Hi, I don't know if it will be easier if I write it, but I think at least I won't lose. I'm a little over 30 now, but it all started when I was 21 and got married. I had dreams for children and family but after 8 years of marriage I had nothing. What followed was a long and painful divorce and grief that still weighs on me to this day. But that's not what I want to share. A year or two later, I began to recover from depression. I had and still have everything. I am a beautiful woman, quite young. I have fans of all ages. I am absolutely independent.
Prestigious high-paying profession, own home, car, great parents. I love having fun. I'm good, even too naive. I am dedicated, but also too sensitive. And on top of all that, I felt lonely and unhappy. I had a lot of relationships, but I wasn't in love, I just imagined I wasn't alone. There were those who used my condition to feel good. Until one day last year, when I met him most unexpectedly. It was mutual love at first sight. After a week, I had the feeling that I had known him all my life. He was everything I wanted and was actually quite ordinary. I didn't want much, I just wanted to fall in love. Every day I woke up thinking I was happy and couldn't believe it. He loved me too, it was evident in his eyes in his actions.
We lived together with me. We met our parents, friends, colleagues. We were all very happy. Both mine and his are great. They accepted us as their own children, they did not divide us. I met everyone around him and we all liked him. It was a fairy tale. Travel, entertainment ... In the meantime, it so happened that we were promoted at the same time, etc. True, that he had to spend more time at work, he also worked at home, and his time for me decreased, but I understood him and I was not angry. We made plans for the future, we solved everyday problems, etc. In difficult moments I was by his side, he was by my side. Everyone thought we might get married ...
And so until the last second. But as people say, very good is not good. About a week ago we were at a family celebration (of his family). Everything went well, we had fun, or so I think. The night was great. The next day we got up (we were with his parents) and as usual, he made me coffee, we talked a little with the other usual things, what we plan to do, that we will repair the car, where we will go next week, etc.
Then we went home. He started reading a book. Nothing unusual. At one point I went to him just to tease him for a while. And at that moment he left the book and some outpourings began that he was not feeling well, that he was true to me and wanted us to part. The only explanation was that he couldn't give me enough time with the new job, and he couldn't give me what I wanted. And he just got up, packed his bags, and left. He returned to his parents, who were no less shocked than I was. I don't want to describe what this caused me and how I feel at the moment. For an hour to turn your life around. To come down from heaven, not to fall from heaven, and without knowing why, without even thinking about it. Not just one person left, dreams, plans, and many other people we liked. Now I try to comfort myself with work. I will not return to that apartment. I'll probably change it. But if someone was stuck in a similar situation or was on the other side, can you give any guess as to what happened.
What could make someone who was in love (I'm sure) do that? Was he scared (he had never been so seriously involved) or maybe I insulted him in some way or did something he didn't like. But he never shared or remarked to me. Or maybe he thinks it will hinder his career, even though my job takes a lot of time. He said the reason was that I shouldn't blame myself, even though I don't think so. I'm sure there's no other woman, at least not yet. I had no suspicions or reason for that. Thank you What could make someone who was in love (I'm sure) do that? Was he scared (he had never been so seriously involved) or maybe I insulted him in some way or did something he didn't like. But he never shared or remarked to me. Or maybe he thinks it will hinder his career, even though my job takes a lot of time.
He said the reason was that I shouldn't blame myself, even though I don't think so. I'm sure there's no other woman, at least not yet. I had no suspicions or reason for that. Thank you What could make someone who was in love (I'm sure) do that? Was he scared (he had never been so seriously involved) or maybe I insulted him in some way or did something he didn't like. But he never shared or remarked to me. Or maybe he thinks it will hinder his career, even though my job takes a lot of time. He said the reason was that I shouldn't blame myself, even though I don't think so. I'm sure there's no other woman, at least not yet. I had no suspicions or reason for that. Thank you But he never shared or remarked to me. Or maybe he thinks it will hinder his career, even though my job takes a lot of time.
