Very often I notice how in my life I meet the same people, a specific type of people who are not silent about anything and are always in an offensive position, even against the soft ones. I define myself as a good person and a person who does not seek conflicts, but with a position. I have been in contact with these people since I was well-mannered, but when they have shown this side of themselves, not to consider anyone and to crush every person who stands in their way, I wish I had not been so friendly and uncharacteristic with them, because they they think they can make me a monkey. Is it possible for someone to tell me how to deal with strangers: with upbringing and manners or to ignore and affect them?
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I behave politely with strangers. I try to follow my upbringing and I do not insult anyone, I do not shout, I do not swear. If I can help another person, acquaintance or stranger, I help him. They don't make me a monkey, if someone overdoes it, I tell him directly that I don't like the conversation, that he insults me or overdoes the requirements. I avoid sharp conflicts, I get into an argument only when I deem it necessary. I prefer to say things directly in the eyes, instead of hypocrisy and intrigue. This does not mean that I choose the rude tone and the bad attitude, on the contrary. For my part, I also accept criticism and appreciate the truth, if it is very unpleasant for me. They didn't tell me I was soft or uncharacteristic, they told me I was very calm and straightforward. You know, this could be a softer version. I usually accept all people with different opinions, it is not difficult for me to understand my interlocutor, although I do not always agree with him. I don't find it a lack of character, but I notice that certain people take it that way. This quality is irritating to some and pleasant to others. You can't please everyone. I'd rather be called characterless than vicious. I put the extremes on the scales so as not to be annoyed by comments.
Quite simple. You behave patiently and decently. When someone grumbles, you still answer him carefully, but with questions and directing the conversation you make him confirm his dismissal or if he claims some nonsense to say it again with explanations so that there are no misunderstandings. And when you see that he doesn't show any more attention, but continues to gnash his teeth, you also unceremoniously.
With dignity and respect, but to stick to your opinion and not let them tell you what to do!
Both extremes are stupid. In the beginning, it is best to be neutral. Later you will understand what kind of people you are dealing with and you will be able to move to clearer behavior.
Get the fuck out of everyone, and don't care.
People with such a mentality should not be paid any attention at all, you cut it off completely and ignore it.