Hello ladies! I am a woman. With my confession here, I want to share how a low self-esteem and harassment by the man's family can bring you to the bottom. I hope someone reads and learns a lesson. I want to emphasize that I do not mean sympathy or regret. I mentioned the purpose of my story ... For me, it all started a long time ago. A small member of my family has died. He was 10 years old. It was horrible. At the same time, I met a boy I fell in love with. The beginning was good until my parents went abroad to treat my brother and then I was left alone with my grandmother. He started beating me for no reason. I was a young complex girl (now, looking at my photos before, I look like a pretty girl, but it wasn't like that then). .. I went to them all the time. In general, his family treated me well. The first 2-3 months. Then his mother's bad treatment began. My brother was being treated abroad, she was telling my friend here that he was not a trash can. They called me a cow, a crane ... he kept beating me. I was a student, alone with my grandmother. They called on the phone that my brother had died, his family did not flinch. His mother told me that she had warned me that this would happen, and it was very cruel. I was 17. Then my psyche collapsed in such a way that I could not break away from them, insults, beatings, I assure you, without reason. They insulted my family, he told me to stop talking about my brother, he was tired. I never managed to separate from them. How many times has my nose been bleeding, my eye bruised ... Over the years, he began to settle down, he was behaving badly again, but less frequently. His mother moved out of town. She was constantly preparing huge quantities of food, for which I had to go to her village and bring them back. She was constantly flaunting how beautiful she and her granddaughters were, "not like some," looking at me. She started when she came back to town to take my clothes and not give them back to me. He called his son to suffer. My friend was arguing with me, he was attacking me. I was running out of money. He didn't believe that his mother was capable of that. I was getting a lot of tension. I lost my breath, she took me to a nearby hospital, my legs and arms went numb, I thought it was my last moment, and then hell began for me, 2 years ... 10 months of antidepressants. This is the worst condition. I don't wish it on anyone. I was left with a well-shaken psyche, vulnerable to minor incidents. It's hard to live like that sometimes. A weak psyche that I struggle with and I can't overcome. Missed chances, sad fate. I am now almost 30 years old, with this psyche, with this past. In a city where many people know about the above events. I will soon be 30 and I wish a little more joy for me and my family. I shared the story with you because I know that there are girls and women of all ages who are about to be shaken. With this "confession" I want to tell them how far they will go if they continue .... Have self-respect, don't become like me. It's hard to live like that sometimes. A weak psyche that I struggle with and I can't overcome. Missed chances, sad fate. I am now almost 30 years old, with this psyche, with this past. In a city where many people know about the above events. I will soon be 30 and I wish a little more joy for me and my family. I shared the story with you because I know that there are girls and women of all ages who are about to be shaken. With this "confession" I want to tell them how far they will go if they continue .... Have self-respect, don't become like me. It's hard to live like that sometimes. A weak psyche that I struggle with and I can't overcome. Missed chances, sad fate. I am now almost 30 years old, with this psyche, with this past. In a city where many people know about the above events. I will soon be 30 and I wish a little more joy for me and my family. I shared the story with you because I know that there are girls and women of all ages who are about to be shaken. With this "confession" I want to tell them how far they will go if they continue .... Have self-respect, don't become like me. I will soon be 30 and I wish a little more joy for me and my family. I shared the story with you because I know that there are girls and women of all ages who are about to be shaken. With this "confession" I want to tell them how far they will go if they continue .... Have self-respect, don't become like me. I will soon be 30 and I wish a little more joy for me and my family. I shared the story with you because I know that there are girls and women of all ages who are about to be shaken. With this "confession" I want to tell them how far they will go if they continue .... Have self-respect, don't become like me.
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Very well written story, but unfortunately most women in this situation will not change their lives because of your story, and there are even extreme cases that stand with the man even when he brought them to the intensive care unit or killed or disabled a child. But you, thank God, didn't get there. Unfortunately, you became the first victim of your family, which fought so hard for the doomed child to the last that he forgot about his health. This is always the case, even in the best families, and that is why there are already homes, sanatoriums and psychologists in developed countries who specialize in siblings of sick or dying children. I hope you have found yourself and been healed - this is the most important thing, and a man will be found for you. The important thing is to get on your feet, the rest will be Success
I want to write that not everyone is like that, and girls women should not leave. Pay more attention to good male boys, not just some walking or bloated ones. There are yes but of course they are invisible to most female girls.
