The situation is as follows for a year and I am dealing with a girl who has had a friend for 5 years. We study in the same city. It all started with a supposedly Easter egg on Facebook. Things have changed little by little. I was in America for 6 months and we heard each other at every opportunity. I came back and we started seeing each other 1 2 times a week and at other times we wrote and heard constantly. BUT she was with him when I returned to her hometown. Twa tormented me, but I continued with the thought that one day the sun would rise on my street. The days went by little by little and I became more and more attached to her. One day we just heard each other and I said, that's all, I was here. The week after that, she kept looking for me to write to me, she wanted to see me. And a week later we were supposed to see each other, but I clearly explained what I wanted ... She is a person with a rather strange character and it is very difficult for her to speak openly about herself and admit feelings. In the conversation, she explained to me how she felt super nasty, naughty after I decided to take that step. We continued, but until when? Is it better to really leave her to see when a person loses how it will be and will she appreciate it?
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However, when you met her you knew that she had a boyfriend ....
And even in the beginning you would have accepted the idea that you have a friend ...
OT-2: Some people just live a double life, with one goal: to keep the thrill going!
It's just that you and your boyfriend are composing an idealized image of the perfect man who obviously likes her - she has found in you some qualities that are not in her official boyfriend, and in him - the qualities that you do not have. Probably the girl has a positive attitude and neglects the shortcomings in your characters, enjoying only your positive qualities. But such a dichotomy is dangerous because, despite the qualities, each person is unique in character and requires the ability to quickly reconfigure communication, especially when it comes to communicating with both of you within a few hours. It is emotionally draining, I know from personal experience (I am a man). I used to have an official boyfriend and an unofficial boyfriend. Believe me, this is not easy at all, especially when with one behavior you have won one woman, and with another behavior - the other. I mean, that sometimes you have to take on a role while shooting a woman because everyone is different and the approach is different. Sometimes there is confusion, but that's part of the game. So I slipped a little, sorry, I wanted to say that the girl is looking for a man who has the qualities of the two of you taken together, but she did not fall and therefore is with the two of you. It may sound ridiculous and absurd, but it's true.
4. Thank you very much for this comprehensive answer. It's really quite difficult to play two characters and get into each other quickly