So, maybe my question is going to be a little dumb, but ... I need opinions. I am divorced, I have a child, for 2 years I refused to start a more serious relationship, although I had a lot of proposals. I was afraid of how they would accept the child, etc. So my point is that I'm just used to spending time with a man, and before my husband and I broke up because he didn't come home and I didn't spend much time with him. time together after the child is born. / already 5 years old /. How do you spend your time with your partner - do they go out every night or stay home, how often do you get together with friends, how often do you go out alone and how often do you take the child with you - I'm so used to these things That's right - if I want to have dinner out all the time - lest I be wrong ... if we stay with us for a few days in a row - not to look boring ...
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We go out once a week without the children, during the week at home or as guests
Well, I'm not married and I don't have a child, but I have a supposedly serious friend from the age of 3 and our big problem is the weather. He goes out with friends, I go out with my girlfriends ... when we are together we sit in us. Why I do not know. It is very rare to go out with a company 1-2 times in 3 months, for example, which is not normal for him. I have talked 100 times on the subject and nothing that bothers me a lot and soon we will probably part ways, because in reality, you do not create good moments with this person. Time with your partner is important. Even if you are not the two of you, but in company, it is important. It is important to create good moments, memories, etc., especially if you are at the beginning of the relationship and you are young. There are many people with children who manage to achieve this. It is not said that when you have a child you have to close in on yourself and not move anywhere. Success!
I don't understand why you should suggest how and where to spend time with your friend? Doesn't he have some kind of initiative as a man or is he someone who agrees with everything you tell him? Well, strain your mind and imagination a little, there are so many possibilities, why are you looking for ready-made answers from people who have completely different lives and interests? My husband and I have never asked anyone where to go and how to have fun.
Well, every couple has their own formula. With my husband and I, everything revolves around our work commitments. We are both very busy and planning vacations and entertainment is problematic - something always arises. That's why we try to create small joys and use every free minute to do something pleasant. We also have rituals. For example, whoever has been anywhere, whatever he has done, no matter how tired, even for half an hour - every night he sits down at the table with a drink and everyone tells how his day went. If the usual days coincide, we clean the house together and then take a walk, picnic, prepare a special dinner, watch movies, talk. We love to host and welcome guests and in the summer on weekends our villa is usually full of people. In the winter we go out with friends once a week - usually to a theater, concert, exhibition, etc., and then we all go to a restaurant together. Come to think of it, we rarely just attend a cultural event, we are always with company. However, we also have "our" home dinners and we appreciate them a lot - we listen to music, talk, laugh, drink wine. We have no children together, but my husband has a daughter from his first marriage, who is often with us. The picture doesn't change at all: if we're going out, we just take it with us. We never had to change plans because of her, because she is already big and she is interested in things that are interesting for us as well. There is no "right" and "wrong" way of living, author. My girlfriend has a child as old as yours. She is also a single mother. The fact is, her boyfriend complains, that he was forever neglected because of the boy and that the two of them couldn't go anywhere. The problem is that the kid can neither take it with them to a restaurant in the evening, nor on a long trip, let alone a bar, a mountain hike or even a movie, if the movie is not childish. But my friend agreed with an acquaintance of the pensioner to leave the child with her in such cases for a fee. So here - find a way.