Life has met me with a man whom I considered a hell of a lot. I didn't believe I would say it, but we had become so close that I fell in love virtually. I knew that he did not write only with me, that he commented on photos and various comments of other girls, but he always said that they meant nothing, that he was alone and had no one by his side. I was still studying then, and he was working, and we had agreed when we had time, especially in the evening to write and talk, and sometimes to talk about how the day went. I just couldn't wait for the evenings to come to hear or write. At one point I noticed that he started to be different at times he wrote to me with pleasure, the next day he didn't even care how I was, the next day he needed me again, then again with short answers "aha", "ok", "maybe ". Conversations became rarer and rarer. If it wasn't for me, he wouldn't have called me. Now he was busy, he didn't have an account, his minutes were over, he was somewhere, he had guests and excuses not to talk, and I didn't even drive him on the phone, because on the Internet almost all applications now allow you to talk for free. The relationship became just a chat. And even the chat wasn't every day, once a week was obviously enough for him, and I didn't want to bother him because I believed the lies that he was very busy and tired. However, I had not worked until then and I was in a position for him. A whole month passed, during which he was not interested in me, wrote to others under the photos, put statuses on the wall, that he was in love, that he was not. And after seeing these things, I decided to congratulate him on his new boyfriend, or do I know an old new girlfriend. He read the message and did not answer me, apparently he had deleted it from his messages. The other day I was removed from his friends. I had begun to forget it in the dark, it had been all summer, when I didn't know who he was with, where, what he was doing, and I didn't care so much, and one day he started snorting at me and writing me what's new with me.
Then I asked him, if he has a girlfriend, why is he looking for others, why did he remove me from friends and what does he expect from me? He started whining that they were for a short flirtation, it was all over, he hadn't waved at me, obviously something had gone wrong and I didn't know. And again, out of naivety, I decided to believe him, the chat started, he wrote to me every day. A week passed and he started posting statuses and photos on his profile again for a loner, for a lover, that with as many women as she is, she is the only one. I asked him again who these things were about, and he denied putting them on just so they weren't for anyone. But he stopped writing to me and I decided not to write to him first and to leave things as they are. A few days later he again put the status that the woman is a fortune, it should be appreciated that he was happy and the cover of everything was the status in five six lines with the text I love you written many times. I realized that they had met the same girl and I was very naughty because I was attached to him again. I only saw statuses and their photos of how happy they are, how they almost adore her and how much they love her. Almost a year has passed since the summer of 2016, he had obviously clicked something again and decided to write to me again as if he didn't care how he treated me and that it was hellishly mean to look for someone he had cheated on before, he just wrote a note about how your and what's new like every time. He began to lament that he was alone and that the women were already disappointed. He had even mentioned that he is ready to come seriously to meet. But the chat remained single, because when I decided to write to him the next day, he reacted quite strangely, in one or two words. And that's why I blocked it from everywhere completely already. The bad thing is that this person has some energy that is contagious, that then with whoever you go out with, you talk, write and can't be forgotten. And when you fall in love in this way, it is more real than even a real relationship, because a person falls in love through the soul, and not visually as he did. I saw what he was writing on, artificial faces, lips, big breasts and too made. The other girls were just a waste of time for him. From then on, for a certain period of time, I receive writings from various fake profiles and I just know that it is him. My request to you is to receive advice on how to forget such a heartfelt love. What does it take to rip it out everywhere? I will be happy for more opinions.
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It's high time you left the chat and started living in reality. I am sure that you will meet the right one for you, because of which you will quickly forget this virtual image in which you think you are in love. Enough, it's a pity. Good luck!
Block this one permanently. From such idiots, apart from stealing your time and energy, you can expect nothing more. Get rid of him forever.
Tc, Tc, and here the Epic of the Forgotten, may the poet forgive me. First, you need to warm up that boys / men are mainly interested in sex, not napping on the phone, skype or something else. Well, at first you thought something would come out. But very soon you had to warm up that the man is chasing something that is closer to him. Just leave him alone, no interest. You don't have to forget it, you won't fall into amnesia, will you? Stop wrapping it around your finger and you will get sick soon. It's normal now, it's hard for you, but everything passes with time. Understand that you had a wrong judgment, he did not owe you anything, although he slightly bullied you. But only light. with the same success you could get dirty with someone in the meantime and stop dealing with him.
