Hello. After thousands of read topics, now it's my turn to write something. I'm going to drive essentially, I just want to share my story. I'm not looking for praise. I am not looking for sympathy or excuse. Just "make it easy for me." I have been in a relationship with a man for a year and a few months. I'll tell you about it - it all started as a joke, but it really continued. If I can define the feeling I feel in one word, it will be - calm. I feel at ease in my relationship. He is human, and a very good man. For some time now, however, it has been leaving me in the background more and more often. Surely some of you will say to yourself "yes ... yes ... the typical cliché -" He doesn't pay attention to me "," He doesn't understand me ", but NO He started not listening to me when I told him something that had In many cases, we don't even have anything to say. Our relationship has become a routine - a monotony, I have the feeling that he is just with me because he is used to it. As a person gets used to a comfortable pillow, his soft blanket, his favorite T-shirt. However, I think that a relationship between two young people should be different. He is 28, I am 27. For me, love is like magic, you don't see it, you just feel it. Not for him. I have made thousands of attempts, in every way to tell him, to explain to him, to show him that there must be diversity, desire, life! We must be in seventh heaven, we are young, uninvolved. There is no change. Here comes the moment, always comes the moment when chance, whether for good or for bad, meets you with someone. He met me too. I met him once. At first glance - the typical man I'm running away from, whom I don't need right in the middle of my "calm" relationship. But I met him a second time. Completely accidentally. Perhaps. We talked.
Casual conversation, general talk. Why, though, this conversation left me pensive. A few days later. I saw life in him, I saw passion, fire. A man full of life, with energy, strict, to himself and to others, but so invigorating. It so happened that I consciously allowed this man to become part of my daily life, even if it was purely virtual. After a while, however, the general talk grew into something more personal. Everyone has experienced that feeling - tickling, butterflies in the stomach, smiles while looking at the phone. The minute you stop and think before you write anything. Naturally, it came to the point that the meeting between the two of us was about to happen. And not an ordinary meeting. I wanted this man. I wanted it with every part of my body - physically and mentally, I needed him. Like a drug addict who was addicted to drugs he hadn't tried before. I wanted him in the full sense of the word. I took two steps forward toward him, then back. Several times. My morals and honor did not allow me to allow such a thing. But the truth is that everyone has vices, the truth is that we humans have weaknesses, and in most cases, unfortunately, they are harmful to us and others, but we are powerless. I know he will look for me. I know I will agree to see him. I know it is wrong, and only those who have not experienced it will not understand me. I was one of the women for whom the topic of infidelity is a taboo topic - a sin that cannot be forgiven, neither by the loved one, nor by yourself to forgive. But imagine. The monotonous gray everyday life, for months. Then someone comes, takes your hand and says, "Hey, come on,
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Why do you need to cheat? Just end your current relationship without a future and seek your luck with another. Don't get involved in complicated movies, just end it and open a new page.
Why don't you just break up with your friend and be with the other one? Here is this part of infidelity I never understood. Why should you cheat at all, when you are free to end your relationship? You don't have children, you don't have a marriage, and you don't have decent communication. Nothing keeps you from this man. Ask us to put ourselves in your place, to imagine a gray everyday life, a boring relationship and how someone appears, takes our hand and convinces us of the colorful life. Okay, I imagine it. I suppose that anyone in a bad relationship can slip and want another. It hasn't happened to me, but I accept it as possible and understand it from a psychological and emotional point of view. Here we are talking entirely about feelings, inclinations, not physical infidelity. It's bad, but it happens. I accept that no one is the master of his heart. I'm not judging you. However! Your happiness will not be full of infidelity. This means being with your real lover in hotels, hiding like children, having limited time and nothing serious with each other. For me, it would be like being punished to sleep next to someone I don't love. It would be a punishment not to be able to be with the one I really want by my side in the evening and in the morning. Why do you want to punish yourself? Your relationship is over. I think it's not even exhausted, you're just not for each other and this is currently the result of your attempts to prove otherwise. Sometimes people are different emotionally, they are not at the same period of their lives, they look in different directions, they have different views - it doesn't work. There is no point in stepping in one place and pushing for a relationship that does not make you happy and will never make you happy. There is no point in depriving yourself of the opportunity to live your life and have what you want. Just break up with your boyfriend, you don't have to cheat on him. Two chairs fall to the ground.
