. Everyone against me. I didn't care about my relatives, I was in pain when my husband and I got into an infection. I did not give up on him. And I'm not sorry.

   I think stay away from these barbarians. Explain to him what you wrote here. Make him choose - either you or your mother.

   Author: Thanks for the comments! You give me great courage and support. EXPLANATION TO NUMBER 8, which attacks me. Dear Madam, I am not afraid of work! I am afraid of ordinary people who abuse the normal ones! If you are a person with me, I will cut and cook all day! The question is in the attitude. The pig was not taken for US, but for her personally and the man next to her. NO, the man next to me can't stand me! I don't want a penny from him. I never engaged her in anything. It doesn't help me with absolutely anything. The man next to me is my friend, I'm not a wife (I don't even know how you decided all this), I can't stand it and I buy the necessary clothes myself. in my subject I emphasized that I was repulsed by his mother's impudent behavior. she allowed herself to insult my loved ones, me. From simplicity and malice! Do you understand now, ma'am? Thanks again to everyone for the comments!

   And I'm for YES! Leave it to this mother's child while you are young and find a husband! I can't even believe that there are more ...

   for such "men" there is a story - "less Pijo, more Pendo"

   Wow! And you are not even married yet! At least that's what I understood from what was written. And imagine what will happen when you officially become part of the family. Well, then your pitiful mother as they say! They will make you crazy! But let's say this is the family, but your husband? This is the most disturbing thing in the case that he does nothing to protect you and agrees that his wife is something like a maid and that everyone commands her. So think carefully if you want to live like this. Personally, I would not allow such an attitude, but you know. This is your life, just make sure one day you don't regret your decision.

   You have a 7 year relationship, a CONNECTION, not a marriage. And for seven years this man could not remember until now he offered you to marry, and you are wasting your time. And you invest energy, energy and money. But otherwise you do his mother favors, you give money and what not ... She even allows herself to humiliate you in front of people, because you are soft-spoken, good-natured and knows that you will not create problems for her. But this is very wrong, because that's how you start to secretly hide your hatred for her, and she doesn't realize it. She thinks that if you don't react right away and you please her, she can treat you and command you as she pleases. And how are you going to cook there? She's a housewife there. Why doesn't she take on the job as a housewife and her daughters help her too. And he can invite you as a guest ... - you're not married to your son and ... still. Only if you want can you help with something. How will he mainly burden you with this - in the role of what? You are annoyed by her attitude and the fact that she treats you so rudely as if you have to do what she says - that's the problem. Otherwise, don't be angry about gifts for not giving them to you, he may consider this unnecessary and unnecessary. For example, I'm not much into gifts either, and my son's girlfriend can also complain that I don't give her big gifts, only small symbolic ones, sometimes. Well, for me, as I said, this is unnecessary and unnecessary. I don't need gifts and any items and I wouldn't want to feel obligated to reciprocate, it's stressful. For me, sympathy, respect, understanding, kindness, help, support are the greatest gifts that a mother can offer to her future daughter-in-law ... But for you the question is whether this is there.

   Hmmm, when a person reads the story to you and immediately says at the first signal, RUN FROM THERE, or the man is a MOLD. But if we look at your details and praise similar stories of hundreds of other women and mothers-in-law, we can ask ourselves, "Aren't you overexposing yourself a little more? Don't you think you take things very inwardly and seem to be intentional and direct?" against you. This is not impossible, but it is unlikely. It is unlikely that your mother-in-law and her daughters set themselves the goal of harassing you and dedicating their lives to it ?! I tend to agree with some of the things said by number 8. They will hardly call you to come from the city to cook for the whole family, and all the other villagers will drink coffee and lie in the shade during this time. how can they or see how it is right. If you still have to cook everything 100%, nothing prevents you from burning it or salting it so that they forget to call you for work. Abe wondered if they were really harassing you as much as you thought, or just like any married woman, you want to be the commander of your husband and his whole entourage!

   I can't understand how you put up with so much time. Fuck this mule next to you and this simple mother and their whole crazy family. Find a decent loving MAN who will appreciate and respect you and start a new life. Remember that we are in this world only once and this is not a rehearsal. If you waste it with this log that thinks of yourself as a man, one day you will realize it and regret it, but it will be too late because the years go by. Don't let others crush you like that. Head up and good luck.