Oh dear! I am your sister by fate! Fortunately, I have not lost a brother or sister, but my husband's attitude is similar. It doesn't bother me, I'm much better than you in this respect, but the mental and verbal harassment has been there for years and as a result my nerves are completely broken. I'm a little older than you, but I feel 100, I can't sleep, my hair is falling out, I've gained weight, because chocolate is my only consolation ... It's terribly sad! And yet, thank you, because your story has helped me see that I am not alone, that there are women who are much worse than me, and yet they have not given up. Thank you!
And now how are you? You say nothing about yourself in the direction of getting out, new foundations, dreams, goals, a path to take. The city where you have the smallest problem, you change and start clean. You start your post as a person who sets an example that there is another way for abused people, but you end up giving up looking for your own. It is good to set an example for your happy ending to history. The only first step in the right direction is the beginning of the new. Tell me about her.
Author, you aim to help other women with this story. And did this story help you? You want to tell them how far they will go if they continue. And why do you continue. Have self-esteem, and help yourself. You will miss future chances if you continue like this. Now you will say - I can't, I'm 30 and with a broken psyche, as you said - I can't, I'm 17 and no one will look at me. You don't see it, but you keep making the same mistake. If you want to help someone - show others how to do it in practice.
It is we women who are to blame for allowing, forgiving and enduring all this in the name of "love", but I do not see what kind of love it is when a man touches you, it is not love and to stay with him is pure masochism. self-torture. I don't know self-delusion or female idiocy, but every woman who is harassed suffers and is silent, but dear ladies, it doesn't help, it makes things worse, why instead of being happy you stay with these people, why you torture yourself I don't know, but it's very stupid. Just girls and women have self-respect respect yourself in the first place to be respected and others do not leave, and do not tolerate life is one do not ruin, do not humiliate any man does not deserve the woman next to him as soon as he reaches. The woman should be carried in the arms to respect and love had slaps, and quarrels put an end to the point of this relationship,
Do not sit with the abuser. That is, there is no other salvation. "But I'm afraid to leave him, I have no money, etc." - nothing is scarier than sitting with a psychopath - a bully.
Author, you say you're 30 - this is not the end of the world. I'm also 30 and I don't mind starting over if my current relationship fails. 30 is a wonderful age, we are young, active, do not think that you are an adult and almost nothing good can happen to you. It's not too late to meet another or have a family. However, I want to apologize if I misread between the lines and you don't mean it. I hope you don't have a child - it's not clear from your story. If you do not have a child with the gentleman in question, it will be much easier for you. If you have, believe me, it would be better for him not to be with his father. My mother has lived in such an environment for many years and is currently mentally depressed, and my father still beats her. My sister and I ran away to adulthood when we came of age, one of us even went to another country so that we would not have to tolerate a similar attitude. I don't know what city you are from and what your education is - you don't say anything about it. If you have at least a high school education, you have a chance to find a job in a bigger city and get rid of this unpleasant environment forever. And how did your family abandon you like that and not oppose your life with a bully? Or do you hide from them because you are ashamed? I hope you are not financially dependent on him, but even if you are - ask your parents for some amount, enough to be able to cope in 1 month in a bigger city, and do not think about it - leave. It may sound risky, but it's not - there's a greater risk of continuing to have low self-esteem and ruining yourself more and more. I sincerely wish you success and hope you get rid of the abuser. so that we do not have to tolerate such an attitude. I don't know what city you are from and what your education is - you don't say anything about it. If you have at least a high school education, you have a chance to find a job in a bigger city and get rid of this unpleasant environment forever. And how did your family abandon you like that and not oppose your life with a bully? Or do you hide from them because you are ashamed? I hope you are not financially dependent on him, but even if you are - ask your parents for some amount, enough to be able to cope in 1 month in a bigger city, and do not think about it - leave. It may sound risky, but it's not - a greater risk is to continue to have low self-esteem and ruin yourself more and more. I sincerely wish you success and hope you get rid of the abuser. so that we do not have to tolerate such an attitude. I don't know what city you are from and what your education is - you don't say anything about it. If you have at least a high school education, you have a chance to find a job in a