Once again, I marvel at the naivety of women. Yes, such men will give you passion and live in an instant. But they will almost always hurt you and it is not possible to have a normal relationship with him. If you do it just for fun well, but you women confuse sex with love. I think you will regret the incredible thrill of the macho and you will shed crocodile tears on your boyfriend. But nothing, life teaches. M34
Another whore trying to justify herself. Emmy, I'm sorry, but that's why things don't work out. I have a lot of friends, men who don't cheat, take care of their halves, and they go and grab a meter, because you know ... they're bored. So there will be no fix ... because a woman will always like her whore. Like that joke "Every woman is a whore except my mother, but let's not forget she's a woman too." There is so much truth in this. I had a girlfriend who had a best friend with a man who was seemingly a dream. Women died for him because he was tall, handsome, well above average in financial means, with a nice car, his own home, and he totally supported her, her whole conscious life. (It never worked). So the one in question at one point, under the pretext that she was going to sleep with her friend, went and fucked with some scumbag ... that's it .. because she's probably tired of it. Then again with another coincidence she'd probably never seen again. She's tired ... of being loved, cared for, having a place to live, something to eat, and not to deal with all the mundane things that ruin people's daily lives. From this incident I became convinced that a woman will NEVER be satisfied with ANYTHING and be given to her, because it will NEVER be enough. If all goes well ... she will ask for something rotten, just to diversify her daily life. You, dear, are exactly the same case. To a person who has everything that can be asked for, but something is not enough for you. Don't worry ... it doesn't cut ... it's from the chromosomes! Brother. to have a place to live, something to eat and not to deal with all the everyday life that ruins people's daily lives. From this incident I became convinced that a woman will NEVER be satisfied with ANYTHING and be given to her, because it will NEVER be enough. If all goes well ... she will ask for something rotten, just to diversify her daily life. You, dear, are exactly the same case. To a person who has everything that can be asked for, but something is not enough for you. Don't worry ... it doesn't cut ... it's from the chromosomes! Brother. to have a place to live, something to eat and not to deal with all the everyday life that ruins people's daily lives. From this incident I became convinced that a woman will NEVER be satisfied with ANYTHING and be given to her, because it will NEVER be enough. If all goes well ... she will ask for something rotten, just to diversify her daily life. You, dear, are exactly the same case. To a person who has everything that can be asked for, but something is not enough for you. Don't worry ... it doesn't cut ... it's from the chromosomes! Brother. its exactly the same case. To a person who has everything that can be asked for, but something is not enough for you. Don't worry ... it doesn't cut ... it's from the chromosomes! Brother. its exactly the same case. To a person who has everything that can be asked for, but something is not enough for you. Don't worry ... it doesn't cut ... it's from the chromosomes! Brother.
To number 4 - I completely agree. It is a pity that there are people like the author who stain all women. He itches her and with arrogant words tries to confess to the infidelity he wants to commit. Gnus caught me, honestly. It's good that my husband and I came across each other and it's good that my mind is in my head, because if you're going to play leagues on everyone who bothers you about 1 damn sex where the world is going ... That's why 17 have 27 pieces. . At 30 1000 and so on until the next member who is forced to sit. To the author, don't make excuses for the whore. Go and cheat, but then don't roar here that you fucked up. What man listens to his wife at all? Do you want him to stand on the front stand? My husband was on a business trip for 10 months, in another city ... Wasn't it boring, empty, etc ... I had to have or not. The mind distinguishes us from animals. There were many candidates, but I was not tempted. There is no way for 34 men to turn my head because I have learned my lesson. But you live in a fairy-tale world of love and magic ... Let life beat you, and then you will change the plate.
When I get there to want someone else, I end the relationship. Otherwise, I understand very well what you are saying, only you don't seem to understand it. "Like a drug addict," you said it very accurately. I will not discuss it in 4 comments, because it is funny. He surrounded himself only with such and end, all women were such. It is obvious that the one you are not with is your person and it is better for each of you to continue on your way. But do not think that the passion with the new will be eternal. The chance of being in the same situation in about a year is not small. It's just that I'm a woman and I understand you, but you think with the peach. And when we think of them, we usually regret it. You may be good at leaving it anyway. But get to know this new one better and don't explain to us that you need it. Usually desires generated by need do not lead to anything good. Beautiful men,
4 People like you are just cheating on them and making them a rag ... the way they are. When your complex is useless, just lose it and that's it.