This is not love. It's just a hobby. And it will pass in time, believe me. Just don't think about it and watch your life. Don't even care who she is with and what she does;) Shallow narcissus is this type and doesn't deserve you.
Hi, there is no point in blaming ourselves. One wrote, then did not write, she liked him and waited for him, he was not so devoted, etc. As far as I can see, the man was interested in you, but the more time passes without anything significant, the more interest disappears like water in the desert. It is obvious that he is interested in you, otherwise he would not have wasted so much time and would not have paid so much attention to you. I hope you realize that the time he lost with you is irretrievably lost and no more men to return? He has given you the most valuable thing - time and attention. Time and attention that he has given you and that he has dedicated to you with the expectation that something will happen, that things will develop. Time and attention that he lost and that he was able to invest in many other places. I don't think you have the right to complain and feel almost robbed. It's just time, and I'm like that when you give time and attention to a woman, you don't want anything from her, you don't press her, because you know that she needs time (at least I'm left with such impressions), but if things are in one moment they have no development and she did not take the next step you like you accept that you have lost time, emotions and focus and all this you could direct in many other productive directions, your interest disappears and you start writing less and less often. rarely. It's hard for you to get her to write to you, because it's just that things are frozen in a meaningless communication, chatter, sharing that has started to become worn out and banal and doesn't move forward and you just drop the whole story and move on. After a while, you may want to write to her again, to start missing conversations, but again, if there is no development, you quickly get bored again. I know that in women, attachment becomes slower, falling in love gradually, but if you consider only your own feelings, your husband gets tired and abandons the whole story. Sorry, this is the situation. No one is to blame, just a different psychology. He complied with yours for a long time, but you did not comply with his and eventually lost interest. Men want physical intimacy, they want to feel wanted, they want to feel erotic tension. Doesn't this thing interest evaporate. If he was only interested in his own desires, he would ask you the question right away, but he knows you won't take it well, so he complied with you for a long time, but you missed the moment to comply with him and things fell apart. Keep that in mind next time. but if you consider only your own feelings, her husband gets tired and abandons the whole story. Sorry, this is the situation. No one is to blame, just a different psychology. He complied with yours for a long time, but you did not comply with his and eventually lost interest. Men want physical intimacy, they want to feel wanted, they want to feel erotic tension. Doesn't this thing interest evaporate. If he was only interested in his own desires, he would ask you the question right away, but he knows you won't take it well, so he complied with you for a long time, but you missed the moment to comply with him and things fell apart. Keep that in mind next time. but if you consider only your own feelings, her husband gets tired and abandons the whole story. Sorry, this is the situation. No one is to blame, just a different psychology. He complied with yours for a long time, but you did not comply with his and eventually lost interest. Men want physical intimacy, they want to feel wanted, they want to feel erotic tension. Doesn't this thing interest evaporate. If he was only interested in his own desires, he would ask you the question right away, but he knows you won't take it well, so he complied with you for a long time, but you missed the moment to comply with him and things fell apart. Keep that in mind next time. He complied with yours for a long time, but you did not comply with his and eventually lost interest. Men want physical intimacy, they want to feel wanted, they want to feel erotic tension. Doesn't this thing interest evaporate. If he was only interested in his own desires, he would ask you the question right away, but he knows you won't take it well, so he complied with you for a long time, but you missed the moment to comply with him and things fell apart. Keep that in mind next time. He complied with yours for a long time, but you did not comply with his and eventually lost interest. Men want physical intimacy, they want to feel wanted, they want to feel erotic tension. Doesn't this thing interest evaporate. If he was only interested in his own desires, he would ask you the question right away, but he knows you won't take it well, so he complied with you for a long time, but you missed the moment to comply with him and things fell apart. Keep that in mind next time. but he knows that you will not accept him well, so he has complied with you for a long time, but you have missed the moment to comply with him and things have fallen apart. Keep that in mind next time. but he knows that you will not accept him well, so he has complied with you for a long time, but you have missed the moment to comply with him and things have fallen apart. Keep that in mind next time.