   This darling will continue in the future, think about what you want from life and will you withstand this pressure? One lives one life and must be happy! You are still young, you have a great choice, judge for yourself until it is too late. I wish you success! 179

   If you don't pretend to mind your mother-in-law's behavior, your boyfriend can't think of protecting you. It's your own fault for using you - you allow it. If you don't like it, go there. You are not married, you have no children, you are only 26 - what stops you? Even if she was married and had children ... It is better to leave such a place than to tolerate an attitude that you do not like.

   Honey, don't tie yourself to number 8, you told yourself that she was being treated like a servant, the comment is unnecessary. In my opinion, you should get rid of this "man" and his mother today, because over time their claims and requirements will change and you will become a kind of slave for them. You are young, I don't know what education you have, whether you work, but break up with this fool and find a really decent man whom you can trust and know that you will not be treated like a pet.

   Number 17 is right! Go to this gathering, take off your jacket and sit at the table as a GUEST! Just because you're her son's wife doesn't mean you have to do anything. I get very nervous when someone starts dividing the work into male / female. This one of yours will serve, wash, cook, is his mother, she gave birth to him, looked after him, etc. She is just your mother-in-law - the man's wife next to you, you don't owe her anything! Don't let them crush you, I'm telling you this as a person who has been abused many times! So, go to the gathering and don't do anything, if he takes care of you or rude you in some way and the one next to you doesn't protect you, just raise a strong scandal in front of everyone, part with the mouse and continue your life! Good luck and don't put a lot of emotion into these geeks!

   The author; Super support! Thank you! But it's so hard for me to make a decision ... it's been many years of my life. :(

   As a man, I can't be indifferent and not take sides. We all have mothers but they are up to date. Of course I will take the side of the girl I live with. For me, this boy does not have the character to protect you from anyone and whether you are right or not. Get out of there and don't look back.

   number 36, it is very difficult to make a final decision after so many years. it's terribly difficult for me. but obviously you are all unanimous :(

   number 37 from number 36 ... The decision is always difficult but still your life is yours and no one has the right to dispose of it. One end is always a new beginning of something better. But you decide what to do. And lastly ... whatever it is, don't pile it on your heart, life doesn't end there. Good luck.

   Author, I see that several months have passed since the topic was raised - what happened in the end, did it go? Otherwise, my advice is to defend your position - they have already climbed on your head and are dancing. And the fact that your friend is silent and does not protect you is very bad. Are you ready for a lifetime of such harassment in case you get married - because then they will decide that you are sure that you have nowhere to move and the pretensions will increase. In any case, you can't constantly sacrifice and compromise with yourself. And no, number 8 is watching from its belfry, but the advice is not applicable to your situation or your life. Think carefully about what you expect from your future with this man - and to what extent the pattern of behavior that he and his relatives impose on you is compatible with your desires. They will not change. People do not change. If this attitude will make you unhappy - run. I understand that it is difficult for you because you have invested a lot of time and feelings in the relationship - but if it doesn't work out, the sooner the better. I wish you from the bottom of my heart to come across a man who will accept you as you are and appreciate and protect you.

   The situation is not isolated - a witch-in-law, a soft and good-natured man, a depressed and unrequited wife. At first glance, the situation seems insurmountable, but it is a strong illusion, an illusion that the author has built up over the years and it is easier for her to come to terms with the situation and just say: "It's very bad, you can't live like that. ". Honey, as long as you keep talking like this, sneaking into your shell, coming to terms with what surrounds you, indulging in your lethargy, things will stay that way forever. Given that you have no legal relationship with this person, you do not have a child, you do not have a job there. I see, some write that he was between the hammer and the anvil - I can say for such words to look after their work. This must be a young, settled man who can prioritize his life, who is adamant about it, which he considers right to realize that he is responsible for the woman next to him (in the future also for the family). This must be the man with the character to punch the table with his fist and gnash his mother's teeth at such an attitude towards the loved one. Yours is everything but the man of your life. And if in a family the woman begins to take the position that belongs to the man - this is not a family (or at least will not be). There is no alternative for you there. It is true that decisions at such a time are difficult to make, especially by more indecisive women, but on the other hand it can be the solution in one fell swoop of all your problems - and why not the beginning of something much better? !! Regarding comment 8, dear, what you have written yourself does not distinguish you in any way from the author of the topic - the resigned housewife, constantly walking in a chamber of people, content with what she has, afraid to peer into the vast, the unknown. What you give as an example to the author, she already has, but unlike you is looking for a way to get rid of it. If you like it - well, live in your shell, but do not put others inside! Good luck to the author of the topic and if she believes in herself and is not afraid to make decisions, success is with her, always!