Run from the first until you have given birth to a child and go to the second. And hear something When you wonder between 2 people, go to the second, because if you loved the first, there would be no second. But there is something else, I watched it on the series. The lover may now have fun with you, because he has no commitments, but if you leave the first one, the second one may no longer have fun and leave you.
I really liked the following thing - that you realized that life is a great teacher! That he can always offer you something you are not ready for. That no matter how rightly, in principle and morally you live, no matter how much you condemn others for their weaknesses, one day the wheel turns and you stand on the side of the "condemned" ... Yes, it will happen as you say. Both this connection and this thrill will be much more powerful than the previous ones. And the knowledge you will gain will be greater. Maybe the lessons will be more painful at some point. Man is born and dies alone. But it is not unimportant what he learned during his life and how he interacted with others ...
If you think about infidelity at all, whether once or to fall in love with another, then there is a serious problem. It doesn't matter if your partner knows or not. You know you are missing something, and you will continue to miss it. Either you sit and talk, or you separate. Why do you fuck the other's life most consciously? An ex-boyfriend still wants me, but he doesn't leave his girlfriend so as not to hurt her ?! So he is emotionally cheating, and sooner or later this will reflect on their relationship. He is as selfish as you are. You are deliberately hurting other people.
Most men think they give women everything they want, but most men have no idea what women want. And their other mistake is that they think that the woman wants me to satisfy her every need. Part of the thrill of life is having needs, if they are all satisfied, that thrill disappears. Think seriously about this before you jump to satisfy everyone's whims.
I am currently in a similar virtual relationship with a woman who reminds me of you! I just have the feeling that she wrote this. Well, she's not 27, but everything else is the same!
Ugh, are they making you a mold? The site is full of similar stories, like a soap opera - the constant friend is a good but boring boy, and the heroine needs something like that, more broken, more broken, more naughty ... And here is a wonderful day accidentally on the way to the nearby fruit and vegetable, where he goes for garlic and eggplant in front of Bai Mincho's pastry shop, he meets Him - the wonderful, unique and unique macho. From his eyes the quarantine trembles, his pants get wet and he forgets the password for Zamunda and the social networks. The passport in question is very complex, with increased difficulty and impossible to break, namely 123456789. But these are details unimportant against the background of the happening miracle and the whirlwind of sudden boiling, like a boiling belly-soup passions. New random encounters follow, accompanied by common tales, from which the heroine understands that in addition to beauty, the macho shines with a great mind, boundless intellect and all-encompassing culture, plus an unwavering, firm character and a brave heart. Exciting conversations and increased traffic between the two creatures in love follow. And here is a moment, the cherished hill will fall, as the poet would say. Here, however, the heroine indulges in reflection, in addition to passions, like a famous TV presenter. In it, mind and feelings, morality and ardent love, the lower half of the body and the upper, the Self and the Self, fight with terrible force, according to Grandpa Freud, and, in short, it is much wanted, but something does not grip it. After obscene clichés in the style of my grandmother's reasoning and inhuman struggle with herself, the uncontrollable fire of passion takes over and the newly hatched couple goes hand in hand to rediscover the diversity of the world, flowers, birds and bees. What to do - live once ...
If you think about infidelity, then you have already cheated, it's only a matter of time. It all starts with thinking, today you think a little, tomorrow a little and finally you do it.
Hmm, at about the same time, and in my relationship, I felt like I was beginning to feel sympathy for another person. Ah, sympathies ... I just wanted him crazy. I broke up with my boyfriend and slept with the man in question after a while. And that was it. There was so much desire and reciprocity, and it all ended with one sex. I'm not sorry I left my boyfriend, I wasn't happy anyway and it's not right to cheat. I tell you this so that you know that there is such an option for the development of events. However, be sure to break up with your boyfriend first. It's all over between you when you think of someone else. You are not happy.
