Hello. I am writing here because I do not know who to turn to for advice. My husband and I have been together for a year. For several months now, I have noticed that things are not as they used to be. He became colder to me, rougher. Many times I tried to talk to him about it. Where did this alienation come from? We keep talking the same thing the next day. I shower him with love, care and attention, but I am still indifferent to him. I tried to turn the other side, too. I feel like an annoying obligation, like a burden. Is it possible that I'm tired of him already? What about a baby in the future, won't it get worse? I don't know how to bring back the man I fell in love with. There is no communication between us, we hardly talk.
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I am sure that a huge% of women would share such an experience. Obviously, true love is for the shortcomings of the other.
This is the case with most families. It's the same with me, and I have no desire anymore. Love is exhausted and gives way to disappointment and bitterness and you think "where, what did I do wrong, why and so on"
And are you sure there is no other woman? Usually these are the symptoms.
Hey, I hope so. Women who don't get what they need and leave so I can show them what they've always missed. Brother.
Most likely he has a mistress or a potential one he has stumbled upon. Run, save yourself before he makes you a child. It's not too late for you to get out of this marriage / relationship. Why do you stand in a place where you feel depressed and unhappy? And even more so without having a commitment to a child yet.
From the author. I don't think there is another woman. I haven't found anything to catch - messages, conversations, delays after work, vanity, I know where every penny goes. In general, I think something would betray him if there was another. He just changed his attitude towards me a lot. I don't know what it's due to, I thought it would get better in time, but it's getting worse. There are situations in which men have attacked me and he has not stood next to me as a man. And when it comes to his friends - he jumps. We had an argument with a friend of his once, and even then he didn't protect me. I can't remain indifferent to the fact that my closest person behaves in this way. I'm afraid that in this way he pushes me to my front burn - an incredible man, good, kind, firmly on the ground, dying for my smile, wishing me happiness, but with a family.
You watch a lot of series! The problem is not in the woman in the case. Try to get into the topic of "home" and "family". Put yourself in his shoes, even though you won't be able to feel his feelings. Start with apartment maintenance. You have to - this-this and this. Then you need a lot of money to fix it. Where does the money come from? How many nerves does he have to break to make that amount. If you rent, it weighs even more. When will you be thrown out on the street. How to fix something that is not allowed by the owners. He must be at work to be able to pay the rent. Bills must also be provided. There should be something to eat on the table. There comes a time when a gift should be given to the woman. What to change the car? Or pay her the tax? And maybe civil liability. Somewhere there seemed to be leave, but it was unpaid. And anyway, what will the money be enough for? It's on vacation anyway, why not go on vacation somewhere. And how many irregular people will he get nervous with while pushing to provide what he needs? Do you have a headache? And when he gets home, a nervous woman is waiting for him, ready for a scandal why he didn't pamper her. I don't know to what extent I answered your question. I may not have hit a car or an apartment. But all this stress and mental fatigue can not be noticed in the form of "living together". You are at the beginning of your relationship. He is still trying to get to his feet. This will gradually happen. The important thing is to keep loving him. Help him as much as you can. If you work, the money from your salary will also be a relief. Stop for a moment with the scandals and conversations that burden the psyche. In 98 percent of relationships, strong and emotional feelings subside in 1 to 5 years. Love of neighbor remains. Butterflies can't flutter in your stomach for life. Love your husband and help him. He will reciprocate. Grandpa Tosho
He may have problems at work and therefore be stressed. The other reason is that he has realized that he doesn't really love you and hopes that with his rude and cold behavior you will end your relationship first, because he is a jerk.
Start building something together. The man must be busy with projects, be engaged in the home in some way, otherwise he takes it for granted. For example - if you do not have your own home - start looking to buy with a mortgage, if you have - start repairs, and most importantly - to have your own small space. If he is passionate about something - regularly relax with him, if not, organize surprising experiences. You have to become his friend and partner, not just his mistress.