   As a man, I advise you to talk very seriously with your boyfriend first and at the same time let this woman know that you don't owe her anything. If your friend does not understand you, you better leave, because all her life she will be guided by her mind, and you will suffer. And it seems a bit frivolous to me that after 7 years of relationship you have neither marriage nor a child. Ask questions and see what happens.

   Hello! I am the author. In the end, we didn't go, not because of me, and he got a job at the last minute. His mother teases me 100 times on the phone, on me, not on him. Then many times she makes me go there and load me with luggage that she has set aside for him. I'm not a driver and it's not very pleasant to carry heavy bags on the buses, but anyway ... You're right, people don't change, and I'm already 27, and I'm afraid to take a new path. She had recently come to them, and had taken my belongings without asking me. I later saw that they were gone. I didn't like it. He picked up the phone, began to hold her tone. She turned off her phone. He literally went off the rails and started pushing me. I hadn't defended myself, and he was arguing with his mother over me. But the truth is, how many times have I drunk, but to defend myself, after all, he always said she was right. She has tried many times to hurt my parents as well. At the same time, our sex life has decreased a lot in recent months. From several times a week to once a week. And that doesn't change. Thanks for the new posts. I am a good person, I am not conflicted. I can't gather my strength and start over. For so many years, everything has been our common friends, environment. I look at the free men around us - our acquaintances and friends who are over 30, look at younger girls than me, who are 20 years old. At 27, and after only 3, at 30, who would look at me? I am not one of those women who make contacts, friendships and connections very easily. And I just don't know which way to go. And if I stay with them, I will be treated badly. our sex life has also decreased considerably in recent months. From several times a week to once a week. And that doesn't change. Thanks for the new posts. I am a good person, I am not conflicted. I can't gather my strength and start over. For so many years, everything has been our common friends, environment. I look at the free men around us - our acquaintances and friends who are over 30, look at younger girls than me, who are 20 years old. At 27, and after only 3, at 30, who would look at me? I am not one of those women who make contacts, friendships and connections very easily. And I just don't know which way to go. And if I stay with them, I will be treated badly. our sex life has also decreased a lot in recent months. From several times a week to once a week. And that doesn't change. Thanks for the new posts. I am a good person, I am not conflicted. I can't gather my strength and start over. For so many years, everything has been our common friends, environment. I look at the free men around us - our acquaintances and friends who are over 30, look at younger girls than me, who are 20 years old. At 27, and after only 3, at 30, who would look at me? I am not one of those women who make contacts, friendships and connections very easily. And I just don't know which way to go. And if I stay with them, I will be treated badly. I can't gather my strength and start over. For so many years, everything has been our common friends, environment. I look at the free men around us - our acquaintances and friends who are over 30, look at younger girls than me, who are 20 years old. At 27, and after only 3, at 30, who would look at me? I am not one of those women who make contacts, friendships and connections very easily. And I just don't know which way to go. And if I stay with them, I will be treated badly. I can't gather my strength and start over. For so many years, everything has been our common friends, environment. I look at the free men around us - our acquaintances and friends who are over 30, look at younger girls than me, who are 20 years old. At 27, and after only 3, at 30, who would look at me? I am not one of those women who make contacts, friendships and connections very easily. And I just don't know which way to go. And if I stay with them, I will be treated badly.

   Author, your position sounds a bit like "I want not to be left alone at any cost and to have a man, whatever he is." First of all, think about whether you feel happy with your current boyfriend and whether you see a future in your relationship - this is the main thing. The fact that you are 27 years old does not mean that you have become unattractive or uninteresting to men.

   Abe, that's enough nonsense, you're 27, not 67, to worry about. Those who are over 30 and look at 20-year-olds are clear to everyone, you can't expect anything from them. I'm currently 31 and I've always liked girls my age, ie when I was 20 I liked 20 year olds, etc. I have quite a few acquaintances around my age who are single, so don't worry in this direction. If your friend from now on allows himself to push you, I don't think what he will do in another 5 years, for example. Also, as you describe his environment, I have great suspicions that he is something similar - frivolous and indifferent to the future. In 7 years he has neither proposed to you nor asked for children, what is waiting for you to turn 40?