Bakhti, this topic seems to have been written by the same woman 100 times. A routine appeared. What do you expect? To take you to Paris every day, so as not to bore the young lady, so that she can upload photos to Instagram every day. What do you offer in return so that it is not so routine for you? What do you offer besides your presence. Women think that just being part of a relationship is enough. Without any other effort, everything else is the work of the man. To listen to you, to give you peace of mind, to bring you enough money, but at the same time to lead an incredibly interesting life, not to allow the woman to get bored for a moment. To be a little hard, but not to overdo it, not to become too real a man with character and to be able to control him. At the same time, you don't want to have a man who controls that we get back to routine.
Some people have a serious job at 27, and you've been complaining that you're going to cheat on your boyfriend. Think people, if you don't like the current one, dump it for me. Things are not that complicated. And look on the other side, if the new one is ready to be your lover, then he doesn't have very serious intentions towards you. If you do not want to commit to her problem. However, if that doesn't suit you ... naughty chick. Come on in, take a look and enjoy yourself!
I don't have much experience. I would like to say. Surely such a moment comes with every relationship. There are few who after 10 - 20 years repeat that they are very much in love, maybe as a mantra, you do not even know what is inside them. Most people in your time make a child to stay together, obviously this is the way. It is normal to have an exhaustion of emotion and relationships. It must be very nasty. Great that you're looking for a way to rediscover.
Well, you are ready to write a book instead of a sheet of red Infidelity. What's stopping you from leaving the current branch, I don't understand?
To number 13 I liked your comment. Then it turns out, after about 3 months, that the prince on a white horse has other lovers, serves a mortgage, a loan, many debts and quick loans, not a day goes by without going through a casino and spinning on typewriters, drinking and smoking, but otherwise he is a great man, a heavy man and a great lover.
Up to 2 and 6. Didn't you understand that the author first wants to make sure of the merits of the new one by trying it and getting closer and then leaving the tame one. In order not to fall from a chair and a half on the ground. To choose the better one. Even if they both fight for her. This is the meaning of infidelity.
Until 13 See that one day it doesn't occur to you that everyone is very strong in fairy tales :) From M45, with 20 years of marriage and two children, who is currently in the same situation! I never imagined that I could fall into this situation!
Follow your heart and happiness. You need to get out of your current relationship. It is quite possible that the new man will not be the love of your life, but no one knows ... You are only 27 years old - do not enslave yourself in a relationship that does not give you happiness, even if nothing happens to the other person . I wish you a good thing. :) For people who condemn and spit - don't talk like that because you don't know if you will ever find yourself in the same situation.
To number 16 ... This also applies to men. Some of you also feel that you should not make an effort once you are in a relationship with a woman. That is why we come to such situations and topics on this site.
Number 13 made me laugh sincerely. Where is a joke, where is the truth, but in life it really is. The women fall for matches, then the roar.
How do you 'fall into such a situation'? Any reasonable, responsible and honest person can easily resolve such a 'situation'. What is this 'situation' - both it hurts and itches? When you don't like someone and your butterflies flutter - you break up and try the other. If you don't feel like it, you squeeze your rags and that's it. But no - 'situation' was! Safe from elementary school.
There is a special kind of representatives of the female society and these are women like but. 5 I am here to praise her. It is good to see that there are still normal people on whom society relies .... something we are the fruit of. It's the current one to laugh at it, but. 13 rules. Evalarka and him ... and I always laughed a lot. And yes the topic is a cliché. And very greasy, taken out of Turkish soap and touched with mixed feelings of conscience and immorality. They are unworthy of comment even. You do not suffer, you have no problems, you have no difficulties in life. Let's have a sick child who needs a bone marrow transplant, the mutts to take your apartment with property fraud and one of you to have been wheelchair-bound ... A lover? Will the one who is "full of energy" come to charge you, m? And two types of people, author. Those who suffer and those who cause suffering. Think a little about who you want to be. There are many ways to diversify your life without having to hurt anyone.
By №22-It will come to your head if you let it happen on your own. That is why we are humans with a second signal system, not animals to succumb to instincts. What you are involved in is an illusion, but if your wife finds out, it will be a cruel reality. And you're years old when it's hard to start over. I wonder how easily you play to fail a 20-year marriage.