A typical narcissist (presents himself in an ideal light, manipulates you, there is no one like him ...) usually such people are so good at manipulating and polishing you for their own purposes and blowing to make you sad, to pray to them, to this way they feed on your energy - an emotional vampire. Pump your ego with you because you are good, kind and trusting, for such types of people like you are ideal for their purposes. This person is very dangerous because he feeds on your emotions, manipulates you and in the end he will grind you in such a way that you will not forget him when he blows ... and he will again appear out of nowhere with lies and manipulations and the wheel turns . Stop this game of his NOW, block him and NEVER be tempted to write to him! Please listen to my advice!
From the author: To 1: I left the chat a long time ago, obviously it is not when he writes to me from time to time from fake profiles To 2: I blocked it a long time ago from everywhere. He seems to find me by fake names and knows me by name and appearance. To 3: To know that he was looking for sex, I know. But to fuck not only with me, but also with others is not normal. To 4: It will pass, I guess, but it bothers me a lot with the people I communicate with and I fail to accept, for example, as liking. To 5: So only he is wasted time and attention on me, right? I'm not. Yes, it is clear that he is looking for sex, a woman who is close to him, but to have a woman and to deceive others is not normal. Then he roars that he is alone and abandoned. To 6: I have blocked him for a long time, but he obviously knows my fb by heart and finds me through fake profiles and from time to time I get hello how you are from different names. And I know it's him. That's right, he is exactly the "perfect" sweet-talker with a self-confidence that seems to be trying to stand out on his own to earn points and is a big complex, but one does not know who to fall in love with.
Hello :) I won't explain much, but I'll tell you one thing, darling, it's just a hobby! I had the same incident a year ago and I want to tell you, they always come back after one didn't work out, they come back thirsty for attention. He just knows that if someone doesn't tie him up, he can always come to you and use you shortly before he runs somewhere again. Be calm, you don't need such people in your life! It is clear that this man is not looking for anything serious except attention caresses and sex I guess? Don't let it drag you, because it will leave you like nothing in the next one. My advice is to watch your life and stay away from toxic people like him :) Good luck!
Hello :) I won't explain much, but I'll tell you one thing, darling, it's just a hobby! I had the same incident a year ago and I want to tell you, they always come back after one didn't work out, they come back thirsty for attention. He just knows that if someone doesn't tie him up, he can always come to you and use you shortly before he runs somewhere again. Be calm, you don't need such people in your life! It is clear that this man is not looking for anything serious except attention caresses and sex I guess? Don't let it drag you, because it will leave you like nothing in the next one. My advice is to watch your life and stay away from toxic people like him :) Good luck!
You have done everything that depends on you - you have cut off all communication with him, you do not start a new one with his fake profiles. Time will do the rest. It takes more time for your heart and soul to heal. I'm in a situation similar to yours - the difference is that for me it's real, not virtual. And not just once. History repeats itself for me. One of these exes is still looking for me, and that's exactly how he complains that he was lonely and abandoned. Ever since I lost my feelings for him, I only answer him "I wish you success in love and in life." And so far. Now I am hurt by someone like him who used me not only emotionally but also materially. You are obviously like me - loving, tender, kind and easy to attach. I wish you to soon meet a boy worthy of your love and heart. ~ A woman of 30
To number 9 by the author: I haven't dealt with it for a long time. I know that people like him are looking for numbers and regrets when they break up with their boyfriends. But it still sucks to know that someone likes them and to throw it away. But as selfish as we want in the world
To number 10. Thank you very much for your kind words. Yes, I am more emotional than many other girls. I hope you're right and that everything passes me by. Good luck to you too, I hope you don't get disappointed!
I skipped all the comments after getting acquainted with the author's torments. Most recently, a friendly family asked me to help their daughter with an essay on literature. I responded, of course, the child is great and accepts me as an older friend, so we learn easily. We hadn't seen each other since the summer, and of course, she surprised me with news: a new boyfriend! In love, lost, carried away, etc. I asked: "Where do you meet, darling, how do you have fun, why don't you visit us one weekend at the villa ...? Well - she says - we write to each other on Facebook. Well, how - I ask "Don't you see each other? Well, no," he says, "but we're boyfriends. People, explain to me - the 45-year-old woman - how it is that people are lovers without touching their hands. They're jealous, they're being watched." , harass, quarrel, get together, love each other, separate - without seeing their eyes, except for a photo? Please explain it to me!
To number 13. I had never thought before I met him that he had such a feeling as love for a virtual individual. Just a lot of chatting, day after day and somehow something started to feel. And I'm not sure what it is, but I just feel a thrill plus dissatisfaction with everything.