   Author, with this slavish thinking, even if there is someone to look at you, you simply will not give him a chance. I am 28 years old, and I can guarantee you that a woman of 27 who is not engaged / married and has no child / children is a great offer for any man of those years. I don't know why you are looking for men over 30 - do you think they are more responsible? However, men over 30 are very often engaged and / or with children, and a man if he did not have a serious relationship until 30, maybe he just does not want to have. In the end, it seems to me that if you stay alone you will have fans very quickly, but I don't know if you will ever be able to muster the courage to break up with your boyfriend. In fact, you will probably gather courage, but only when you have already worked with someone else - usually women do. From what you've written in the story and the comments, I'm impressed, that everything between you is long over, but the fear of loneliness makes you continue the illusion that you have a relationship. But until you overcome this fear, do not expect to be happy in your personal life. And to fix your relationship with your boyfriend, it is out of the question to talk - everything has been lost there for a long time, don't try to stick something that is broken into a million pieces.

   Hello! as you have already been told - think in perspective. How will it be in the future? You do not deserve such a life, nor do your unborn children. The years of your life are many, but imagine how much is left ... and move on. If someone allows himself to push me and that - because of a third person, I will leave him. Together with your two children - consider how much freer you should be, and you are younger.

   Keep your family, time will pass, she will die. It's really not nice to tell you, but then life will begin for you, now show that you are strong and hold the front. This is my advice. Ah ... and a pleasant time with the pig, after they kill it, it is very important how much meat the gift will give you, it shows how much they respect you!

   Look what, author, dump those wild selandurs. You yourself wrote that you wonder what you are doing there. Really, what nonsense that at 30 who will look at you ... who will have to look at you at 30, 40 and 50. Your husband, after being able to push you and behave like that, you really what will you do with such ??? It's easy now that you don't have a child - just drag one of these erased selanduri. If you have a child it will be much harder. And don't think who will look at you after 30, this is nonsense. Don't think about the future, think about the present - if you don't like it, change it.

   Hello again, in a few months. Many things happened. As you can imagine, with my soft nature, I have not parted with the man next to me. Shortly after my last comment, I had a nervous breakdown. I ended up in the hospital. It turned out that everything was nerve-wracking. I went through hell. Before that happened, his mother didn't stop asking me for things. Now he is behaving very well. I have isolated her as much as possible. And I know you'll seem uncharacteristic ... but I still can't make a decision. He offers me to live in his mother's house, I just can't ... I broke my psyche everywhere. I know it's my fault, but it's very difficult for me to separate. And what other decision should I make ???? :(

   Momeeee, the world doesn't end with one man !!!! I don't understand women like you - they stand and reconcile, trample them, insult them and they like it - this is masochism for me !!!!! Aren't you proud ??? ? And I can't explain why you post a topic for advice at all, after you have made your decision. Your bastard will tickle a baby for you - and then stay and watch. head !!!!!

   Get rid of him, but don't forget to explain to him what you're dumping him for. Maybe there is still a small chance for him to be a normal person.

   Author, when I was 28 I ended a long relationship. The reasons for me against your background seem ridiculous, so I will not say them. When I decided to end this relationship, I had the feeling and always thought I deserved something better. I'm not very sociable either, but about a year later I met another person. Many times better than the previous one! Don't you think you deserve something better? Is it worth ending up in a madhouse, because you are afraid to be alone for 5-6-9 months. Shall I tell you what will happen if you continue like this - you will get up at 37-40-45, with broken nerves and he will dump you under the pressure of his mother ... Or they will send you to a madhouse. And you will be left alone again. For God's sake, don't waste valuable time and seek your happiness. Because of your stupid fear, you will miss both the love and so many happy moments that await you. As a wise man said, " Either you are strong enough and change your life the way you want, or life changes you. "Shake off your stupid complexes and think if you deserve what is happening to you. If the answer is no - above you have been told what to do.

   Get rid of them as soon as possible .... What are you waiting for to happen to realize that these people are not for you. If I'm your mother, I'll kick you out of there. Girl, don't waste your life like that. IT IS DIFFICULT FOR ME TO SEPARATE !!! What do they keep you with so much that it is difficult for you - do they feed you, do you have children, did they put a gun on your temple ???? But how angry I am with you, Mecca Maria, to ruin your life like that. Get out of there, get rid of it !!!

   Abe, darling, aren't you drooling a little more ?? Nervous breakdown from the fact that everyone took your shampoo and made you carry a bag of compotes ?? I want to sympathize with you, but somehow I can't, you're a big grumbler, honestly. She had been through hell. And what was this hell like? Lying on a bed with a system stuck in your hand ?? Oh, horror !! Your problems and nervous breakdowns come from your tendency to dramatize and exaggerate, as well as your desire to be the center of attention, grumbling about everything and seeking human sympathy. I'm sorry, I tried to sympathize with you, but I didn't succeed.