bigger city and get rid of this unpleasant environment forever. And how did your family abandon you like that and not oppose your life with a bully? Or do you hide from them because you are ashamed? I hope you are not financially dependent on him, but even if you are - ask your parents for some amount, enough to be able to cope in 1 month in a bigger city, and do not think about it - leave. It may sound risky, but it's not - a greater risk is to continue to have low self-esteem and ruin yourself more and more. I sincerely wish you success and hope you get rid of the abuser. If you have at least a high school education, you have a chance to find a job in a bigger city and get rid of this unpleasant environment forever. And how did your family abandon you like that and not oppose your life with a bully? Or do you hide from them because you are ashamed? I hope you are not financially dependent on him, but even if you are - ask your parents for some amount, enough to be able to cope in 1 month in a bigger city, and do not think about it - leave. It may sound risky, but it's not - there's a greater risk of continuing to have low self-esteem and ruining yourself more and more. I sincerely wish you success and hope you get rid of the abuser. If you have at least a high school education, you have a chance to find a job in a bigger city and get rid of this unpleasant environment forever. And how did your family abandon you like that and not oppose your life with a bully? Or do you hide from them because you are ashamed? I hope you are not financially dependent on him, but even if you are - ask your parents for some amount, enough to be able to cope in 1 month in a bigger city, and do not think about it - leave. It may sound risky, but it's not - there's a greater risk of continuing to have low self-esteem and ruining yourself more and more. I sincerely wish you success and hope you get rid of the abuser. And how did your family abandon you like that and not oppose your life with a bully? Or do you hide from them because you are ashamed? I hope you are not financially dependent on him, but even if you are - ask your parents for some amount, enough to be able to cope in 1 month in a bigger city, and do not think about it - leave. It may sound risky, but it's not - a greater risk is to continue to have low self-esteem and ruin yourself more and more. I sincerely wish you success and hope you get rid of the abuser. And how did your family abandon you like that and not oppose your life with a bully? Or do you hide from them because you are ashamed? I hope you are not financially dependent on him, but even if you are - ask your parents for some amount, enough to be able to cope in 1 month in a bigger city, and do not think about it - leave. It may sound risky, but it's not - there's a greater risk of continuing to have low self-esteem and ruining yourself more and more. I sincerely wish you success and hope you get rid of the abuser. but it is not - a greater risk is to continue to have low self-esteem and to ruin yourself more and more. I sincerely wish you success and hope you get rid of the abuser. but it is not - a greater risk is to continue to have low self-esteem and to ruin yourself more and more. I sincerely wish you success and hope you get rid of the abuser.
I want to share my story with you ... I met him in another country and gave birth to a child older than me, 16 years old. Our child is almost 4 years old ... even when he was a few days old, he beat me severely. I came home with a newborn baby in my arms .. some time passed and I had to come back again because my family was in financial difficulties then it happened again but I knew there was no one to rely on I had to stay after a while I decided that I would manage alone and not I rely on anyone for nothing I will go home and let him go to kindergarten and I will find a job unfortunately I did not succeed because it turned out that he has Autism .. I decided to fight alone but I was not happy with the doctors or I just did not know everything because my child could not stand with people other than me and fell into hysteria and crying ..unfortunately I came back again there was no way .. neither child nor therapies work anything ... here the child has good therapists good GP .. his father had stopped drinking for a few months but maybe calmed down after realizing that the child is in the lightest stages and started all over again at least he stopped hitting me but harassing and insulting and always told me that I can't do anything and I can't do anything .. And I'm 24 hours with the child no one helps me for him .. the child starts to he cries when we fight .. I just hope that one day he will manage and take our way without his father .. since the child was born we haven't even slept in one room he works at night and during the day I hardly see him better I'm calmer ... it's very difficult for me to make a decision and it's right and my mother even advised me to leave my child and leave, I can't cut my arm like ...I have not lost faith that only the child is well, I hope one day this nightmare is over
Well, if they are not problems, you will think about the size of the cock for orgasms that you do not get, you will start muttering that you are bored, these are you women. I have already said that I should never feel sorry for a woman, but if she does, she will writhe. Well, dude, well done to him.