He said the reason was that I shouldn't blame myself, even though I don't think so. I'm sure there's no other woman, at least not yet. I had no suspicions or reason for that. Thank you But he never shared or remarked to me. Or maybe he thinks it will hinder his career, even though my job takes a lot of time. He said the reason was that I shouldn't blame myself, even though I don't think so. I'm sure there's no other woman, at least not yet. I had no suspicions or reason for that. Thank you
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I think he's scared (or wants some time for him, as selfish as it sounds) men are like that, leave him a little without bothering him. He needs time to evaluate. When you don't see each other for a while, you'll miss him. In my opinion, things are not over! Success!
You are obviously very intelligent. I'm a man and I liked your story. I have a high school education and I was impressed by this: It's like watching an English movie about Princess Diana. You want to live this life very complicated. I told you not to show off in your personal and professional life, and I have the feeling that you comply with your environment. Wind it. Take a vacation. Go somewhere where no one knows you. Relax. Enough with these family meetings. He said he was ordinary. What makes you more extraordinary than him. Get to know him. For example, he can love beans and then fart. I am not writing nonsense to you, although my opinion is: Your man is a selfish person. If he is about 40 years old and has never been married, he cannot live with a woman. You need a foreign husband. Do not give up.
Gospodiiiiiiiiii !!! Find it! Talk! And you let him go just like that ??? Maybe this is the MAN for you. Do what you have to do and even do what you shouldn't, but don't do nothing. Do everything but get it back. At least I would. Do not accept it as humiliation, but accept it as a struggle. Fight for your love.
And I think he was afraid that things were going very seriously. Have you talked about marriage before, children? what is his opinion on this issue? let him feel a little free, unencumbered, I think he will come back to you alone. Success!
If he's about 40 and an old bachelor, he's probably scared. Or he may have met another. I did the same as I met another. My conscience still bites.
I'm more or less a woman than you. I can't tell you what happened - I don't know you, I don't know anything about you. I think you will explain some things to yourself. The advice I want to give you is to meet with him and he will answer all the questions you ask yourself and us. I think that after you had a good relationship, at least you owe a sincere explanation. Whatever it is, be strong - no man who runs away or is afraid to love deserves you.
In my opinion, he was either interested in you, he felt something, otherwise he would be bored and when he settled down and satiated he decided that he no longer needed you, that he was not interested in you and he left. .this is one reason in my opinion .. The other .. which is worse is that he fell in love..don't forget one rule - everything around us changes and changes constantly - I believe in one thing - that - the only sure thing is the change! So, based on this, it is quite possible that a smile or a look may have accidentally changed his life all of a sudden, let him feel something new ... so dear ... no matter how cruel the truth. ..maybe it is this..he just fell in love..the reason is another woman..to leave so categorically .... there is no other truth ... there can be no..after everything was so good between you .... SUCCESS AND HEAD UP ...
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Why be naughty? It's great. Drop it. Does not deserve you! There are other men
Thank you for the answers. He's obviously really a coward and selfish, and I thought he was the greatest man in the world. This weekend it happened that we were together in the mountains (we are members of the same tourist association), with about 40 other people. We've always walked together, walked side by side, and so on. This time he avoided me, afraid to be alone with me, as if I would do something to him. I keep cool, and only two weeks ago we shared a bed. And the truth is, I didn't do anything to him. Anyway, I didn't bother him, I only talked to him when he decided to tell me something. In the end, he just said goodbye to me, like everyone else, and that was it. I don't know what happened to this man. How another person suddenly woke up. The one I knew disappeared in one day. Tell me, do I have to feel guilty about something? Is the reason for this attitude in me?
Who knows, he may have used you or you may be unclean, or there may be another, or he may have been scared ... One thing is for sure - he did not love you! Stick it in your head and forget it! Mine caught me in infidelity and forgave me because he loves me, understand! He looked after me, pampered me, cooked and cleaned, gave me a car, looked after my child from the previous marriage, took me on vacations and trips, and I got bored and caught a lover. And he forgave me, it's love, I won't look at anyone else.
I understand you completely. But you answered yourself. Very good is not good. There are people who are used to unhappiness or complexes of some kind and happiness frightens them that it will stop at an unknown moment when they do not expect it to hurt them, so they prefer to put an end to this agony - the fear of the end of happiness. . I think so. I was treated in a similar way, but I never understood the specific reason. There may have been. I do the same with my partner when he is terribly happy, but not only through me, but I punish him so that he understands that without me he would not be completely happy. I don't know, it's subconscious. He probably doesn't know either.