   I will not advise you anything. It's just that it's not about advice, because if you were, with all these people telling you that it's best for you to get out of there, you would have ended all your relationships with these people a long time ago. Here, in my opinion, it refers to your "soft character", as you express yourself. And do you know what is good in all the slop? That at least you realized where the problem was - in you. That YOU do not have the courage to leave, that because of your age no one will look at you, that you will be alone, you have to start from the beginning, that you will leave your common environment and friends. In short - you will lose the safe and you do not know what awaits you "outside". I'm sure you think so. It's just that this is wrong thinking, because you can't know what REALLY awaits you in the future. Now that you're inertial and on track, in which you do not control the train. I don't want you to misunderstand me, but they (your friend and his mother) will always stay that way, if not with you, then with the other one after you, they will behave in the same way.

YOU need to realize that YOU are the one who allows them to do so. I see from your other comments that you are already aware of this. So the main problem is probably your insecurity. Where does it come from? Low self-esteem, bad childhood? You don't mention anything about parents, brothers, sisters? You talk about your mutual friends, but not about your friends - are these acquaintances of yours only from his side? For me, everything starts from your psyche. Until you can figure out where your fear of leaving this motherfucker really lies, the root cause of that fear, and eliminate that cause (or accept it and work on it at a later stage), you will write requests for help here, and we will give you advice. I don't want to sound rude. Think about yourself, not about the actions of this woman and her son. Every action comes from a cause. Anyway, do you love him? Or are you in the habit of it? Not bad if it's the latter. Many people are like that. But many of them also have respect, understanding and support. And I didn't see any of the above in the words you use to describe your friend. Have you ever wondered why, after he kept his mother's tone on the phone, he then exploded against you? Maybe because he is not used to defending his position, let alone defending the person next to him? And in this particular case he had to and the very fact of it he could not stand? How do you expect support and understanding from such an individual? How do you expect one day to have children from him and for him to raise them in the same way, how his mother raised him? I know it's very difficult to look at things from above when you're "inside."

I went through something like yours, only for a shorter time and not as bad as yours. It was impossible for me to leave him, at least that's what I thought. I was patient, patient and patient, I had the courage to tell him we were done and I still couldn't. Something was bothering me - but two years together, how so ... but friends, acquaintances ... but his mother is sick, he will be very crowded ... but how will he feel .. but then what will I do ... and so on and so forth ... And I must tell you that I uttered the words most unexpectedly for myself. He was angry, he was shaking, he kept ringing, he even dared to tell me that there was someone in the next block where he was invited to go out, he refused because of me, and I should do that now, you see. One kind - the imposition of guilt is a powerful means of control. If you ever have the courage to get rid of these people and fix your life - NEVER succumb to such manipulations. The victims are not them. It's you. Or ... it was you. The first day without him, after I woke up and went to work, I felt an incredible feeling - it was literally as if a huge burden had been removed from my back. I have never before, and never before, experienced such a release, so to speak. Don't deprive yourself of this - you deserve it after so much suffering.

It is not said that it should be immediately, it can happen in weeks, months, but sooner or later you will feel it if you make the decision. Another piece of advice from me - do not regret when you look back (and there will be many such moments). Do not regret and do not get angry, because you will embitter all your future relationships (or relationship). As difficult as it may seem to you now, forgive them. Forgiveness is a way not to accumulate negative emotions. Not because of them. Because of you. Take it as a lesson. Next time you will be much more confident, you will know what to avoid, what to look for and most importantly - you will learn to be independent and you will understand that being alone and lonely are two different things. All these things that I wrote above, of course, are just in case you take the step. You know what. And by the way - when I broke up with the one I'm talking about above, I was 23. Only 3 years younger than you. I met the person with whom I want to be all my life, to be the father of my children and with whom to share the joys and sorrows of 28 years old. Now I am 31. :) People meet their halves at a much later age than this, but you know - what you think you attract. Stop attracting negativity into your life. Start thinking of yourself as a person who deserves something better. This is your Destiny, damn it.

No one but you has the right to interfere there. I have to tell you, I've never been a beautiful girl. I had extremely low self-esteem for years. If you have any complexes about your age, appearance or anything else that makes you afraid to be alone - they should NOT stop you from taking care of yourself and taking your life in your hands. And believe me - I'm talking to you from a very personal experience. Now, before your health and psyche have deteriorated even more and you have completely lost your sober mind, think about the many questions I have asked you above. And I'll be really happy if I read it soon,